Re: She's at it again & coming for dinner

[Guest guest]

OMG!!! Don't feed her chili if she acts like that! How in the hell is that

acceptable behavior? WOWOWOWOWOW

My suggestion is that you just focus on looking at houses, and reduced your

contact with her - perhaps a call per week like Fiona does, and discussions

about the property are done via the realtor.

> **

>

>

> Nada called this am to talk to my son who is 7. I admit I listened in on

> the other line and sure enough she was doing her manipulative b.s. and

> actually making very rude comments about me to him. I told her to stop and

> she flipped, she has a right and I pointed out she doesn't, she's not in the

> current custodial agreement. And she invited her self to dinner (no big

> deal, chilis already in the crockpot) but then she started she wants me out

> of the house by 10-31 and I was like fine, its your house so that's your

> choice but you'll be eating alone tonight as we're going to look at houses

> (already had a3 pm showing) she called right back and I could her begging

> nathan to be back so she could see him. She wants to talk legal matters,

> this ought to be interesting.

>

> If she'll sell me the house, through a bank mortgage, not her holding it

> then I'll buy it, if not there are several in the school district I can

> afford. My big challenge is going to be keeping my calm and not letting her

> drag me into the drama. Wish me luck!

>

>

[Guest guest]

we'll see how it goes. let her eat if she wants to, I'll never deny a hungry

person a meal.

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Saturday, October 15, 2011 2:32 PM

Subject: Re: She's at it again & coming for dinner

OMG!!! Don't feed her chili if she acts like that! How in the hell is that

acceptable behavior? WOWOWOWOWOW

My suggestion is that you just focus on looking at houses, and reduced your

contact with her - perhaps a call per week like Fiona does, and discussions

about the property are done via the realtor.

> **

>

>

> Nada called this am to talk to my son who is 7. I admit I listened in on

> the other line and sure enough she was doing her manipulative b.s. and

> actually making very rude comments about me to him. I told her to stop and

> she flipped, she has a right and I pointed out she doesn't, she's not in the

> current custodial agreement. And she invited her self to dinner (no big

> deal, chilis already in the crockpot) but then she started she wants me out

> of the house by 10-31 and I was like fine, its your house so that's your

> choice but you'll be eating alone tonight as we're going to look at houses

> (already had a3 pm showing) she called right back and I could her begging

> nathan to be back so she could see him. She wants to talk legal matters,

> this ought to be interesting.

>

> If she'll sell me the house, through a bank mortgage, not her holding it

> then I'll buy it, if not there are several in the school district I can

> afford. My big challenge is going to be keeping my calm and not letting her

> drag me into the drama. Wish me luck!

>

>

[Guest guest]

u r my kinda woman

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>

>

> we'll see how it goes. let her eat if she wants to, I'll never deny a

> hungry person a meal.

>

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>

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Sent: Saturday, October 15, 2011 2:32 PM

> Subject: Re: She's at it again & coming for dinner

>

>

> OMG!!! Don't feed her chili if she acts like that! How in the hell is that

> acceptable behavior? WOWOWOWOWOW

>

> My suggestion is that you just focus on looking at houses, and reduced your

> contact with her - perhaps a call per week like Fiona does, and discussions

> about the property are done via the realtor.

>

>

>

> > **

>

> >

> >

> > Nada called this am to talk to my son who is 7. I admit I listened in on

> > the other line and sure enough she was doing her manipulative b.s. and

> > actually making very rude comments about me to him. I told her to stop

> and

> > she flipped, she has a right and I pointed out she doesn't, she's not in

> the

> > current custodial agreement. And she invited her self to dinner (no big

> > deal, chilis already in the crockpot) but then she started she wants me

> out

> > of the house by 10-31 and I was like fine, its your house so that's your

> > choice but you'll be eating alone tonight as we're going to look at

> houses

> > (already had a3 pm showing) she called right back and I could her begging

> > nathan to be back so she could see him. She wants to talk legal matters,

> > this ought to be interesting.

> >

> > If she'll sell me the house, through a bank mortgage, not her holding it

> > then I'll buy it, if not there are several in the school district I can

> > afford. My big challenge is going to be keeping my calm and not letting

> her

> > drag me into the drama. Wish me luck!

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

>

> If she'll sell me the house, through a bank mortgage, not her holding it then

I'll buy it, if not there are several in the school district I can afford. My

big challenge is going to be keeping my calm and not letting her drag me into

the drama. Wish me luck!

>

Hi , just my two cents but it seems like it would be better just to get

completely separated from your nada. Even buying the house from her - if she'd

sell it to you - still seems like too much involvement. Lots of complications

and interactions can happen when a property is sold between the old and new

owner. Why not just buy a new place that will be completely fresh, no bad

memories of living in it with her and leave her in the dust?

Eliza