BPD Mother Recovering from Dementia Now What?

May 8, 2011

I've been tending my mother for the last three years as she was diagnosed with

vascular dementia. This has been a sacrifice and a nightmare for me. She was

to a point she didn't even know her own house. Then, I began to treat her on a

long term treatment for candida and H PYlori (a gut bug that causes acid

stomach). She is recovering. And I am having such mixed feelings. I feel like

I've saved her and now I'm stuck again tending a borderline again. Now, I have

to make the Grand escape from a borderline again. I feel like I have been

tending her my entire life and I can only see that due to her age of 79, she

may soon need constant care again. Now, with her memory doing better, she is

becoming royalty again. Everyones life is to revolve around her, she is

constantly bored and wanting to be entertained, constantly attention seeking.

I'm not sure what to do now. I want her to go to a retirement village.

Im not sure how to go about this with a borderline. Any suggestions?

May 8, 2011

This morning I got up feeling pretty good and after being with her about one

hour, I realized that I was completely exhausted. I can't do this anymore.

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