Re: Send me strength - and another thing!

[Guest guest]

Nada/Fada took my girl home, helped her pick up her car (their old car handed

down) from the shop. The car was NOT fixed correctly, stalled out and granddad

was the only one who could drive it back to the shop. The POS car cost us $700

this time (it's always breaking down), and that was for a used part since the

new part alone is over 1k and involves tearing the engine down to replace.

This car is a gift and a curse. Nada/Fada keep patting themselves on the back

for 'gifting' it, waxing on about it being a great car (BS!). We've been stuck

with this mess of a car and feeling we have no excuse/no money to get a better

one.

Nada/Fada were put out for a change, and got to experience some of the FUN we've

had with their gift.

My daughter experienced having my mother drive for a bit--she's become fairly

reckless and jerky. She also would not let my girl give her directions--and

ended up driving thru some real nasty area of Grand Rapids. The high point was

seeing a man beating on a woman while the neighbors cheered him on. My daughter

yelled " Grandma, THIS is why I told you NOT to take this road! "

The more access my adult children have to their grandparents, the more they see

WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL THEM ALL THESE YEARS was not just me

" overreacting. " I wish I had a nickle for all the times my kids thought I was

just being over protective or being oversensitive.

The repair shop determined the used part is crap, and are looking for another

used part to redo the repair at no charge, plus giving my girl a loaner as an

apology :-)

[Guest guest]

Echo, what is it with nadas and insisting on driving through bad parts of town?

My nada would always drive me through the worst sections to and from the

airport. If I said anything - which I did a couple of times - it " ruined the

visit " because she was so angry and hurt that I dared criticize her driving

choices. I hope you manage to get rid of the gift car soon...maybe since your

parents think it's so special you can regift it to them one day!

Eliza

>

> Nada/Fada took my girl home, helped her pick up her car (their old car handed

down) from the shop. The car was NOT fixed correctly, stalled out and granddad

was the only one who could drive it back to the shop. The POS car cost us $700

this time (it's always breaking down), and that was for a used part since the

new part alone is over 1k and involves tearing the engine down to replace.

>

> This car is a gift and a curse. Nada/Fada keep patting themselves on the back

for 'gifting' it, waxing on about it being a great car (BS!). We've been stuck

with this mess of a car and feeling we have no excuse/no money to get a better

one.

>

> Nada/Fada were put out for a change, and got to experience some of the FUN

we've had with their gift.

>

> My daughter experienced having my mother drive for a bit--she's become fairly

reckless and jerky. She also would not let my girl give her directions--and

ended up driving thru some real nasty area of Grand Rapids. The high point was

seeing a man beating on a woman while the neighbors cheered him on. My daughter

yelled " Grandma, THIS is why I told you NOT to take this road! "

>

> The more access my adult children have to their grandparents, the more they

see WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL THEM ALL THESE YEARS was not just me

" overreacting. " I wish I had a nickle for all the times my kids thought I was

just being over protective or being oversensitive.

>

> The repair shop determined the used part is crap, and are looking for another

used part to redo the repair at no charge, plus giving my girl a loaner as an

apology :-)

>

[Guest guest]

that must be so validating! Not that we want our kids to suffer at nada's

hands, but if that's what it takes sometimes to get them to see that we're not

making this stuff up...

>

> Nada/Fada took my girl home, helped her pick up her car (their old car handed

down) from the shop. The car was NOT fixed correctly, stalled out and granddad

was the only one who could drive it back to the shop. The POS car cost us $700

this time (it's always breaking down), and that was for a used part since the

new part alone is over 1k and involves tearing the engine down to replace.

>

> This car is a gift and a curse. Nada/Fada keep patting themselves on the back

for 'gifting' it, waxing on about it being a great car (BS!). We've been stuck

with this mess of a car and feeling we have no excuse/no money to get a better

one.

>

> Nada/Fada were put out for a change, and got to experience some of the FUN

we've had with their gift.

>

> My daughter experienced having my mother drive for a bit--she's become fairly

reckless and jerky. She also would not let my girl give her directions--and

ended up driving thru some real nasty area of Grand Rapids. The high point was

seeing a man beating on a woman while the neighbors cheered him on. My daughter

yelled " Grandma, THIS is why I told you NOT to take this road! "

>

> The more access my adult children have to their grandparents, the more they

see WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL THEM ALL THESE YEARS was not just me

" overreacting. " I wish I had a nickle for all the times my kids thought I was

just being over protective or being oversensitive.

>

> The repair shop determined the used part is crap, and are looking for another

used part to redo the repair at no charge, plus giving my girl a loaner as an

apology :-)

>

[Guest guest]

You said the " C word - criticize. ALL their decisions are good ones, and heaven

forbid anyone who suggests otherwise to the Queen. When things go wrong, the

Queen is still the queen--just now the persecuted victim too.

The hilarious part is my mother knows zip about Grand Rapids--but no one can

tell her anything, since she is expert on every subject.

> >

> > Nada/Fada took my girl home, helped her pick up her car (their old car

handed down) from the shop. The car was NOT fixed correctly, stalled out and

granddad was the only one who could drive it back to the shop. The POS car cost

us $700 this time (it's always breaking down), and that was for a used part

since the new part alone is over 1k and involves tearing the engine down to

replace.

> >

> > This car is a gift and a curse. Nada/Fada keep patting themselves on the

back for 'gifting' it, waxing on about it being a great car (BS!). We've been

stuck with this mess of a car and feeling we have no excuse/no money to get a

better one.

> >

> > Nada/Fada were put out for a change, and got to experience some of the FUN

we've had with their gift.

> >

> > My daughter experienced having my mother drive for a bit--she's become

fairly reckless and jerky. She also would not let my girl give her

directions--and ended up driving thru some real nasty area of Grand Rapids. The

high point was seeing a man beating on a woman while the neighbors cheered him

on. My daughter yelled " Grandma, THIS is why I told you NOT to take this road! "

> >

> > The more access my adult children have to their grandparents, the more they

see WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL THEM ALL THESE YEARS was not just me

" overreacting. " I wish I had a nickle for all the times my kids thought I was

just being over protective or being oversensitive.

> >

> > The repair shop determined the used part is crap, and are looking for

another used part to redo the repair at no charge, plus giving my girl a loaner

as an apology :-)

> >

>

[Guest guest]

My nada too!  All of a sudden she's an expert on the army and all of its

protocol because my dad was a vet.  My SO is active and when his ordres change

she's convinced he's lying ot me, not that the US Army does change its mind once

in a while.

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Tuesday, October 25, 2011 1:48 PM

Subject: Re: Send me strength - and another thing!

 

You said the " C word - criticize. ALL their decisions are good ones, and heaven

forbid anyone who suggests otherwise to the Queen. When things go wrong, the

Queen is still the queen--just now the persecuted victim too.

The hilarious part is my mother knows zip about Grand Rapids--but no one can

tell her anything, since she is expert on every subject.

> >

> > Nada/Fada took my girl home, helped her pick up her car (their old car

handed down) from the shop. The car was NOT fixed correctly, stalled out and

granddad was the only one who could drive it back to the shop. The POS car cost

us $700 this time (it's always breaking down), and that was for a used part

since the new part alone is over 1k and involves tearing the engine down to

replace.

> >

> > This car is a gift and a curse. Nada/Fada keep patting themselves on the

back for 'gifting' it, waxing on about it being a great car (BS!). We've been

stuck with this mess of a car and feeling we have no excuse/no money to get a

better one.

> >

> > Nada/Fada were put out for a change, and got to experience some of the FUN

we've had with their gift.

> >

> > My daughter experienced having my mother drive for a bit--she's become

fairly reckless and jerky. She also would not let my girl give her

directions--and ended up driving thru some real nasty area of Grand Rapids. The

high point was seeing a man beating on a woman while the neighbors cheered him

on. My daughter yelled " Grandma, THIS is why I told you NOT to take this road! "

> >

> > The more access my adult children have to their grandparents, the more they

see WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL THEM ALL THESE YEARS was not just me

" overreacting. " I wish I had a nickle for all the times my kids thought I was

just being over protective or being oversensitive.

> >

> > The repair shop determined the used part is crap, and are looking for

another used part to redo the repair at no charge, plus giving my girl a loaner

as an apology :-)

> >

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