The Car and Restaurant Deal

[Guest guest]

My parents are coming up to pick me up from my house to go out for breakfast for

mother's day. I think the ride will be a good half hour each way. Anyone have

good tips on surviving the car ride and restaurant escapade? I know this is

something that people recommend I avoid but I really can't think of a way to not

drive myself without seeming like a long-stretched excuse.

[Guest guest]

Just say you have some errands to run afterwards, and need to drive

yourself. Just leave it at that. That also gives you the ability to leave in

case one or both your parents start acting up on you. " I will not let you

talk that way to me. If you do, I will leave. " and if they do act up, leave.

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> My parents are coming up to pick me up from my house to go out for

> breakfast for mother's day. I think the ride will be a good half hour each

> way. Anyone have good tips on surviving the car ride and restaurant

> escapade? I know this is something that people recommend I avoid but I

> really can't think of a way to not drive myself without seeming like a

> long-stretched excuse.

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[Guest guest]

I never, ever get in a car with my mother anymore. It is the perfect place for

a BPD attack since it is almost impossible for the victim to escape.

If you still want to accept a ride from them, write down or store in your cell

phone the number for a cab and take enough money with you for the ride back

home. Be prepared to ask them to pull over or stand up and leave at any time if

they act up.

I think there are some other tips on making a graceful escape from restaurants

in another recent thread.

Hope that helps.

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> My parents are coming up to pick me up from my house to go out for breakfast

for mother's day. I think the ride will be a good half hour each way. Anyone

have good tips on surviving the car ride and restaurant escapade? I know this is

something that people recommend I avoid but I really can't think of a way to not

drive myself without seeming like a long-stretched excuse.

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[Guest guest]

You'll probably get this tip too late, but...if you can't avoid riding with

them, this is what I do: keep a mental list of " safe " things to talk about.

Stuff that gets one or both of them going on and on and on. For me, it's my

mother's job or stuff that gives her anxiety...off she goes, with nonstop

talking!

good luck!

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> My parents are coming up to pick me up from my house to go out for breakfast

for mother's day. I think the ride will be a good half hour each way. Anyone

have good tips on surviving the car ride and restaurant escapade? I know this is

something that people recommend I avoid but I really can't think of a way to not

drive myself without seeming like a long-stretched excuse.

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[Guest guest]

OH! one other of my favorite tips for these kind of situations: if possible,

invite a buffer to join you, someone who they don't know very well and won't act

up with.

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> My parents are coming up to pick me up from my house to go out for breakfast

for mother's day. I think the ride will be a good half hour each way. Anyone

have good tips on surviving the car ride and restaurant escapade? I know this is

something that people recommend I avoid but I really can't think of a way to not

drive myself without seeming like a long-stretched excuse.

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