If a hermit nada were president...

[Guest guest]

My mother the hermit is very unhappy about Osama bin Laden's killing.

Not because she feels it's inhumane but because it scares her.

I do get that; a lot of New Yorkers feel that fear, too. We live near NYC. But

she isn't just apprehensive. This morning when we spoke, she was just nasty, as

though **I** had arranged for his killing.

" Do you know what this does to us now??? This is going to kill us. They're

going to retaliate. God, don't you see that? They should've just left him

alone!! " She just sounded scary, like " they " were going to come through the

door any minute.

I really feel she needs meds, but she scoffs at me when I suggest it, as does my

brother.

I did something stupid. My gut told me to just agree with her, the way you

would with a someone who's had too much to drink and gets ugly. But I couldn't.

" So you wanted them to just find out where he was and send him birthday cards?

What did you want the government to do? If they did nothing, then later, you'd

be saying they did the wrong thing. "

Oh.My.God. She went ape on me, like, how DARE I disagree?? (Obviously, my

opinion was not welcome. It was just her monologue to be endured.)

All of that to say, fine, she's entitled to her opinion on this news event. But

this was her m.o. as a mother. " Are you crazy, you can't do that! It's too

dangerous. " OR " Do you really think you can do that job you applied for? It

sounds hard. You know how you get get when you're nervous. "

She was, and is, the voice of doubt, doom, fear, hesitation, caution,

reluctance, overthinking. If I had listened to her, I would not have gone on

vacations, I would not have gone to college, I would not have gotten work, I

would not have gotten married, I would not have 2 kids with minds of their

own...I would be part of a two-headed monster, with her as the other head.

What pisses me off is what could have been. How much life would have been better

and different if she hadn't been this sick, frightened rabbit.

When I try new things that I'm afraid of, I think of her with anger, for making

this part of the " tapes " I play in my head.

Does anyone else experience this inherited fear instinct as well?

Fiona

[Guest guest]

Sigh... sounds familiar. My nada thinks the lunar landing was made up to cover

up a nuke test.

 

I for sure know what you mean about the tape. I was the kid who was terrified of

the slide because Nada would gasp and tell me get down..oh my god get down...

 

At least my little daredevils dont hear it from me, and I dont let Nada take

them to the park.

Subject: If a hermit nada were president...

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Tuesday, May 3, 2011, 5:40 AM

 

My mother the hermit is very unhappy about Osama bin Laden's killing.

Not because she feels it's inhumane but because it scares her.

I do get that; a lot of New Yorkers feel that fear, too. We live near NYC. But

she isn't just apprehensive. This morning when we spoke, she was just nasty, as

though **I** had arranged for his killing.

" Do you know what this does to us now??? This is going to kill us. They're going

to retaliate. God, don't you see that? They should've just left him alone!! " She

just sounded scary, like " they " were going to come through the door any minute.

I really feel she needs meds, but she scoffs at me when I suggest it, as does my

brother.

I did something stupid. My gut told me to just agree with her, the way you would

with a someone who's had too much to drink and gets ugly. But I couldn't.

" So you wanted them to just find out where he was and send him birthday cards?

What did you want the government to do? If they did nothing, then later, you'd

be saying they did the wrong thing. "

Oh.My.God. She went ape on me, like, how DARE I disagree?? (Obviously, my

opinion was not welcome. It was just her monologue to be endured.)

All of that to say, fine, she's entitled to her opinion on this news event. But

this was her m.o. as a mother. " Are you crazy, you can't do that! It's too

dangerous. " OR " Do you really think you can do that job you applied for? It

sounds hard. You know how you get get when you're nervous. "

She was, and is, the voice of doubt, doom, fear, hesitation, caution,

reluctance, overthinking. If I had listened to her, I would not have gone on

vacations, I would not have gone to college, I would not have gotten work, I

would not have gotten married, I would not have 2 kids with minds of their

own...I would be part of a two-headed monster, with her as the other head.

What pisses me off is what could have been. How much life would have been better

and different if she hadn't been this sick, frightened rabbit.

When I try new things that I'm afraid of, I think of her with anger, for making

this part of the " tapes " I play in my head.

Does anyone else experience this inherited fear instinct as well?

Fiona