Hi has anyones bpd parent found this group?

[Guest guest]

Hi

Just telling my auntie and nan about this group - they want me to delete things

because nada always ALWAYS finds everything out, as in they're pretty sure she

had a Private Investigator on my sister when she cut her off. How do i delete my

posts? or just some info that is identifiable, like that story about my little

brother is pretty much definitely our family?

[Guest guest]

This is why it's advisable to join this group under a pseudonym. Many people

are writing under their pseudonym. Some are making posts under their real

names. The best way to go about this is to create a yahoo account, using a

fake name or some other non-identifiable address. For example, instead of

using a Jane.@... account, use something like

AprilShowersMayFlowers@.... Or mydogisawesome1234@....

Does this make sense? If you're concerned, and if you joined using your

primary yahoo account, you can always re-join using a new account and begin

from there.

I don't know if anybody's nada or fada ever found this group, but this

precaution helps protect against that instance.

Hope it helps

Holly

On Wed, May 4, 2011 at 3:50 AM, janefrankiehw wrote:

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> Hi

> Just telling my auntie and nan about this group - they want me to delete

> things because nada always ALWAYS finds everything out, as in they're pretty

> sure she had a Private Investigator on my sister when she cut her off. How

> do i delete my posts? or just some info that is identifiable, like that

> story about my little brother is pretty much definitely our family?

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[Guest guest]

Hi,

Yes, you can delete your own posts at the Group site.

I don't know if you can do that if you receive posts by e-mail, but if you go to

the Yahoo! Group site for this group and go to Messages, if you bring up your

posts individually you have a " delete " option up near the top left hand corner

of each post.

However if some other member has included your post in their reply, your name

will appear in their post.

And I agree that its much safer to create a new, anonymous ID for yourself and

post here using that, and then be careful to not post identifiers such as your

actual location, profession or names of family members.

-Annie

[Guest guest]

I wouldn't bet that the story with your little brother is completely unique to

your family. For example, there is another on this site who had almost

the exact same incident happen to her this Christmas that happened to me. In

fact, at one point, someone answered a post of mine thinking I was her because

we had both written posts about our separate incidents, which only had extremely

minor details different.

Many of us have read the stories of fellow KOs on here and been agog at how

amazingly similar their stories are to ours. So you can change to a pseudonym

and use fake names for your family members and then I wouldn't worry about

people being able to identify you from your stories. I swear there are a couple

of people on here that my family could mistake me for and vice versa. (In fact

occasionally I read the other 's posts and check to make sure they are

indeed hers and not something I wrote. That's how eerily similar they are.)

Cheers to anonymity!

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> Hi

> Just telling my auntie and nan about this group - they want me to delete

things because nada always ALWAYS finds everything out, as in they're pretty

sure she had a Private Investigator on my sister when she cut her off. How do i

delete my posts? or just some info that is identifiable, like that story about

my little brother is pretty much definitely our family?

>

[Guest guest]

I just make sure to leave out enough details that a hostile couldn't be sure it

was me, but the friendlies can get the salient details. For example, I post that

I have a son, but never use his name. And I don't give other identifying details

- like what my job is or that kind of thing. None of those little things taken

separately would give me away, but taken together they could. And since my BPD

mother probably thinks I'm the one with BPD and might join for support, it's

possible she could be on here for help in " dealing " with me. >;p Of course, one

thing to remember is that BPDs have such a knack for rewriting history and

casting themselves as the victim, your mother probably wouldn't recognize you

from your stories, even if you quoted her verbatim AND used her name.

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> > Hi

> > Just telling my auntie and nan about this group - they want me to delete

things because nada always ALWAYS finds everything out, as in they're pretty

sure she had a Private Investigator on my sister when she cut her off. How do i

delete my posts? or just some info that is identifiable, like that story about

my little brother is pretty much definitely our family?

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[Guest guest]

True, they probably wouldn't recognize themselves on here at all!

Haha!

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> > > Hi

> > > Just telling my auntie and nan about this group - they want me to delete

things because nada always ALWAYS finds everything out, as in they're pretty

sure she had a Private Investigator on my sister when she cut her off. How do i

delete my posts? or just some info that is identifiable, like that story about

my little brother is pretty much definitely our family?

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[Guest guest]

haha so true. Thanks guys. I think i told my auntie my pseudonym, my names not

really Jane, so careless, i got paranoid later that she would look too, never

mind my mother. The " loyalties " in the family can shift so it's a bit of a

worry. Maybe i'll come back in a while as someone else. Thanks!

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> > > > Hi

> > > > Just telling my auntie and nan about this group - they want me to delete

things because nada always ALWAYS finds everything out, as in they're pretty

sure she had a Private Investigator on my sister when she cut her off. How do i

delete my posts? or just some info that is identifiable, like that story about

my little brother is pretty much definitely our family?

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