Re: dealing with my teen daughter - GirlScout, Lynn, Katrina

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> >It's been hard for me lately to deal with my teen daughter.

> >She's 13.

> >She's really a great kid--very bright, funny, good at making

> >and keeping friends (the reason I point that last one out is

> >because I was and am not good at that).

> >

> >She's definitely going through that rolling the eyes/attitude

> >thing. THAT part doesn't bother me so much. I get that. It's

> >normal.

> >

> >The part that's hard for me is I feel like I'm losing her. I

> >know part of adolescence is the whole individuation and

> >separation thing, but it's easier to see it in black and white

> >than it is to do it. You'd think I'd get this more easily b/c

> >it's been my banner all my life... " I AM MY OWN PERSON. GIVE ME

> >MY SPACE. BACK OFF. " But she and I have always been close,

> >buddies. And now when I come home from work, she barely says

> >hello, goes right into her room to text and aim and whatever.

> >-

> >I just feel very rejected and insignificant in her life.

> >

> >The other part of it, that I feel very small about is, I feel

> >jealous of her. The adolescent in me is jealous of how popular

> >she is and how much more fun SHE'S having than I did at her

> >age...and truth be told, than I'm having now. I suck. I just

> >feel like crap being bitchy to her when she asks to go to a

> >birthday party or a basketball game. I just feel my chest

> >constricting... " she's leaving again. " And it feels like

> >horrible BPD fleas of abandonment are crawling all over me. I

> >need to get over this, I know that.

> >

> >I still do feel like there has to be a balance. She'd like

> >nothing better than to do something with friends Fri nite/Sat

> >nite/Sun nite. I'm insisting on family time, too. It's just

> >too much, I feel. And then she's talking about how her friends

> >are " dating " boys. At 13?? My fear is she expects this to be

> >true for her as well. I just feel like a sentry trying to

> >protect a castle.

> >

> >Again, thanks for listening. I'd ask a question but don't

> >really know what I'm asking or if I'm asking anything.

>

> --

> Katrina

>

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You're welcome... GirlScout and I will be outback smokin' a peace pipe and

downing Peyote Buttons... come join when you're ready.

Lynnette

> > >It's been hard for me lately to deal with my teen daughter.

> > >She's 13.

> > >She's really a great kid--very bright, funny, good at making

> > >and keeping friends (the reason I point that last one out is

> > >because I was and am not good at that).

> > >

> > >She's definitely going through that rolling the eyes/attitude

> > >thing. THAT part doesn't bother me so much. I get that. It's

> > >normal.

> > >

> > >The part that's hard for me is I feel like I'm losing her. I

> > >know part of adolescence is the whole individuation and

> > >separation thing, but it's easier to see it in black and white

> > >than it is to do it. You'd think I'd get this more easily b/c

> > >it's been my banner all my life... " I AM MY OWN PERSON. GIVE ME

> > >MY SPACE. BACK OFF. " But she and I have always been close,

> > >buddies. And now when I come home from work, she barely says

> > >hello, goes right into her room to text and aim and whatever.

> > >-

> > >I just feel very rejected and insignificant in her life.

> > >

> > >The other part of it, that I feel very small about is, I feel

> > >jealous of her. The adolescent in me is jealous of how popular

> > >she is and how much more fun SHE'S having than I did at her

> > >age...and truth be told, than I'm having now. I suck. I just

> > >feel like crap being bitchy to her when she asks to go to a

> > >birthday party or a basketball game. I just feel my chest

> > >constricting... " she's leaving again. " And it feels like

> > >horrible BPD fleas of abandonment are crawling all over me. I

> > >need to get over this, I know that.

> > >

> > >I still do feel like there has to be a balance. She'd like

> > >nothing better than to do something with friends Fri nite/Sat

> > >nite/Sun nite. I'm insisting on family time, too. It's just

> > >too much, I feel. And then she's talking about how her friends

> > >are " dating " boys. At 13?? My fear is she expects this to be

> > >true for her as well. I just feel like a sentry trying to

> > >protect a castle.

> > >

> > >Again, thanks for listening. I'd ask a question but don't

> > >really know what I'm asking or if I'm asking anything.

> >

> > --

> > Katrina

> >

>

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Peyote and peace pipes - I can probably get ahold of both for our party!

They are local to my area. HA HA HA HA

Oh and hugs Fiona!!!!

On Sat, Apr 16, 2011 at 1:25 PM, yp_lynnette_cameron_park <

h_l_maston@...> wrote:

>

>

> You're welcome... GirlScout and I will be outback smokin' a peace pipe and

> downing Peyote Buttons... come join when you're ready.

>

> Lynnette

>

>

>

> > > >It's been hard for me lately to deal with my teen daughter.

> > > >She's 13.

> > > >She's really a great kid--very bright, funny, good at making

> > > >and keeping friends (the reason I point that last one out is

> > > >because I was and am not good at that).

> > > >

> > > >She's definitely going through that rolling the eyes/attitude

> > > >thing. THAT part doesn't bother me so much. I get that. It's

> > > >normal.

> > > >

> > > >The part that's hard for me is I feel like I'm losing her. I

> > > >know part of adolescence is the whole individuation and

> > > >separation thing, but it's easier to see it in black and white

> > > >than it is to do it. You'd think I'd get this more easily b/c

> > > >it's been my banner all my life... " I AM MY OWN PERSON. GIVE ME

> > > >MY SPACE. BACK OFF. " But she and I have always been close,

> > > >buddies. And now when I come home from work, she barely says

> > > >hello, goes right into her room to text and aim and whatever.

> > > >-

> > > >I just feel very rejected and insignificant in her life.

> > > >

> > > >The other part of it, that I feel very small about is, I feel

> > > >jealous of her. The adolescent in me is jealous of how popular

> > > >she is and how much more fun SHE'S having than I did at her

> > > >age...and truth be told, than I'm having now. I suck. I just

> > > >feel like crap being bitchy to her when she asks to go to a

> > > >birthday party or a basketball game. I just feel my chest

> > > >constricting... " she's leaving again. " And it feels like

> > > >horrible BPD fleas of abandonment are crawling all over me. I

> > > >need to get over this, I know that.

> > > >

> > > >I still do feel like there has to be a balance. She'd like

> > > >nothing better than to do something with friends Fri nite/Sat

> > > >nite/Sun nite. I'm insisting on family time, too. It's just

> > > >too much, I feel. And then she's talking about how her friends

> > > >are " dating " boys. At 13?? My fear is she expects this to be

> > > >true for her as well. I just feel like a sentry trying to

> > > >protect a castle.

> > > >

> > > >Again, thanks for listening. I'd ask a question but don't

> > > >really know what I'm asking or if I'm asking anything.

> > >

> > > --

> > > Katrina

> > >

> >

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