New to group

[Guest guest]

Do these types of nadas...do they feel love towards their kids......?

I know they are not sociopathic but do they care about us?

Blessings

Twyla

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[Guest guest]

I am new to the group, too. I sure can identify with what you said about

unlearning behaviors that you grew up seeing. Until I got more information

about all this, I didn't realize how distorted my mother's way of thinking and

living was. It is a relief to find out others have similar experiences. I

always felt like my family was so different from other families and that my

mother was not like all of my friends' mothers. I would feel embarrassed and

then guilty for being embarrassed about me own mother. I am still struggling

with the whole loyalty and betrayal thing, feeling like I am betraying her by

saying anything about her in therapy or on here. Thank God for places like

this, where you can express yourself openly and not have people judge you.

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> Just finished the first 'Eggshell' book and what a relief to find a place like

this. All this time I felt I was alone, and nobody had a wacky life like me.

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> Mom was the bpd in our family. What a piece of work. For a long time I

thought I had it too, but through therapy have learned that much of it was

learned behaviors that I thought were normal. Now that I have unlearned them, I

feel much better about life. She may have done the best she could, but what a

lot of manipulation and poison she put out. I think her mother may have had it

too.

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> Still, when stressful times occur I fall back into the old thinking patterns

and sadnesses. My youngest son just left for college and that triggered a lot

of bad feelings and revived some unpleasant issues. I guess bpd is just the

gift that keeps on giving.

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> Recently in my therapy I have been working on forgiveness and just being more

aware of the moment. That is really helpful.

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> Jane

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