Guest guest Posted November 1, 2010 Report Share Posted November 1, 2010  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2010 Report Share Posted November 1, 2010 Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2010 Report Share Posted November 1, 2010 Kate once he gets served it hopefully will get easier for you. Continued prayers. Hugs nne To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world""May the Lord Bless you and keep you,May the Lord Make his face shine upon you, and give you Peace...Forever"Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://breastcancerpatientssoulmatesforlife.bravehost.com/ Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancerhttp://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancerAngel Feather Loomerwww.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.comThe Cancer Clubwww.cancerclub.com Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Share photos & screenshots in seconds... Try FREE IM ToolPack at www.imtoolpack.com Works in all emails, instant messengers, blogs, forums and social networks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2010 Report Share Posted November 1, 2010 good gravy sweetitie!! ok im taking slow,deep breaths for you....its going to all work out. have you talked to kids yet? one step at a time....big hugs!!! SHALONDA "Me + God's grace & forgiveness can overcome any & everything" Subject: Re: Kate..divorceTo: MSersLife Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 6:00 PM Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2010 Report Share Posted November 1, 2010 I so appreciate the prayers. Thank you.love,KateTo: mserslife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 6:17:29 PMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce Kate once he gets served it hopefully will get easier for you. Continued prayers. Hugs nne To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world""May the Lord Bless you and keep you,May the Lord Make his face shine upon you, and give you Peace...Forever"Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://breastcancerpatientssoulmatesforlife.bravehost.com/ Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancerhttp://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancerAngel Feather Loomerwww.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.comThe Cancer Clubwww.cancerclub.com Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Share photos & screenshots in seconds... Try FREE IM ToolPack at www.imtoolpack.com Works in all emails, instant messengers, blogs, forums and social networks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 Thanks, Shalonda. I'm trying to take slow, deepbreaths also. I have been really racy about all this.I am not sure at what point I'll talk to the kids, butLloyd is taking to a hockey tournament overThanksgiving, and I'll have the older kids to myselfon Friday. I'm thinking that might be a good time,and then I'll tell the 10 year old one-on-one. I willtell the older kids to not share it with him, until Ihave had time with him. Otherwise, I'll just tell themwhen they are all together again, but that may not beuntil Christmas...I'm going to ask my therapist aboutit, and get her thoughts on it.Thank you for writing.love, KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 6:35:06 PMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce good gravy sweetitie!! ok im taking slow,deep breaths for you....its going to all work out. have you talked to kids yet? one step at a time....big hugs!!! SHALONDA "Me + God's grace & forgiveness can overcome any & everything" Subject: Re: Kate..divorceTo: MSersLife Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 6:00 PM Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 JUST SO YOU KNOW-I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!! IM HERE IF U NEED ME SWEETIE. HUGS....... SHALONDA "Me + God's grace & forgiveness can overcome any & everything" Subject: Re: Kate..divorceTo: MSersLife Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 6:00 PM Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 Thank you for saying that, Shalonda. That means somuch to me. I forget if you said that you've beenthrough this also? It is harder than I could haveever imagined, and it is only the beginning. I thinkit is going to get worse before it gets better. ThinkI'm in for an ugly one.Hugs back atcha,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Tue, November 2, 2010 8:27:02 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce JUST SO YOU KNOW-I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!! IM HERE IF U NEED ME SWEETIE. HUGS....... SHALONDA "Me + God's grace & forgiveness can overcome any & everything" Subject: Re: Kate..divorceTo: MSersLife Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 6:00 PM Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 you're welcome. I havee never been through it myself,but i've been on the sideline w/ a few friends. Just have faith--god wont take u to something,he cant bring you through....or something like that im spacey today! Remember why you're doing it,its gonna be o.k sweetie. HUGS....HUGS....HUGS..... SHALONDA "Me + God's grace & forgiveness can overcome any & everything" Subject: Re: Kate..divorceTo: MSersLife Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 6:00 PM Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 I keep praying this is what God wants me to do. I don't think God wants me to be miserable, or the kids to be unhappy as well. I'll try and have faith.Spacey from what?Thanks for all the hugs sweetie, I need them!Hugs back to you,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Tue, November 2, 2010 9:10:09 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce you're welcome. I havee never been through it myself,but i've been on the sideline w/ a few friends. Just have faith--god wont take u to something,he cant bring you through....or something like that im spacey today! Remember why you're doing it,its gonna be o.k sweetie. HUGS....HUGS....HUGS..... SHALONDA "Me + God's grace & forgiveness can overcome any & everything" Subject: Re: Kate..divorceTo: MSersLife Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 6:00 PM Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 that's true.i don't know my mind is going crazy today,i cant focus. who knows i have hus galore.....we'll never run out girl!!! hahaha SHALONDA "Me + God's grace & forgiveness can overcome any & everything" Subject: Re: Kate..divorceTo: MSersLife Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 6:00 PM Wow, Jen, can't believe you wrote about this just today...asit is today that I contacted the lawyer, first by email. Then hecalled me. On my cell phone, as it is private...We're going toget the ball rolling---he is going to file in court and get what hecalled an index #. From there, he has 120 days to serve himpapers. I am really worried about that. I hope we can arrangeto have him served when the kids are at school, and he is homefrom work; which is hard to coordinate, as he works 5 to 7 days a week. My anxiety level is through the roof! I'm just freaking outabout how he is going to respond...He bought me a dozen red roses yesterday, and wanted to give mea neck massage which I turned down a number of times, as he didn't want to take no for an answer. I think he's starting to realize I meanbusiness this time...I need to start sleeping on the couch though to really give him the message. He had offered to, but crept back into bed saying the couch was too uncomfortable for him. Poor him.I'm trying to take one minute at a time, and one hour at a time. I take this all very seriously. I don't completely think he does.Thanks for listening to me vent!love, Kate To: MSersLife Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 9:57:23 AMSubject: Re: Kate..divorce  Kate, I know how hard it is to believe this right now, but you will get through this and so will your husband.... It takes time and effort, but it is worth it in the long run if it makes you happier.... Jen H Re: stuff It's good for me, Jen,to hear stories of folks such as yourself, thathas survived a divorce. I just don't know howI am going to get through it. I think I'll handleit better than my husband will. I think he willdissolve into tears and then rant and rave as well.Thanks for sharing your story,hugs,Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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