Re: Negative Nellies/Had to post certain times reminds me of nada

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She is negative with everyone not just me and we have been close but I think

less time together is probably the answer. That way it isn't as bad when we are

together but she has a problem with men and she admits that but told me today

when I bought eyeliner, what are you putting on your war paint to go man

hunting? WHAT THE " F " ? I mention a guy at them gym was nice looking and she said

I was like her cousin, man crazy. Now she is NOT bpd but that is stuff my nada

would have said to me then I feel the resentment building up inside so I think

to myself just do not say anything about men, don't be around her shopping for

girly things because she is not comfortable with girly stuff but then I think

well she can complain left and right to me about her husband and son and their

creepy friends, her words not mine, but I buy eyeliner and make a comment about

a guy and I have to change my behavior to be around her?

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> > I have a friend, not bpd but was raised by one and she suffers certain

> > effects as we do but everything out of her mouth is negative or sarcastic.

> > Please do not get me wrong, she has been good to me and I have been good to

> > her and love her very much but I find myself just not wanting to be around

> > her that much. Alot of things she says, I know she got from her bpd father

> > on views of the world and it was because she was never validated as a kid

> > and made feel stupid. Here husband bought her a book for Xmas a few years

> > back explainig how negative her view of the world is and she was very

> > offended. Any advice?

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