HELP- fada wants to meet me and break NC. What to do?

[Guest guest]

My one year anniversary of NC came around Easter time. My fada sent me a text

message to wish me a happy Easter, and asked when is he going to see me. I told

him that I had no problem seeing him, but I do not want to see my nada. I have

zero desire to reconcile with her. He then tells me that I am wrong about not

wanting to see my nada and how " other mothers do the same thing but why are they

forgiven and I am not? " (this is referring to my mother in law, whom is nice to

me and my nada hates that).

Anyways, my fada calls me last night to tell me he wants to have dinner with me

next week. I say yes, but I am a little apprehensive. He not only is a " flying

monkey " but the head of the flying monkeys! Because my nada was a Witch

( Lawson's book. I HATE confrontation and I am fearful that all this

meeting will be about is how I am a horrible daughter and how I need to respect

my mother, blah blah blah.

I know I shouldnt but I see my fada as an abused wife who is fearful to make his

own decisions. I know that my nada most likely set up this meeting to " get

informatiion " and because I feel sorry for my fada, who never protected me from

her, I am fearful that I will feel sorry for him and revert back to that 10 year

old scared little girl who doesnt stand up for herself.

Any advice?? Greatly appreciated!! Thanks!

AJ