Darrell Hammond interview

[Guest guest]

If you go to CNN's homepage today, there's a really interesting interview with

Darrell Hammond, formerly of Saturday Night Live. Apparently his father was a

disconnected war vet who suffered from PSD, while Darrell's mother physically

abused him. He talks about having to be checked into psych wards during the time

he worked for SNL. Very interesting, haunting interview. His body language is

really telling.

[Guest guest]

Wow. You're totally right about the body language. Spooked me.

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> If you go to CNN's homepage today, there's a really interesting interview with

Darrell Hammond, formerly of Saturday Night Live. Apparently his father was a

disconnected war vet who suffered from PSD, while Darrell's mother physically

abused him. He talks about having to be checked into psych wards during the time

he worked for SNL. Very interesting, haunting interview. His body language is

really telling.

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[Guest guest]

I'll have to check that out. thanks!

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> If you go to CNN's homepage today, there's a really interesting interview with

Darrell Hammond, formerly of Saturday Night Live. Apparently his father was a

disconnected war vet who suffered from PSD, while Darrell's mother physically

abused him. He talks about having to be checked into psych wards during the time

he worked for SNL. Very interesting, haunting interview. His body language is

really telling.

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[Guest guest]

Just watched this. Oh my - the wounds...the wounds. So diabolical that this

man's twisted mother could say something seemingly nice, but wicked to him on

her deathbed. These people really know how to try to cover their tracks while

stabbing you in the heart. Just like the rest of us, it is clear he is still

searching for the root cause of what his mother did to him. A sad and

definitely haunting interview. Bless Darrell Hammond. I wish him peace in the

future.

Tag

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> > If you go to CNN's homepage today, there's a really interesting interview

with Darrell Hammond, formerly of Saturday Night Live. Apparently his father was

a disconnected war vet who suffered from PSD, while Darrell's mother physically

abused him. He talks about having to be checked into psych wards during the time

he worked for SNL. Very interesting, haunting interview. His body language is

really telling.

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[Guest guest]

Wow. Thank you for sharing that info Ambertolina. The pain in Darrell's voice

and face was hard to watch and I found myself tearing up. He said something

that really resonated with me, that this horrific abuse happened to him when he

was alone with his mother and there were no witnesses, and that his dad was not

abusive but also was not aware of the tortures his wife was inflicting on their

child, and didn't rescue Darrell.

Kids often do not share such things with their other, non-abusive parent; I

never did. I didn't talk to dad about how mom treated me. I think it was out

of shame; nada made me believe that I *deserved the abuse* and that the

screaming, slapping, and beatings with the belt, and rages and name-calling

were " normal " and done *because she loved me.*

And its my gut feeling that even when there is more brutal and life-threatening

level of physical torture that Darrell was subjected to, there is a very real

possibility that if the child tells the non-abusive parent, the child will not

be believed. Or the child will be told that he or she is exaggerating, lying

to get attention, trying to get the abusive parent " in trouble " , and that the

resulting payback from the abusive parent will be much, much worse.

I found it touching that Darrell still wanted to forgive his mother; he said

that she had been a innocent child once and " somebody had to have done something

to her to make her into the way she was. "

That statement makes me feel compelled to bring forward a key point: I would say

to Darrell, " Darrell, YOU were a victim of chronic, horrific psychological and

physical torture too, *but you did not turn into a child-torturer, yourself* "

Instead, Darrell became like his father: he turned his pain inward, reenacting

the trauma he experienced against himself. Darrell's mother, like mine, turned

her pain outward and became a monster to her own children.

I think that is a profound and fundamental behavioral difference that needs to

be addressed and studied and understood: " acting in " vs " acting out. "

My own personal theory (not a scientific study, just my own opinion) is that

chronic childhood abuse and trauma that results only in SELF-destructive

behaviors in the adult means that that individual victim managed to dodge the

personality-disorder bullet. These people are trauma victims and received

psychological damage, but are not personality-disordered. Such individuals are

filled with self-loathing and lack that sense of entitlement to inflict pain,

blame others for their problems or " get even " with them.

I theorize that those who may or may not have experienced childhood mistreatment

/ neglect / torture / abuse who grow up to act out: inflict their own internal

pain on others, particularly on their own children, have the inherent

temperamental, epigenetic brain mis-wiring that we call " personality disorder. "

These are the individuals who feel entitled to make others hurt when they

themselves are hurting, to blame others for causing their pain, and who lack

compassion for those they harm. (In fact, they feel much, much better after

inflicting pain on someone else.)

I hope that these profoundly destructive behavioral difference can be explored

and explained and cured with future scientific research studies.

-Annie

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> If you go to CNN's homepage today, there's a really interesting interview with

Darrell Hammond, formerly of Saturday Night Live. Apparently his father was a

disconnected war vet who suffered from PSD, while Darrell's mother physically

abused him. He talks about having to be checked into psych wards during the time

he worked for SNL. Very interesting, haunting interview. His body language is

really telling.

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[Guest guest]

That's very profound, Annie.

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> > If you go to CNN's homepage today, there's a really interesting interview

with Darrell Hammond, formerly of Saturday Night Live. Apparently his father was

a disconnected war vet who suffered from PSD, while Darrell's mother physically

abused him. He talks about having to be checked into psych wards during the time

he worked for SNL. Very interesting, haunting interview. His body language is

really telling.

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