Guest guest Posted April 24, 2011 Report Share Posted April 24, 2011 Has any of your nadas/fadas ever just sent you some random package with no explination at all? I've been avoiding nada's calls for months (for years if I really want to be honest with myself) and communicate minimally via email. This weekend a big envelope shows up with my tap costume in it from when I was 12. No note. But she also took the time to send an Easter card separately just signed " Love, Mom. " It also had a separate piece of paper inside quoting Whoopi Goldberg " You can say whatever you want about me, but talk about my daughter and I'll beat your ass up. " What the h??? I guess some folks might say it's sweet, but I think it's just weird. I have no attachments to Easter or that costume. They'll both end up in the recycling bin/donation pile. What a waste. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2011 Report Share Posted April 26, 2011 There may be some attachment to the idea of you when you were very young and she remembers. Perhaps she would dress you up. My nada used to go on, and on about that...at least she did before I stopped talking with her completely. There is something about obsessing on that time when you couldn't talk back and she had complete control. My nada's favorite story was when I was five and she dressed me up to go and play with the neighbor's little boy...and how I never liked dresses so she had to put pants on me. I am not five, I don't remember those things...but for her it's some weird trip down bpd memory lane...I read something about how it's very common. My brother said it reminded him of an episode of Criminal Minds. P.S. My mother used to mail boxes of thrift store clothes, old clothes with holes in them. I used to walk the package down to the salvation army. Thank goodness that finally stopped. ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Sun, April 24, 2011 12:04:05 PM Subject: Weird packages? Has any of your nadas/fadas ever just sent you some random package with no explination at all? I've been avoiding nada's calls for months (for years if I really want to be honest with myself) and communicate minimally via email. This weekend a big envelope shows up with my tap costume in it from when I was 12. No note. But she also took the time to send an Easter card separately just signed " Love, Mom. " It also had a separate piece of paper inside quoting Whoopi Goldberg " You can say whatever you want about me, but talk about my daughter and I'll beat your ass up. " What the h??? I guess some folks might say it's sweet, but I think it's just weird. I have no attachments to Easter or that costume. They'll both end up in the recycling bin/donation pile. What a waste. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2011 Report Share Posted April 26, 2011 Yikes!! Sounds like she's trying to guilt you in the weirdest way possible. I agree, sounds like a weird trip down BP memory lane! haha! I'm NC with my nada, and she doesn't send packages (yet), but I've had similar experiences. I think my nada had a hard time realizing that I was growing up and wouldn't be her minion forever. Once when I was in my late teens she put a picture of me and her when I was a child on my bed along with a children's book (uhhh...). Very creepy. I tried my best to avoid shopping with her (one of the worst blowups ever was prom dress shopping), but once she bought me this heinous (and expensive) ballgown and absolutely forced me to put it on in front of her so she could look at me. It was sick and disturbing. Nadas like their kids best before they start showing independence...so perhaps in her twisted mind she thinks sending you a childhood costume will remind you (as it reminded her) of when your relationship was nice and normal and you were innocent and oh, if only things could be that way again if you weren't sure a terrible daughter. Hmm. It's guuuuilt and very, very creepy. Ah, the bizarre behaviors of BPs. - Cvidzz > > Has any of your nadas/fadas ever just sent you some random package with no explination at all? > I've been avoiding nada's calls for months (for years if I really want to be honest with myself) and communicate minimally via email. This weekend a big envelope shows up with my tap costume in it from when I was 12. No note. But she also took the time to send an Easter card separately just signed " Love, Mom. " It also had a separate piece of paper inside quoting Whoopi Goldberg " You can say whatever you want about me, but talk about my daughter and I'll beat your ass up. " > What the h??? I guess some folks might say it's sweet, but I think it's just weird. I have no attachments to Easter or that costume. They'll both end up in the recycling bin/donation pile. What a waste. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2011 Report Share Posted April 29, 2011 Yes ma'am my nada was always getting up with the weird gifts. She even took my childhood toys and taunted the dog with them so that I had to watch them being destroyed - and then mailed me the remains. UGGGGH Sick, sick woman. > > > Yikes!! Sounds like she's trying to guilt you in the weirdest way possible. > I agree, sounds like a weird trip down BP memory lane! haha! I'm NC with my > nada, and she doesn't send packages (yet), but I've had similar experiences. > > > I think my nada had a hard time realizing that I was growing up and > wouldn't be her minion forever. Once when I was in my late teens she put a > picture of me and her when I was a child on my bed along with a children's > book (uhhh...). Very creepy. I tried my best to avoid shopping with her (one > of the worst blowups ever was prom dress shopping), but once she bought me > this heinous (and expensive) ballgown and absolutely forced me to put it on > in front of her so she could look at me. It was sick and disturbing. > > Nadas like their kids best before they start showing independence...so > perhaps in her twisted mind she thinks sending you a childhood costume will > remind you (as it reminded her) of when your relationship was nice and > normal and you were innocent and oh, if only things could be that way again > if you weren't sure a terrible daughter. Hmm. It's guuuuilt and very, very > creepy. > > Ah, the bizarre behaviors of BPs. > > - Cvidzz > > > > > > > Has any of your nadas/fadas ever just sent you some random package with > no explination at all? > > I've been avoiding nada's calls for months (for years if I really want to > be honest with myself) and communicate minimally via email. This weekend a > big envelope shows up with my tap costume in it from when I was 12. No note. > But she also took the time to send an Easter card separately just signed > " Love, Mom. " It also had a separate piece of paper inside quoting Whoopi > Goldberg " You can say whatever you want about me, but talk about my daughter > and I'll beat your ass up. " > > What the h??? I guess some folks might say it's sweet, but I think it's > just weird. I have no attachments to Easter or that costume. They'll both > end up in the recycling bin/donation pile. What a waste. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2011 Report Share Posted April 29, 2011 I just had an " aha " moment about the non-communication part of this original question. It had to do with why just send a childhood artifact out of the blue? No note, nothing. No indication of why this item is coming your way (are you being blindsided?)...here is my take. My bpd nada believes there is some cosmic connecting link between her brain and my brain. I should know telepathically what she is thinking. She cannot discern the difference between her thinking and the real world. My brother calls it " the bubble " and I think that's a great way to visually separate. It's insanity so don't get drawn into it, like I did most of my adult life. P.S Girlscout, my mother sold all my childhood memories. Part of me thinks, good riddance but it also makes me feel very sad. I miss any happy connection with my past. ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Fri, April 29, 2011 6:19:43 AM Subject: Re: Re: Weird packages? Yes ma'am my nada was always getting up with the weird gifts. She even took my childhood toys and taunted the dog with them so that I had to watch them being destroyed - and then mailed me the remains. UGGGGH Sick, sick woman. > > > Yikes!! Sounds like she's trying to guilt you in the weirdest way possible. > I agree, sounds like a weird trip down BP memory lane! haha! I'm NC with my > nada, and she doesn't send packages (yet), but I've had similar experiences. > > > I think my nada had a hard time realizing that I was growing up and > wouldn't be her minion forever. Once when I was in my late teens she put a > picture of me and her when I was a child on my bed along with a children's > book (uhhh...). Very creepy. I tried my best to avoid shopping with her (one > of the worst blowups ever was prom dress shopping), but once she bought me > this heinous (and expensive) ballgown and absolutely forced me to put it on > in front of her so she could look at me. It was sick and disturbing. > > Nadas like their kids best before they start showing independence...so > perhaps in her twisted mind she thinks sending you a childhood costume will > remind you (as it reminded her) of when your relationship was nice and > normal and you were innocent and oh, if only things could be that way again > if you weren't sure a terrible daughter. Hmm. It's guuuuilt and very, very > creepy. > > Ah, the bizarre behaviors of BPs. > > - Cvidzz > > > > > > > Has any of your nadas/fadas ever just sent you some random package with > no explination at all? > > I've been avoiding nada's calls for months (for years if I really want to > be honest with myself) and communicate minimally via email. This weekend a > big envelope shows up with my tap costume in it from when I was 12. No note. > But she also took the time to send an Easter card separately just signed > " Love, Mom. " It also had a separate piece of paper inside quoting Whoopi > Goldberg " You can say whatever you want about me, but talk about my daughter > and I'll beat your ass up. " > > What the h??? I guess some folks might say it's sweet, but I think it's > just weird. I have no attachments to Easter or that costume. They'll both > end up in the recycling bin/donation pile. What a waste. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2011 Report Share Posted April 30, 2011 Not sweet. Weird. and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! > > > > > > Has any of your nadas/fadas ever just sent you some random package with > > no explination at all? > > > I've been avoiding nada's calls for months (for years if I really want to > > be honest with myself) and communicate minimally via email. This weekend a > > big envelope shows up with my tap costume in it from when I was 12. No note. > > But she also took the time to send an Easter card separately just signed > > " Love, Mom. " It also had a separate piece of paper inside quoting Whoopi > > Goldberg " You can say whatever you want about me, but talk about my daughter > > and I'll beat your ass up. " > > > What the h??? I guess some folks might say it's sweet, but I think it's > > just weird. I have no attachments to Easter or that costume. They'll both > > end up in the recycling bin/donation pile. What a waste. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2011 Report Share Posted May 1, 2011 Weird packages, been there done that, even gotten weird packages from nada's monkeys! Especially when they drop them off at work, now that person is referred to as the creepy clown lady because she was creepy and she dropped off what she claimed to be dad's clowns which I had NEVER seen in my life and were in awfully good condition to have been his. (he had been deceased for 7 years) proflaf Subject: Re: Weird packages? To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Saturday, April 30, 2011, 9:57 PM  Not sweet. Weird. and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! > > > > > > Has any of your nadas/fadas ever just sent you some random package with > > no explination at all? > > > I've been avoiding nada's calls for months (for years if I really want to > > be honest with myself) and communicate minimally via email. This weekend a > > big envelope shows up with my tap costume in it from when I was 12. No note. > > But she also took the time to send an Easter card separately just signed > > " Love, Mom. " It also had a separate piece of paper inside quoting Whoopi > > Goldberg " You can say whatever you want about me, but talk about my daughter > > and I'll beat your ass up. " > > > What the h??? I guess some folks might say it's sweet, but I think it's > > just weird. I have no attachments to Easter or that costume. They'll both > > end up in the recycling bin/donation pile. What a waste. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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