thoughts that helped me this week

[Guest guest]

I've adapted this from my Alanon program (in particular, a reading from Courage

to Change) because I could see immediately that, with just a few changes it fit

my situation in coping with a family member with BPD:

" [Personality disorders contribute to a family disease that affects not only

the personality-disordered-person], but [to every one of] us who care about him

or her as well. For some of us, much of the thinking that has been passed down

from generation to generation has been distorted.

By my presence at meetings [i.e. in fellowship with others suffering from a

broken family system] I have committed myself to breaking those unhealthy

patterns. As I continue to be part of [a fellowship devoted to understanding

this dysfunction,] I begin to heal, to find sanity and peace, and to feel much

better about myself. I am no longer playing my old role in the [disordered

family system] and so the entire family situation begins to change. Ironically,

when I give up worrying about everyone else and focus on my own health, I give

others the freedom to consider their own recovery.

Today's Reminder

One person's recovery can have a powerful impact on the whole family [and

perhaps, work situation as well]. When I take care of myself, I may be doing

more than I realize to help loved ones who suffer from this family disease.

" If one person gets well, the whole family situation improves. " L w/S

Does ths ever resonate with me today! I am very grateful for these low-cost

approaches where shared thinking helps us to recover!

[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing! It is so true that we can only help ourselves and it's

comforting to know that in doing that we might actually wind up helping other

people too.

>

> I've adapted this from my Alanon program (in particular, a reading from

Courage to Change) because I could see immediately that, with just a few

changes it fit my situation in coping with a family member with BPD:

>

> " [Personality disorders contribute to a family disease that affects not only

the personality-disordered-person], but [to every one of] us who care about him

or her as well. For some of us, much of the thinking that has been passed down

from generation to generation has been distorted.

>

> By my presence at meetings [i.e. in fellowship with others suffering from a

broken family system] I have committed myself to breaking those unhealthy

patterns. As I continue to be part of [a fellowship devoted to understanding

this dysfunction,] I begin to heal, to find sanity and peace, and to feel much

better about myself. I am no longer playing my old role in the [disordered

family system] and so the entire family situation begins to change. Ironically,

when I give up worrying about everyone else and focus on my own health, I give

others the freedom to consider their own recovery.

>

> Today's Reminder

>

> One person's recovery can have a powerful impact on the whole family [and

perhaps, work situation as well]. When I take care of myself, I may be doing

more than I realize to help loved ones who suffer from this family disease.

>

> " If one person gets well, the whole family situation improves. " L w/S

>

> Does ths ever resonate with me today! I am very grateful for these low-cost

approaches where shared thinking helps us to recover!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Wishing

Thanks, for a really concise, helpful post!

Sunspot

On Tue, Nov 15, 2011 at 4:41 PM, wishingitwasdifferent <

cartwright.heather@...> wrote:

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>

>

> Thanks for sharing! It is so true that we can only help ourselves and it's

> comforting to know that in doing that we might actually wind up helping

> other people too.

>

>

>

> >

> > I've adapted this from my Alanon program (in particular, a reading from

> Courage to Change) because I could see immediately that, with just a few

> changes it fit my situation in coping with a family member with BPD:

> >

> > " [Personality disorders contribute to a family disease that affects not

> only the personality-disordered-person], but [to every one of] us who care

> about him or her as well. For some of us, much of the thinking that has

> been passed down from generation to generation has been distorted.

> >

> > By my presence at meetings [i.e. in fellowship with others suffering

> from a broken family system] I have committed myself to breaking those

> unhealthy patterns. As I continue to be part of [a fellowship devoted to

> understanding this dysfunction,] I begin to heal, to find sanity and peace,

> and to feel much better about myself. I am no longer playing my old role in

> the [disordered family system] and so the entire family situation begins to

> change. Ironically, when I give up worrying about everyone else and focus

> on my own health, I give others the freedom to consider their own recovery.

> >

> > Today's Reminder

> >

> > One person's recovery can have a powerful impact on the whole family

> [and perhaps, work situation as well]. When I take care of myself, I may be

> doing more than I realize to help loved ones who suffer from this family

> disease.

> >

> > " If one person gets well, the whole family situation improves. " L w/S

> >

> > Does ths ever resonate with me today! I am very grateful for these

> low-cost approaches where shared thinking helps us to recover!

> >

> >

> >