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WELCOME!!!

Gene Gandy

> Hey all. New here and just wanted to say hey. I'm an EMT-Basic in

> Houston, Tx. I work part-time for Cy-Fair VFD on the ambulance. I'm

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I started therapy knowing that I had a really messed up childhood. I always knew

my mother was crazy, but didn't know she has BPD until my therapist told me.

After reading Walking on Eggshells I find that I'm not alone! I'm an adult child

of a parent who has BPD. Through out my life my mother has physically and

emotionally abused me and my siblings. She has cut me off multiple times. We

joke that she has this list and that we all take our turns being shunned. Right

now my Grandparents are on it. Recently my father died a sudden/tragic death and

she steps back into my life after 5 years of giving me the silent treatment. No

apology or explanation and acts like nothing happened. She has somewhat kept her

distance. Messages me once a week or so. I know its only a matter of time before

she gets mad at something she thinks I've done and shuns me again. It's sad, but

I think i've gotten to the point where I just don't care anymore. I have mourned

the fact that I will never have a normal, healthy, intimate realtionship with my

mother. And if she wants to talk to me, great. I was just explaining to my

thereapist about how my mother has found a replacement for me. I wasn't jealous

just confused. This girl is the same age as me, shares the same profession,

first name, and physical attributes as me! Then I read how some of you have had

similar things happen.

So recently I've been working through the childhood trauma. Realizing that no

relationship of mine has gone untouched. That I do not trust women and have 1 or

2 close female friends. I have abnormally close relationships with my siblings.

We raised each other. Survived together. I worry about my youngest sister the

most. She is a quiet, loving, gentle spirit. She worrys herself sick. She had

stress ulcers by the age of 6. Being the baby in the family she became my

mother's caregiver when she was the only child left in the nest(Mom had kicked

us all out of the house) She tended to her when she was lonely, stressed, drunk,

etc. She was left home alone for days at a time, during her young teenage years,

while Mom spent the night at her boyfriends house. She eventually called CPS on

mom for beating her up in front of her friends and was moved to her father's

house. Mom still blames/resents her for this. Speaking from experience, it's

hard to know in your heart these things are not your fault. I continue to talk

to her on a daily basis. To encourage and love her.

I'm so glad to have finally found people that understand the things my siblings

and I have gone through. I look forward to your support.

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the Group, Maranthanaut. Yes, you've found a bunch of other adult

children of bpd parents who " get it. " Its somehow comforting to know that

you're not the only one; at least, I found it so.

-Annie

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> I started therapy knowing that I had a really messed up childhood. I always

knew my mother was crazy, but didn't know she has BPD until my therapist told

me. After reading Walking on Eggshells I find that I'm not alone! I'm an adult

child of a parent who has BPD. Through out my life my mother has physically and

emotionally abused me and my siblings. She has cut me off multiple times. We

joke that she has this list and that we all take our turns being shunned. Right

now my Grandparents are on it. Recently my father died a sudden/tragic death and

she steps back into my life after 5 years of giving me the silent treatment. No

apology or explanation and acts like nothing happened. She has somewhat kept her

distance. Messages me once a week or so. I know its only a matter of time before

she gets mad at something she thinks I've done and shuns me again. It's sad, but

I think i've gotten to the point where I just don't care anymore. I have mourned

the fact that I will never have a normal, healthy, intimate realtionship with my

mother. And if she wants to talk to me, great. I was just explaining to my

thereapist about how my mother has found a replacement for me. I wasn't jealous

just confused. This girl is the same age as me, shares the same profession,

first name, and physical attributes as me! Then I read how some of you have had

similar things happen.

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> So recently I've been working through the childhood trauma. Realizing that no

relationship of mine has gone untouched. That I do not trust women and have 1 or

2 close female friends. I have abnormally close relationships with my siblings.

We raised each other. Survived together. I worry about my youngest sister the

most. She is a quiet, loving, gentle spirit. She worrys herself sick. She had

stress ulcers by the age of 6. Being the baby in the family she became my

mother's caregiver when she was the only child left in the nest(Mom had kicked

us all out of the house) She tended to her when she was lonely, stressed, drunk,

etc. She was left home alone for days at a time, during her young teenage years,

while Mom spent the night at her boyfriends house. She eventually called CPS on

mom for beating her up in front of her friends and was moved to her father's

house. Mom still blames/resents her for this. Speaking from experience, it's

hard to know in your heart these things are not your fault. I continue to talk

to her on a daily basis. To encourage and love her.

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> I'm so glad to have finally found people that understand the things my

siblings and I have gone through. I look forward to your support.

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