Guest guest Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 Last summer nada was in an extreme depression and couldn't get off the couch. At one point, she mentioned wanting to go be with the Lord so she could " just rest. " We hadn't heard her say that before and weren't really sure what to do. A long time ago she made my family and I promise not to ever admit her to a hospital. I think she could have benefitted from a hospital stay but I wasn't going to put her there without the support of my family and my dad and one sibling were not willing to break their promise to her. She is pretty HF when she's doing well. Have you tried to hospitalize your BP parent? If so, how did it turn out? How did you come to the conclusion that hospitalization was the right choice? Were all of your family members in agreement? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 You can only initiate a hospitalization when she is a danger to herself or others. It's called a 5150 in psych terms. " Should " you hospitalize her is a totally different story. She is an adult and is the only one who can make that decision. That is, unless she is a danger to herself or others. If you can't determine whether she is a danger to herself or others, you could have a mental health clinician determine that. Not sure how good the police actually with these types of determinations. A 5150 can be pretty tricky, IMO. Usually they occur when the person is a danger to others. That's easier to determine. Annie 2 > > Last summer nada was in an extreme depression and couldn't get off the couch. At one point, she mentioned wanting to go be with the Lord so she could " just rest. " We hadn't heard her say that before and weren't really sure what to do. A long time ago she made my family and I promise not to ever admit her to a hospital. I think she could have benefitted from a hospital stay but I wasn't going to put her there without the support of my family and my dad and one sibling were not willing to break their promise to her. She is pretty HF when she's doing well. Have you tried to hospitalize your BP parent? If so, how did it turn out? How did you come to the conclusion that hospitalization was the right choice? Were all of your family members in agreement? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 I'd leave that to her doctor. You can support the doctor's stance and do what you can (and what nada will allow) to suppport the doctor's position. It doesn't sound like your nada is willing to listen to the doctor. So in that case, I'd set boundaries and continue to tell her you can help her if and only if she lets you speak to the doctor or even follows doctors orders. Otherwise, I would disengage. I'm just guessing but it sounds like you have a waif nada. I say that because the queen/witch nadas usually inspire a no contact relationship while the waif nadas inspire more of a caretaking attitude. Both are bad. But if you know you have a waif, it will help you to set boundaries. You will know that guilt is a constant issue and learn to control your guilt feelings and make her responsible for her own choices. On Sat, Apr 9, 2011 at 8:39 AM, CA Annie wrote: > > > You can only initiate a hospitalization when she is a danger to herself or > others. It's called a 5150 in psych terms. " Should " you hospitalize her is a > totally different story. She is an adult and is the only one who can make > that decision. That is, unless she is a danger to herself or others. If you > can't determine whether she is a danger to herself or others, you could have > a mental health clinician determine that. Not sure how good the police > actually with these types of determinations. A 5150 can be pretty tricky, > IMO. Usually they occur when the person is a danger to others. That's easier > to determine. Annie 2 > > > > > > Last summer nada was in an extreme depression and couldn't get off the > couch. At one point, she mentioned wanting to go be with the Lord so she > could " just rest. " We hadn't heard her say that before and weren't really > sure what to do. A long time ago she made my family and I promise not to > ever admit her to a hospital. I think she could have benefitted from a > hospital stay but I wasn't going to put her there without the support of my > family and my dad and one sibling were not willing to break their promise to > her. She is pretty HF when she's doing well. Have you tried to hospitalize > your BP parent? If so, how did it turn out? How did you come to the > conclusion that hospitalization was the right choice? Were all of your > family members in agreement? > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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