Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Hi all, I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much lately on here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local newspaper hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, personal news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start up a blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a leap of faith, and so far so good. I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a fellow blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite frankly sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or particularly violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to write just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't limited to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of my fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's story (obviously with the friend's permission). Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Month, and I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness about a) Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who knows? Perhaps we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to leave an abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to write about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. If you could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. Just email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I finish writing the post. Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear about this effort. Holly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Thats a fantastic idea! I think that would be great. I've been trying to push my clients and some others who get involved with very vanilla causes (like wanting me to get yet another food drive for canned goods) into the news to take on Domestic Violence.I believe its time has come as an issue!!!! > ** > > > Hi all, > > I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much lately on > here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local newspaper > hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, personal > news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start up a > blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a leap > of faith, and so far so good. > > I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a fellow > blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite frankly > sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or particularly > violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible > scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to write > just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't limited > to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of my > fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's story > (obviously with the friend's permission). > > Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Month, and > I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness about a) > Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who knows? Perhaps > we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to leave an > abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. > > I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to write > about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. If you > could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. > > I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by > private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. Just > email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I finish > writing the post. > > Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear about > this effort. > > Holly > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 I agree, it's about time for more people to be aware of it! Maybe someday cities will have both pink AND purple lights in October. Right now my city is full of pink lights, and I've seen just ONE purple building. Good luck with encouraging others to take on DV! I'm working on my blog post right now. I still don't know which story to share. I have so many, and yet I'm afraid of nasty blog comments. This blogger who wrote about her abusive ex--there were some people getting on her case that SHE might be the crazy one, that it wasn't really *that* abusive etc etc, and that's not what I really want to hear about myself! On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 8:22 AM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > Thats a fantastic idea! I think that would be great. I've been trying to > push my clients and some others who get involved with very vanilla causes > (like wanting me to get yet another food drive for canned goods) into the > news to take on Domestic Violence.I believe its time has come as an > issue!!!! > > On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 7:12 AM, Holly > wrote: > > > ** > > > > > > Hi all, > > > > I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much lately on > > here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local newspaper > > hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, > personal > > news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start up > a > > blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a > leap > > of faith, and so far so good. > > > > I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a fellow > > blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite > frankly > > sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or > particularly > > violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible > > scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to write > > just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't > limited > > to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of my > > fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's > story > > (obviously with the friend's permission). > > > > Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Month, > and > > I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness about > a) > > Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who knows? > Perhaps > > we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to leave an > > abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. > > > > I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to write > > about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. If you > > could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. > > > > I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by > > private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. > Just > > email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I finish > > writing the post. > > > > Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear > about > > this effort. > > > > Holly > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Go Holly! I think it does help and encourage other people when they learn for the first time that the lifetime of emotional abuse they've endured from their parent or parents isn't unique, that they didn't somehow cause their parent to be abusive toward them, and they don't deserve chronic, ongoing emotional abuse from a parent or spouse, or from anyone, really. Write your article, I think that's wonderful. -Annie > > Hi all, > > I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much lately on here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local newspaper hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, personal news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start up a blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a leap of faith, and so far so good. > > I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a fellow blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite frankly sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or particularly violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to write just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't limited to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of my fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's story (obviously with the friend's permission). > > Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Month, and I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness about a) Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who knows? Perhaps we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to leave an abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. > > I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to write about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. If you could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. > > I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. Just email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I finish writing the post. > > Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear about this effort. > > Holly > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Thanks, Annie! I ended up writing just an introduction article--perhaps because I wimped out a little bit, perhaps because I felt the need to explain why psychological and verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse. But my next one will be my story, my memory. I'm still a little nervous about it. On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 9:56 AM, anuria67854 wrote: > ** > > > Go Holly! I think it does help and encourage other people when they learn > for the first time that the lifetime of emotional abuse they've endured from > their parent or parents isn't unique, that they didn't somehow cause their > parent to be abusive toward them, and they don't deserve chronic, ongoing > emotional abuse from a parent or spouse, or from anyone, really. Write your > article, I think that's wonderful. > > -Annie > > > > > > Hi all, > > > > I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much lately on > here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local newspaper > hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, personal > news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start up a > blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a leap > of faith, and so far so good. > > > > I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a fellow > blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite frankly > sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or particularly > violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible > scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to write > just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't limited > to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of my > fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's story > (obviously with the friend's permission). > > > > Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Month, > and I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness > about a) Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who knows? > Perhaps we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to > leave an abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. > > > > I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to write > about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. If you > could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. > > > > I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by > private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. Just > email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I finish > writing the post. > > > > Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear > about this effort. > > > > Holly > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Man. I was just searching through my inbox because my brain is so good at whitewashing and forgetting memories, to think of what best to write about. Sometimes I forget just how big of an asshole my fada really is. Thank God I saved all those emails from him. People thought I was crazy for not hitting the delete button right away, but it's validating in many ways, since he's so good at gaslighting. F**ker. On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 10:03 AM, Holly Lipschultz < hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > Thanks, Annie! I ended up writing just an introduction article--perhaps > because I wimped out a little bit, perhaps because I felt the need to > explain why psychological and verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical > abuse. But my next one will be my story, my memory. I'm still a little > nervous about it. > > On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 9:56 AM, anuria67854 wrote: > >> ** >> >> >> Go Holly! I think it does help and encourage other people when they learn >> for the first time that the lifetime of emotional abuse they've endured from >> their parent or parents isn't unique, that they didn't somehow cause their >> parent to be abusive toward them, and they don't deserve chronic, ongoing >> emotional abuse from a parent or spouse, or from anyone, really. Write your >> article, I think that's wonderful. >> >> -Annie >> >> >> > >> > Hi all, >> > >> > I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much lately >> on here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local newspaper >> hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, personal >> news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start up a >> blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a leap >> of faith, and so far so good. >> > >> > I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a fellow >> blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite frankly >> sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or particularly >> violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible >> scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to write >> just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't limited >> to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of my >> fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's story >> (obviously with the friend's permission). >> > >> > Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Month, >> and I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness >> about a) Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who knows? >> Perhaps we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to >> leave an abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. >> > >> > I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to >> write about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. If >> you could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. >> > >> > I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by >> private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. Just >> email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I finish >> writing the post. >> > >> > Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear >> about this effort. >> > >> > Holly >> > >> >> >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Okay. I got my post up. Again, if anyone would like to take a look, I'll email you directly with a link. It was difficult, and I'm feeling weak and shaky. Can't wait to go home, eat chocolate, and exercise to get it out of my system. I just really wanted to show people that domestic violence isn't limited to physical abuse, so it's worth it. Holly On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 11:08 AM, Holly Lipschultz < hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > Man. I was just searching through my inbox because my brain is so good at > whitewashing and forgetting memories, to think of what best to write about. > Sometimes I forget just how big of an asshole my fada really is. Thank God I > saved all those emails from him. People thought I was crazy for not hitting > the delete button right away, but it's validating in many ways, since he's > so good at gaslighting. > > F**ker. > > On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 10:03 AM, Holly Lipschultz < > hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > >> Thanks, Annie! I ended up writing just an introduction article--perhaps >> because I wimped out a little bit, perhaps because I felt the need to >> explain why psychological and verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical >> abuse. But my next one will be my story, my memory. I'm still a little >> nervous about it. >> >> On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 9:56 AM, anuria67854 wrote: >> >>> ** >>> >>> >>> Go Holly! I think it does help and encourage other people when they learn >>> for the first time that the lifetime of emotional abuse they've endured from >>> their parent or parents isn't unique, that they didn't somehow cause their >>> parent to be abusive toward them, and they don't deserve chronic, ongoing >>> emotional abuse from a parent or spouse, or from anyone, really. Write your >>> article, I think that's wonderful. >>> >>> -Annie >>> >>> >>> > >>> > Hi all, >>> > >>> > I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much lately >>> on here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local newspaper >>> hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, personal >>> news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start up a >>> blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a leap >>> of faith, and so far so good. >>> > >>> > I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a fellow >>> blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite frankly >>> sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or particularly >>> violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible >>> scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to write >>> just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't limited >>> to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of my >>> fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's story >>> (obviously with the friend's permission). >>> > >>> > Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Month, >>> and I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness >>> about a) Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who knows? >>> Perhaps we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to >>> leave an abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. >>> > >>> > I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to >>> write about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. If >>> you could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. >>> > >>> > I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by >>> private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. Just >>> email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I finish >>> writing the post. >>> > >>> > Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear >>> about this effort. >>> > >>> > Holly >>> > >>> >>> >>> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2011 Report Share Posted October 20, 2011 Hugs sweetie On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 1:22 PM, Holly Lipschultz < hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > Okay. I got my post up. Again, if anyone would like to take a look, I'll > email you directly with a link. It was difficult, and I'm feeling weak and > shaky. Can't wait to go home, eat chocolate, and exercise to get it out of > my system. > > I just really wanted to show people that domestic violence isn't limited to > physical abuse, so it's worth it. > > Holly > > On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 11:08 AM, Holly Lipschultz < > hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > > > Man. I was just searching through my inbox because my brain is so good at > > whitewashing and forgetting memories, to think of what best to write > about. > > Sometimes I forget just how big of an asshole my fada really is. Thank > God I > > saved all those emails from him. People thought I was crazy for not > hitting > > the delete button right away, but it's validating in many ways, since > he's > > so good at gaslighting. > > > > F**ker. > > > > On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 10:03 AM, Holly Lipschultz < > > hollymichellebyers@...> wrote: > > > >> Thanks, Annie! I ended up writing just an introduction article--perhaps > >> because I wimped out a little bit, perhaps because I felt the need to > >> explain why psychological and verbal abuse is just as damaging as > physical > >> abuse. But my next one will be my story, my memory. I'm still a little > >> nervous about it. > >> > >> On Thu, Oct 20, 2011 at 9:56 AM, anuria67854 <anuria-67854@... > >wrote: > >> > >>> ** > >>> > >>> > >>> Go Holly! I think it does help and encourage other people when they > learn > >>> for the first time that the lifetime of emotional abuse they've endured > from > >>> their parent or parents isn't unique, that they didn't somehow cause > their > >>> parent to be abusive toward them, and they don't deserve chronic, > ongoing > >>> emotional abuse from a parent or spouse, or from anyone, really. Write > your > >>> article, I think that's wonderful. > >>> > >>> -Annie > >>> > >>> > >>> > > >>> > Hi all, > >>> > > >>> > I've been reading the emails but haven't been writing that much > lately > >>> on here--mostly because I'm getting back into blogging. My local > newspaper > >>> hosts their own blog site, where people can more easily find local, > personal > >>> news. It was kind of a spur of the moment thing when I asked to start > up a > >>> blog on there for myself, but I'm enjoying it so far. It was kind of a > leap > >>> of faith, and so far so good. > >>> > > >>> > I hadn't realized it was Domestic Violence Month until I read a > fellow > >>> blogger's story about escaping from her abusive husband, who quite > frankly > >>> sounds BPDish. I know my fada wasn't very physically abusive or > particularly > >>> violent in that way, but verbal/mental/emotional abuse leaves invisible > >>> scars much in the same way. So, I'm trying to get up the courage to > write > >>> just a post about it, to remind people that domestic violence isn't > limited > >>> to physical abuse--other kinds of abuse are just as damaging. Some of > my > >>> fellow bloggers want to write about their stories too, or a friend's > story > >>> (obviously with the friend's permission). > >>> > > >>> > Domestic Violence month often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer > Month, > >>> and I'm hoping with our small group of bloggers, we can raise awareness > >>> about a) Domestic Violence and verbal/emotional/mental abuse. Who > knows? > >>> Perhaps we can help someone. Even if just one person got the courage to > >>> leave an abusive situation, that makes it all worth it. > >>> > > >>> > I'm just trying to get up the courage and figure out what memory to > >>> write about for my first post. It seems everyone else is waiting on me. > If > >>> you could send good thoughts my way, that would be great. > >>> > > >>> > I'd be glad to share my blog with others, but I'd prefer to do so by > >>> private email instead of making it public on here, if that makes sense. > Just > >>> email me if you're interested, and I'll email you the link once I > finish > >>> writing the post. > >>> > > >>> > Anyway. Just kind of a ramble. I thought you guys might like to hear > >>> about this effort. > >>> > > >>> > Holly > >>> > > >>> > >>> > >>> > >> > >> > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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