Re: mourning the family that should have been

[Guest guest]

Yes! My T read me the book Tear Soup. I think about it a lot. Its a kids

book, check it out and see if it helps.

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> Can anyone relate to this?

> Since realizing my foo is NOT normal... I'm mourning the family

> that should have been.

> Am I crazy for wanting that? I know it'll never happen.

> Steph

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[Guest guest]

No, Steph, you're not crazy. If you are, then I am, too.

It's very, very sad. I feel like an orphan many days. Just someone with no

family. Even tho most of my family is alive and " well, " I know they are not

family to me.

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> Can anyone relate to this?

> Since realizing my foo is NOT normal... I'm mourning the family

> that should have been.

> Am I crazy for wanting that? I know it'll never happen.

> Steph

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[Guest guest]

No, you're not crazy for wanting it, but you'll still come up against the brick

wall (over and over and over...) that it's not going to happen. I have to be

really careful with wanting that " normal " family, because it's at those moments

when I'm most tempted to let my guard down around my nada, and then I get really

hurt. Mourn it as long as you need to, and then move on as best you can. I found

mom qualities in my friends, and they give me the love and support I need.

[Guest guest]

I agree with this, and celebrate the power of your own inner mom who cares for

you and others.

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> No, you're not crazy for wanting it, but you'll still come up against the

brick wall (over and over and over...) that it's not going to happen. I have to

be really careful with wanting that " normal " family, because it's at those

moments when I'm most tempted to let my guard down around my nada, and then I

get really hurt. Mourn it as long as you need to, and then move on as best you

can. I found mom qualities in my friends, and they give me the love and support

I need.

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[Guest guest]

Nope, you are not crazy~

We have to mourn the end of the fantasy family we thought we had, we wanted to

have.

Then we can build from there, with or without our FOO

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> Can anyone relate to this?

> Since realizing my foo is NOT normal... I'm mourning the family

> that should have been.

> Am I crazy for wanting that? I know it'll never happen.

> Steph

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