Re: Its the most wonderful time of the year! *gag*

[Guest guest]

Wow, that's a whole lotta crazy there. I admire your resolve big_sister. What

a relief once she's out of the country though? About showing their butts, I

instantly got an image of those monkeys at the zoo with the colorful butts.

They are trying to send a message with their colors and so are these nadas and

fadas. But whether it's Thanksgiving or just any regular day, they still are

who they are (no matter what color their butts are) and we still are who we

are....so stay strong!

Eliza

>

> We are approaching Thanksgiving in 2 weeks.

>

> Statistically, this is when all nada's and fada's around the world (so I hear)

decide to really show their butts. More than usual.

>

> My nada has an eruption brewing. One of the recent poster's said her strategy

was avoid and refuse to engage, which has so far worked for me. But as my mom

sells off all her " worldly belongings " in prep for moving to South America, she

has come up with a great strategy for getting into my house.

>

> Since her previous attempts to visit IN MY house (raging at me on the phone,

showing up unannounced to my door and banging on my door half an hour or longer)

did not work, she called me the other day sounding really pitiful, in her waify

voice -

> " I don't really have that much furniture left since I am selling everything. I

figured we could have Thanksgiving breakfast at your house and I'll just bring

the food "

>

> I'm not doing it. And I know she is going to explode. She is already mad that

I'm not making a big deal about her leaving the country. And yesterday I got two

voicemails that were very angry.

>

> One of them she waited until it started to record to slam the phone down

without saying a word. The other, on my cell, she simply said in an angry tone

" This is your mother! You know the number! " . Click.

>

> I refuse to return angry voicemails. I just refuse. I don't respond to

tantrums.

>

>

> Thank you for reading such a long post, but I am just gearing up for the Grand

Finale of All Holiday Seasons as she prepares for her " big move " to become a

" big martyr " in a foreign country.

>

> She's already talking non-stop about her burial wishes with my brothers in an

attempt to get attention. And the sucky thing is even though its great she'll be

in another country, the drama won't stop when she crosses the border.

>

>

> I pledge to enjoy this holiday season and not let her craziness destroy my

family's joy!!!!

>

[Guest guest]

I too applaud your courage and strength and clear headedness. I wish you well

and peace of mind.

Recently my husband had to draw the line in the sand yet again with his nada

regarding staying at our home. She cannot stay with us at a family wedding

coming in the new year. She is angry and sure he has misplaced anger at her that

should be towards his siblings. She has always been very good at the divide and

conquere with her children and none of them have good relationships with one

another due to this. She told him four times in their last conversation that he

needed help ( inferring counseling). He told me she was right, he does need

help, and he is helping himself by keeping her away.

Best to you,

True

> > >

> > > We are approaching Thanksgiving in 2 weeks.

> > >

> > > Statistically, this is when all nada's and fada's around the world (so I

hear) decide to really show their butts. More than usual.

> > >

> > > My nada has an eruption brewing. One of the recent poster's said her

strategy was avoid and refuse to engage, which has so far worked for me. But as

my mom sells off all her " worldly belongings " in prep for moving to South

America, she has come up with a great strategy for getting into my house.

> > >

> > > Since her previous attempts to visit IN MY house (raging at me on the

phone, showing up unannounced to my door and banging on my door half an hour or

longer) did not work, she called me the other day sounding really pitiful, in

her waify voice -

> > > " I don't really have that much furniture left since I am selling

everything. I figured we could have Thanksgiving breakfast at your house and

I'll just bring the food "

> > >

> > > I'm not doing it. And I know she is going to explode. She is already mad

that I'm not making a big deal about her leaving the country. And yesterday I

got two voicemails that were very angry.

> > >

> > > One of them she waited until it started to record to slam the phone down

without saying a word. The other, on my cell, she simply said in an angry tone

" This is your mother! You know the number! " . Click.

> > >

> > > I refuse to return angry voicemails. I just refuse. I don't respond to

tantrums.

> > >

> > >

> > > Thank you for reading such a long post, but I am just gearing up for the

Grand Finale of All Holiday Seasons as she prepares for her " big move " to become

a " big martyr " in a foreign country.

> > >

> > > She's already talking non-stop about her burial wishes with my brothers in

an attempt to get attention. And the sucky thing is even though its great she'll

be in another country, the drama won't stop when she crosses the border.

> > >

> > >

> > > I pledge to enjoy this holiday season and not let her craziness destroy my

family's joy!!!!

> > >

> >

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