an insightful article about PTSD in the adult survivors of child abuse

[Guest guest]

Here is the link to this article (which has no " by line " but was posted by

someone using the name " Skittles " ) which I think has a lot of succinctly-put

insights about why it is exactly that its such a wrongness, such a tragedy for

children to be raised by parents who are *not capable* of good-enough parenting:

in other words, parents with personality disorder (or substance abusers.)

http://adultsurvivors.blogspot.com/

Here is an excerpt:

" ...Suppose that in the midst of a tornado a child sought comfort and protection

from his parents and was told, " What tornado? It's a beautiful day...Go outside

and play. " That's how crazy and unsafe the world seems to some children. Some

survivors have tried to tell the truth about the abuse and were called liars or

accused of being responsible for the abuser's behavior.

When a victim or survivor is disbelieved, shamed, threatened into silence, or

when the disclosure is minimized or becomes cause for punishment, the trauma

inflicted by willful ignorance compounds the original trauma. Children can

withstand a lot with the help of other people; conversely, the denial or

rejection of children's normal thoughts and feelings about trauma can cause as

much pain as the original trauma. "

-Annie

[Guest guest]

That's exactly what I needed now--thank you Annie

On Thu, Apr 21, 2011 at 11:19 AM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> Here is the link to this article (which has no " by line " but was posted by

> someone using the name " Skittles " ) which I think has a lot of succinctly-put

> insights about why it is exactly that its such a wrongness, such a tragedy

> for children to be raised by parents who are *not capable* of good-enough

> parenting: in other words, parents with personality disorder (or substance

> abusers.)

>

> http://adultsurvivors.blogspot.com/

>

> Here is an excerpt:

>

> " ...Suppose that in the midst of a tornado a child sought comfort and

> protection from his parents and was told, " What tornado? It's a beautiful

> day...Go outside and play. " That's how crazy and unsafe the world seems to

> some children. Some survivors have tried to tell the truth about the abuse

> and were called liars or accused of being responsible for the abuser's

> behavior.

>

> When a victim or survivor is disbelieved, shamed, threatened into silence,

> or when the disclosure is minimized or becomes cause for punishment, the

> trauma inflicted by willful ignorance compounds the original trauma.

> Children can withstand a lot with the help of other people; conversely, the

> denial or rejection of children's normal thoughts and feelings about trauma

> can cause as much pain as the original trauma. "

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Just read it.

Yep. There's my life.

Lynnette

>

> Here is the link to this article (which has no " by line " but was posted by

someone using the name " Skittles " ) which I think has a lot of succinctly-put

insights about why it is exactly that its such a wrongness, such a tragedy for

children to be raised by parents who are *not capable* of good-enough parenting:

in other words, parents with personality disorder (or substance abusers.)

>

> http://adultsurvivors.blogspot.com/

>

>

> Here is an excerpt:

>

> " ...Suppose that in the midst of a tornado a child sought comfort and

protection from his parents and was told, " What tornado? It's a beautiful

day...Go outside and play. " That's how crazy and unsafe the world seems to some

children. Some survivors have tried to tell the truth about the abuse and were

called liars or accused of being responsible for the abuser's behavior.

>

> When a victim or survivor is disbelieved, shamed, threatened into silence, or

when the disclosure is minimized or becomes cause for punishment, the trauma

inflicted by willful ignorance compounds the original trauma. Children can

withstand a lot with the help of other people; conversely, the denial or

rejection of children's normal thoughts and feelings about trauma can cause as

much pain as the original trauma. "

>

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing this article, Annie. A damaged and unattached child may

develop a " false self. " To compensate for the enormous deficits in identity and

attachment, the child invents his or her own personality. With serious BPD

parental abuse, the child's brain chemistry may change. The child dissociates --

that is, disconnects from his or her being -- in order to cope. But as an adult,

aware now of the past and continuing abuse, one can seek a mind-body connection,

to re-associate with one's true (or new) self! Suggested site:

http://naturalhealthperspective.com/resilience/mind-body-connection.html

Cheers,

> >

> > Here is the link to this article (which has no " by line " but was posted by

someone using the name " Skittles " ) which I think has a lot of succinctly-put

insights about why it is exactly that its such a wrongness, such a tragedy for

children to be raised by parents who are *not capable* of good-enough parenting:

in other words, parents with personality disorder (or substance abusers.)

> >

> > http://adultsurvivors.blogspot.com/

> >

> >

> > Here is an excerpt:

> >

> > " ...Suppose that in the midst of a tornado a child sought comfort and

protection from his parents and was told, " What tornado? It's a beautiful

day...Go outside and play. " That's how crazy and unsafe the world seems to some

children. Some survivors have tried to tell the truth about the abuse and were

called liars or accused of being responsible for the abuser's behavior.

> >

> > When a victim or survivor is disbelieved, shamed, threatened into silence,

or when the disclosure is minimized or becomes cause for punishment, the trauma

inflicted by willful ignorance compounds the original trauma. Children can

withstand a lot with the help of other people; conversely, the denial or

rejection of children's normal thoughts and feelings about trauma can cause as

much pain as the original trauma. "

> >

> >

> > -Annie

> >

>

[Guest guest]

regretfully the whole article summed up my whole life....although the memory is

still blank and missing (ie still to be recalled)...s i guess that means i must

be a walking-talking-ptsd?

i found myself desperately hoping/wondering if there was any possible nicer

explanation for having a life fit the PTSD symptomology, but without the reason

the article refers to...

ie " it looks right, it reads right, but becasue I can't remember it, maybe

theres a plausible explanation for all the weird stuff that is not PTSD???

I'm super-fooling myself right?!???