Just need to vent - my first Mother's Day and BPD mom didn't even call/e-mail

[Guest guest]

Not that I really expected anything different in my heart, but I'm new to the

group of " just found out my mom has BPD " so it's all still fresh...

My hubby and I had our first baby (after many struggles with infertility) in

January so this was my first Mother's Day. Of course, the BPD mom didn't even

call/e-mail much less send a card or do anything nice for me/us. My brother -

who may also be BPD? - kept posting on my FB page that I should take mom out for

lunch/dinner. When I finally deleted his post about taking our mom out to eat he

deleted the " happy mother's day " message he'd posted on my page. Too much

passive-aggressive drama! Ugh!

On the flip side, I have a wonderful hubby and baby, in-laws and fabulous

friends to get me through!! Maybe some nice family will " adopt " me someday so my

baby will have TWO nice grandmas instead of one nice one and one crazy one!

[Guest guest]

Happy Your Very First Mother's Day from me!

That's great that you have a wonderful husband, a new baby, cherished friends

and loving in-laws to share your life with, that's marvelous. Its sad to have a

toxic, destructive, mentally ill family of origin, but, you get to decide where

to focus your attention now and I wish for you such joy and peace and happiness

as you focus on the good things you DO have, like a darling new baby.

best wishes,

-Annie

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> Not that I really expected anything different in my heart, but I'm new to the

group of " just found out my mom has BPD " so it's all still fresh...

>

> My hubby and I had our first baby (after many struggles with infertility) in

January so this was my first Mother's Day. Of course, the BPD mom didn't even

call/e-mail much less send a card or do anything nice for me/us. My brother -

who may also be BPD? - kept posting on my FB page that I should take mom out for

lunch/dinner. When I finally deleted his post about taking our mom out to eat he

deleted the " happy mother's day " message he'd posted on my page. Too much

passive-aggressive drama! Ugh!

>

> On the flip side, I have a wonderful hubby and baby, in-laws and fabulous

friends to get me through!! Maybe some nice family will " adopt " me someday so my

baby will have TWO nice grandmas instead of one nice one and one crazy one!

>

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry your mom couldn't even send you a card or anything like that. It's

so hurtful.

I think you have the right idea, though: make a new family, as you are doing and

get connected with your hubby's family. I know it still hurts not to be

acknowledged as a mom by your own mom, but it's great to have another group of

people who are thrilled for you and your baby (btw, happy mother's day!! welcome

to the club!!).

>

> Not that I really expected anything different in my heart, but I'm new to the

group of " just found out my mom has BPD " so it's all still fresh...

>

> My hubby and I had our first baby (after many struggles with infertility) in

January so this was my first Mother's Day. Of course, the BPD mom didn't even

call/e-mail much less send a card or do anything nice for me/us. My brother -

who may also be BPD? - kept posting on my FB page that I should take mom out for

lunch/dinner. When I finally deleted his post about taking our mom out to eat he

deleted the " happy mother's day " message he'd posted on my page. Too much

passive-aggressive drama! Ugh!

>

> On the flip side, I have a wonderful hubby and baby, in-laws and fabulous

friends to get me through!! Maybe some nice family will " adopt " me someday so my

baby will have TWO nice grandmas instead of one nice one and one crazy one!

>

[Guest guest]

I am sorry you can't get what you need from your mother. That really hurts. Take

care of yourself, your hubby and sweet baby!