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I have recived several packages from my nada that i've been NC with for 5

years.  She first started sending me 'anonymous' mail. They were poems about

daughters loving their mothers. She would have someone else address them to me

so i wouldn't recogonize her handwritting, also no return address. She also

started sending my daughter gifts and she would put them on the front porch. It

would be expensive clothing for her. My husband and i would pull up and see a

package on the door step and joke that the " gift fairy " had visited again. My

therpist always said to be aware of gifts from her b/c they came with strings

attached. My mom would always use her gifts as a way to get me to make up with

her and have her back in my life. Then, she would use those gifts as

leverage---when she would rage at me she would say things like " how dare you

treat me this way and not speak to me you ungrateful bitch and here i've bought

all that nice stuff for your child. " The last thing she did was after about 2

years of NC out of nowhere, she gathered up all of my stuff from childhood and

high school and dumped it on my front porch. I always ignore these kinds of

" bait " tactics by her. My T told me that the gift giving/packages/odd mail was

very common for BPD's...