Guest guest Posted June 9, 2011 Report Share Posted June 9, 2011 Yesterday Nada called my work phone to leave a voicemail: " I'm in the hospital, you will regret calling me. " Then one of her friends called my house, basically to bitch me out, and I ended up talking with her about what was going on between nada and I for about an hour, until her friend said she totally understood my decision for NC... then I talked to ANOTHER of her friends and explained the situation, and she also said she understood. But the reason I'm so angry is just that she is such a manipulative a**hole, and she basically passed out at the doctor a few times and then went to the ER... my husband has expertise in the field, and says it is basically either FAKE or something minor (like maybe not eating, which would be more likely than a heart or brain problem in nada's case). And here she has all her friends totally SOLd on her stupid ACT, and a bunch of doctors following her around giving her attention.... and telling everyone how I'm the big bad guy who doesn't call her when she is in the hospital I guess I need to go for a good run after work... just sitting here stewing about all this crap is totally killing me... thank you all for listening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2011 Report Share Posted June 9, 2011 That should have said " you will regret NOT calling me " ... so pissed, I'm not even proofreading.... ________________________________ To: " WTOAdultChildren1 " <WTOAdultChildren1 > Sent: Thursday, June 9, 2011 11:01 AM Subject: I am SO ANGRY at nada  Yesterday Nada called my work phone to leave a voicemail: " I'm in the hospital, you will regret calling me. " Then one of her friends called my house, basically to bitch me out, and I ended up talking with her about what was going on between nada and I for about an hour, until her friend said she totally understood my decision for NC... then I talked to ANOTHER of her friends and explained the situation, and she also said she understood. But the reason I'm so angry is just that she is such a manipulative a**hole, and she basically passed out at the doctor a few times and then went to the ER... my husband has expertise in the field, and says it is basically either FAKE or something minor (like maybe not eating, which would be more likely than a heart or brain problem in nada's case). And here she has all her friends totally SOLd on her stupid ACT, and a bunch of doctors following her around giving her attention.... and telling everyone how I'm the big bad guy who doesn't call her when she is in the hospital I guess I need to go for a good run after work... just sitting here stewing about all this crap is totally killing me... thank you all for listening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2011 Report Share Posted June 9, 2011 I am sorry she is doing this to you. Just remember, you do not owe these people any explanations. It sounds like your nada goes out of the way to get people to champion for her, to confront for her. You could get worn out from having to explain to all of them what she is doing. She seems adept at finding new people to come to her aid. I know it is hard for you to not react to being under siege, but it sounds like she is feeding off getting a reaction from you. Eventually all these doctors and friends will come to understand they are being manipulated. But if it were me, I wouldn't give them the time of day--let alone a chunk of my life--trying to explain your mom's illness. They are the one's allowing themselves to get sucked in, and that is not your mess to clean up. Anecdotally, my nada would never air the family laundry to get strangers to come to her aid against someone. But my sister's husband, who I believe is likely BPD, commonly tries this technique when his behaviors have landed him in the sh*t can with Sis. He edits out what he did wrong, of course, but tells their friends how mean she is being, how unreasonable, until they start calling Sis to tell her that she is the one who is unforgiving and wrong. The way my sis has diffused this weapon is to not have any mutual friends with her husband, and any that do call her are politely but firmly told to butt out. > > Yesterday Nada called my work phone to leave a voicemail: " I'm in the hospital, you will regret calling me. " > Then one of her friends called my house, basically to bitch me out, and I ended up talking with her about what was going on between nada and I for about an hour, until her friend said she totally understood my decision for NC... > > then I talked to ANOTHER of her friends and explained the situation, and she also said she understood. > > > But the reason I'm so angry is just that she is such a manipulative a**hole, and she basically passed out at the doctor a few times and then went to the ER... my husband has expertise in the field, and says it is basically either FAKE or something minor (like maybe not eating, which would be more likely than a heart or brain problem in nada's case). And here she has all her friends totally SOLd on her stupid ACT, and a bunch of doctors following her around giving her attention.... and telling everyone how I'm the big bad guy who doesn't call her when she is in the hospital > > I guess I need to go for a good run after work... just sitting here stewing about all this crap is totally killing me... > > > thank you all for listening. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2011 Report Share Posted June 10, 2011 Oh God, what an ordeal. I'm glad her friends ended up sympathizing with you. > > Yesterday Nada called my work phone to leave a voicemail: " I'm in the hospital, you will regret calling me. " > Then one of her friends called my house, basically to bitch me out, and I ended up talking with her about what was going on between nada and I for about an hour, until her friend said she totally understood my decision for NC... > > then I talked to ANOTHER of her friends and explained the situation, and she also said she understood. > > > But the reason I'm so angry is just that she is such a manipulative a**hole, and she basically passed out at the doctor a few times and then went to the ER... my husband has expertise in the field, and says it is basically either FAKE or something minor (like maybe not eating, which would be more likely than a heart or brain problem in nada's case). And here she has all her friends totally SOLd on her stupid ACT, and a bunch of doctors following her around giving her attention.... and telling everyone how I'm the big bad guy who doesn't call her when she is in the hospital > > I guess I need to go for a good run after work... just sitting here stewing about all this crap is totally killing me... > > > thank you all for listening. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2011 Report Share Posted June 11, 2011 hugs! god that is so freaking annoying, that kind of thing. I guess shes FINE since even with a heart condition she has the strength to spread spite around. I am sorry you had to defend yourself like that, it really is an awful thing to have to defend oneself when you did nothing wrong. > > Yesterday Nada called my work phone to leave a voicemail: " I'm in the hospital, you will regret calling me. " > Then one of her friends called my house, basically to bitch me out, and I ended up talking with her about what was going on between nada and I for about an hour, until her friend said she totally understood my decision for NC... > > then I talked to ANOTHER of her friends and explained the situation, and she also said she understood. > > > But the reason I'm so angry is just that she is such a manipulative a**hole, and she basically passed out at the doctor a few times and then went to the ER... my husband has expertise in the field, and says it is basically either FAKE or something minor (like maybe not eating, which would be more likely than a heart or brain problem in nada's case). And here she has all her friends totally SOLd on her stupid ACT, and a bunch of doctors following her around giving her attention.... and telling everyone how I'm the big bad guy who doesn't call her when she is in the hospital > > I guess I need to go for a good run after work... just sitting here stewing about all this crap is totally killing me... > > > thank you all for listening. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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