BPD Dad Is Starting to Scare Me

[Guest guest]

For the past few weeks everything between me and my father have been fine and

we've actually been talking like two adults. I fell for it again and got

excited that maybe this time he'd stay normal... But yesterday he literally

woke up hating me. His anger is so strong that you can feel it when he walks

by. I overheard him yesterday talking down to my mother and yelling at her. He

always hides it from me but it was so quiet in the house I could hear this time.

Suddenly, he refuses to talk to both my mother and me. I've NEVER seen him

silent before. It's like he's so angry that he's off planning something in his

mind, but there's no way to prepare for what could come because he's so crazy.

My mother accidentally found $100+ in cash and the key to his bedroom hidden

underneath the towel that his gun sits on. The gun has always been there but

what bothers me is the money... WHY put it under a gun?? Why not a closet,

dresser, or bathroom drawer or something? WHY under a gun???

Ever since I saw him yesterday when he refused to talk to me, I've been feeling

like all this stuff is about to happen that he's going to cause. I hope they

have nothing to do with each other... a few weeks ago he came in my room and

said to me, " I've been having this doom & gloom feeling like something really

bad is going to happen to you. I don't know why, just been having this feeling.

You know, if anyone ever killed you no one would ever come looking for you. "

Then he walked out.

I can honestly say this is the first time he's ever scared me. I've been able

to gauge where he is, read him like a book and stay involved enough to keep him

at bay... but now... He's in this dark cloud all by himself and there's no

telling what he's going to do. I'm starting to wonder if he needs to be

committed to a mental hospital.

What's your take on this situation?

[Guest guest]

I would be nervous too. He's trying to scare you I think. I couldn't live with

such a person.

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BPD Dad Is Starting to Scare Me

For the past few weeks everything between me and my father have been fine and

we've actually been talking like two adults. I fell for it again and got

excited that maybe this time he'd stay normal... But yesterday he literally

woke up hating me. His anger is so strong that you can feel it when he walks

by. I overheard him yesterday talking down to my mother and yelling at her. He

always hides it from me but it was so quiet in the house I could hear this time.

Suddenly, he refuses to talk to both my mother and me. I've NEVER seen him

silent before. It's like he's so angry that he's off planning something in his

mind, but there's no way to prepare for what could come because he's so crazy.

My mother accidentally found $100+ in cash and the key to his bedroom hidden

underneath the towel that his gun sits on. The gun has always been there but

what bothers me is the money... WHY put it under a gun?? Why not a closet,

dresser, or bathroom drawer or something? WHY under a gun???

Ever since I saw him yesterday when he refused to talk to me, I've been feeling

like all this stuff is about to happen that he's going to cause. I hope they

have nothing to do with each other... a few weeks ago he came in my room and

said to me, " I've been having this doom & gloom feeling like something really

bad is going to happen to you. I don't know why, just been having this feeling.

You know, if anyone ever killed you no one would ever come looking for you. "

Then he walked out.

I can honestly say this is the first time he's ever scared me. I've been able

to gauge where he is, read him like a book and stay involved enough to keep him

at bay... but now... He's in this dark cloud all by himself and there's no

telling what he's going to do. I'm starting to wonder if he needs to be

committed to a mental hospital.

What's your take on this situation?

[Guest guest]

That doesn't sounds incredibly scary. Can you move out any time soon? I'd do

it ASAP, find a group of friends and rent an apt with them. With that kind

of mood, with a GUN (even if he's always had it) and...it sounds so scary!

Have you talked with your mom about it?

Or to friends? Talk with a friend's parent or something...in case you have

to move out suddenly if you can stay with them until you can get an

apartment lined up or something. It really sounds like you ought to move out

asap!

On Sun, May 1, 2011 at 1:15 PM, sweetsoulmusic09 <sweetsoulmusic09@...

> wrote:

>

>

> For the past few weeks everything between me and my father have been fine

> and we've actually been talking like two adults. I fell for it again and got

> excited that maybe this time he'd stay normal... But yesterday he literally

> woke up hating me. His anger is so strong that you can feel it when he walks

> by. I overheard him yesterday talking down to my mother and yelling at her.

> He always hides it from me but it was so quiet in the house I could hear

> this time. Suddenly, he refuses to talk to both my mother and me. I've NEVER

> seen him silent before. It's like he's so angry that he's off planning

> something in his mind, but there's no way to prepare for what could come

> because he's so crazy. My mother accidentally found $100+ in cash and the

> key to his bedroom hidden underneath the towel that his gun sits on. The gun

> has always been there but what bothers me is the money... WHY put it under a

> gun?? Why not a closet, dresser, or bathroom drawer or something? WHY under

> a gun???

>

> Ever since I saw him yesterday when he refused to talk to me, I've been

> feeling like all this stuff is about to happen that he's going to cause. I

> hope they have nothing to do with each other... a few weeks ago he came in

> my room and said to me, " I've been having this doom & gloom feeling like

> something really bad is going to happen to you. I don't know why, just been

> having this feeling. You know, if anyone ever killed you no one would ever

> come looking for you. " Then he walked out.

>

> I can honestly say this is the first time he's ever scared me. I've been

> able to gauge where he is, read him like a book and stay involved enough to

> keep him at bay... but now... He's in this dark cloud all by himself and

> there's no telling what he's going to do. I'm starting to wonder if he needs

> to be committed to a mental hospital.

>

> What's your take on this situation?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think you are right to be frightened; I think you and possibly your mother as

well are in danger.

Your dad is behaving in a very scary, disordered way with this silent rage, and

yet the sane part of him has actually tried to warn you that that " something

bad " is going to happen to you.

The fact that such an angry person keeps a gun handy is very, very alarming.

If I were you, I'd get out of the house and go live somewhere else ASAP with no

warning. Just leave. There are shelters for battered women that are just for

this purpose.

After you leave, see if you can contact your mother (without disclosing your

location) and try to convince her to leave too. My own personal feeling is that

if you try to confront your father about your fears, or if you try to convince

your mother to leave with you and your father is present or learns of this, that

is the " trigger point " that will set the " bad thing " in motion.

Just leave, now. If I'm wrong, if you're wrong, then no harm is done, but if

we're right you are saving your life.

My hopes and prayers for your safety,

-Annie

>

> For the past few weeks everything between me and my father have been fine and

we've actually been talking like two adults. I fell for it again and got

excited that maybe this time he'd stay normal... But yesterday he literally

woke up hating me. His anger is so strong that you can feel it when he walks

by. I overheard him yesterday talking down to my mother and yelling at her. He

always hides it from me but it was so quiet in the house I could hear this time.

Suddenly, he refuses to talk to both my mother and me. I've NEVER seen him

silent before. It's like he's so angry that he's off planning something in his

mind, but there's no way to prepare for what could come because he's so crazy.

My mother accidentally found $100+ in cash and the key to his bedroom hidden

underneath the towel that his gun sits on. The gun has always been there but

what bothers me is the money... WHY put it under a gun?? Why not a closet,

dresser, or bathroom drawer or something? WHY under a gun???

>

> Ever since I saw him yesterday when he refused to talk to me, I've been

feeling like all this stuff is about to happen that he's going to cause. I hope

they have nothing to do with each other... a few weeks ago he came in my room

and said to me, " I've been having this doom & gloom feeling like something

really bad is going to happen to you. I don't know why, just been having this

feeling. You know, if anyone ever killed you no one would ever come looking for

you. " Then he walked out.

>

> I can honestly say this is the first time he's ever scared me. I've been able

to gauge where he is, read him like a book and stay involved enough to keep him

at bay... but now... He's in this dark cloud all by himself and there's no

telling what he's going to do. I'm starting to wonder if he needs to be

committed to a mental hospital.

>

> What's your take on this situation?

>

[Guest guest]

He just came back to the house all bubbly and super happy. Like REALLY happy.

He's laughing at everything and joking around... And will NOT stop talking.

This morning he was scary angry and now he's super happy. I don't get it. It's

literally polar opposite behavior.

>

> For the past few weeks everything between me and my father have been fine and

we've actually been talking like two adults. I fell for it again and got

excited that maybe this time he'd stay normal... But yesterday he literally

woke up hating me. His anger is so strong that you can feel it when he walks

by. I overheard him yesterday talking down to my mother and yelling at her. He

always hides it from me but it was so quiet in the house I could hear this time.

Suddenly, he refuses to talk to both my mother and me. I've NEVER seen him

silent before. It's like he's so angry that he's off planning something in his

mind, but there's no way to prepare for what could come because he's so crazy.

My mother accidentally found $100+ in cash and the key to his bedroom hidden

underneath the towel that his gun sits on. The gun has always been there but

what bothers me is the money... WHY put it under a gun?? Why not a closet,

dresser, or bathroom drawer or something? WHY under a gun???

>

> Ever since I saw him yesterday when he refused to talk to me, I've been

feeling like all this stuff is about to happen that he's going to cause. I hope

they have nothing to do with each other... a few weeks ago he came in my room

and said to me, " I've been having this doom & gloom feeling like something

really bad is going to happen to you. I don't know why, just been having this

feeling. You know, if anyone ever killed you no one would ever come looking for

you. " Then he walked out.

>

> I can honestly say this is the first time he's ever scared me. I've been able

to gauge where he is, read him like a book and stay involved enough to keep him

at bay... but now... He's in this dark cloud all by himself and there's no

telling what he's going to do. I'm starting to wonder if he needs to be

committed to a mental hospital.

>

> What's your take on this situation?

>

[Guest guest]

Do you think your dad may be manic-depressive, aka bipolar? I still think you

are in danger and should leave for the reasons I posted earlier (which for some

reason haven't appeared yet.) The two main reasons are (a) he keeps a loaded

gun handy and ( he actually said to you that he's afraid " somebody " is going

to kill you. I think that's the sane part of him trying to warn you that he's

not completely in control of himself and his rage.

I hope you and your mother will be safe.

-Annie

> >

> > For the past few weeks everything between me and my father have been fine

and we've actually been talking like two adults. I fell for it again and got

excited that maybe this time he'd stay normal... But yesterday he literally

woke up hating me. His anger is so strong that you can feel it when he walks

by. I overheard him yesterday talking down to my mother and yelling at her. He

always hides it from me but it was so quiet in the house I could hear this time.

Suddenly, he refuses to talk to both my mother and me. I've NEVER seen him

silent before. It's like he's so angry that he's off planning something in his

mind, but there's no way to prepare for what could come because he's so crazy.

My mother accidentally found $100+ in cash and the key to his bedroom hidden

underneath the towel that his gun sits on. The gun has always been there but

what bothers me is the money... WHY put it under a gun?? Why not a closet,

dresser, or bathroom drawer or something? WHY under a gun???

> >

> > Ever since I saw him yesterday when he refused to talk to me, I've been

feeling like all this stuff is about to happen that he's going to cause. I hope

they have nothing to do with each other... a few weeks ago he came in my room

and said to me, " I've been having this doom & gloom feeling like something

really bad is going to happen to you. I don't know why, just been having this

feeling. You know, if anyone ever killed you no one would ever come looking for

you. " Then he walked out.

> >

> > I can honestly say this is the first time he's ever scared me. I've been

able to gauge where he is, read him like a book and stay involved enough to keep

him at bay... but now... He's in this dark cloud all by himself and there's no

telling what he's going to do. I'm starting to wonder if he needs to be

committed to a mental hospital.

> >

> > What's your take on this situation?

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi

I'm not sure of your situation but yeah get the hell out of there, NOW. Is my

advice. How old are you? Does he have a therapist you can call? Can you call the

CAT team (um emergency mental health people here in australia)? Is your mother

scared too? Sounds like you both need to get out. That comment sounds like a

thinly veiled threat on your life. Why does he have a gun at all? wtf

> >

> > For the past few weeks everything between me and my father have been fine

and we've actually been talking like two adults. I fell for it again and got

excited that maybe this time he'd stay normal... But yesterday he literally

woke up hating me. His anger is so strong that you can feel it when he walks

by. I overheard him yesterday talking down to my mother and yelling at her. He

always hides it from me but it was so quiet in the house I could hear this time.

Suddenly, he refuses to talk to both my mother and me. I've NEVER seen him

silent before. It's like he's so angry that he's off planning something in his

mind, but there's no way to prepare for what could come because he's so crazy.

My mother accidentally found $100+ in cash and the key to his bedroom hidden

underneath the towel that his gun sits on. The gun has always been there but

what bothers me is the money... WHY put it under a gun?? Why not a closet,

dresser, or bathroom drawer or something? WHY under a gun???

> >

> > Ever since I saw him yesterday when he refused to talk to me, I've been

feeling like all this stuff is about to happen that he's going to cause. I hope

they have nothing to do with each other... a few weeks ago he came in my room

and said to me, " I've been having this doom & gloom feeling like something

really bad is going to happen to you. I don't know why, just been having this

feeling. You know, if anyone ever killed you no one would ever come looking for

you. " Then he walked out.

> >

> > I can honestly say this is the first time he's ever scared me. I've been

able to gauge where he is, read him like a book and stay involved enough to keep

him at bay... but now... He's in this dark cloud all by himself and there's no

telling what he's going to do. I'm starting to wonder if he needs to be

committed to a mental hospital.

> >

> > What's your take on this situation?

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You need to talk to someone outside the home. Your Mom is trapped in this

emotional storm as you are. Perhaps he's bipolar and needs to be on medication.

But his anger combined with his comment about something bad might happen to you

(as well as a gun in the house) doesn't sound like a safe combination. He didn't

directly threaten you but I can understand your worry and fear.

I do think a 3rd party might be able to have another perspective and help you.

You may need to move out for a bit for protection.

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> He just came back to the house all bubbly and super happy. Like REALLY happy.

He's laughing at everything and joking around... And will NOT stop talking.

>

> This morning he was scary angry and now he's super happy. I don't get it.

It's literally polar opposite behavior.

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