Surprise attack!- why does she STILL surprise me???

[Guest guest]

GAWWWWW!!! I just have to vent a little.

Not to add to the million and one threads here about Facebook....

But months ago I blocked my mom from reading my wall and posts on Facebook. She

admitted to me pretty quickly after that she was using a mutual friend to " spy "

on me but would not tell me who.

I called up my aunt, her sister, who has long known my mom wasn't quite right. I

point blank asked her if she shared info from Facebook about me with my mom, to

which she said no.

My mom makes a big dramatic exit from Facebook and deletes her account. I didn't

believe it when she did it and knew she would never " disappear " from Facebook.

So to safegaurd myself, I blocked all 38 of our mutual friends, including family

members. Except my aunt, who told me she didn't share info with my mom. (you

know where this is going don't you???)

Getting to my point - I found out tonight, this aunt has given my mom her

Facebook ID and password and my mom has been logging in to her account to look

up my profile and my brothers!!! My mom was actually in the act tonight when I

found this out. I was livid. I called her up immediately (at 11pm), told her I

didn't appreciate being spied on, and I was going to tell her sister what she

was doing.

Very coy, she says " She knows I use her account to look at pictures and its my

business what I do " and I very happily said - " You can kiss that free ticket to

my profile goodbye because she is now officially blocked too! There is no one

left! " and she hung up on me.

I really truly believe my mom lied to my aunt about how she was going to use her

Facebook account and my aunt believed her. My aunt is the most genuine person I

know and would be/is going to be livid when she finds out how she was using her

account. She still doesn't know the extent of my mom's illness, even though she

knows she's " not right " . The flip side is, she may not be mad and may believe

the lies my mom tells her that I supposedly said about her. Who knows what will

happen.

I don't want to delete my account because there are really important connections

there that I cherish and am afraid I would lose touch with. But DAMN - why does

my mom's cunning evil blatant caniving manipulation of others to get her way

STILL surprise me!!!

I know I know - someone said the other day I was still processing through

separating my mom from her illness. But I'm damn close to being there at this

point.

Is there ANY WHERE TO GO to be safe from her violating my privacy?? I think it

was my T that said Evil was like a cockroach - just when you think you have

sealed up all the cracks, it finds a way to get in and you just have to keep

sealing up all the cracks until you are safe.

I just want to scream!!! I hope I can wind down and go to bed soon.

Thanks for listening, as always.

[Guest guest]

Oh, yucky. This is why so many of my friends have 2nd FB accounts. My nada found

my 2nd account (my unusual middle and maiden name) as it came up as a 'friend

suggestion' for her from mutual friends. I have since blocked every one of those

mutuals, including my own kids.

In this digital, internet age it is almost impossible to be invisible.

As for the aunt, I realize she thinks she means well. But sharing her id and

password with a KNOWN trouble maker is a breach of good sense and a dip into

dishrag land. She has proved herself an unsafe harbor.

>

> GAWWWWW!!! I just have to vent a little.

>

> Not to add to the million and one threads here about Facebook....

>

> But months ago I blocked my mom from reading my wall and posts on Facebook.

She admitted to me pretty quickly after that she was using a mutual friend to

" spy " on me but would not tell me who.

>

> I called up my aunt, her sister, who has long known my mom wasn't quite right.

I point blank asked her if she shared info from Facebook about me with my mom,

to which she said no.

>

> My mom makes a big dramatic exit from Facebook and deletes her account. I

didn't believe it when she did it and knew she would never " disappear " from

Facebook. So to safegaurd myself, I blocked all 38 of our mutual friends,

including family members. Except my aunt, who told me she didn't share info with

my mom. (you know where this is going don't you???)

>

> Getting to my point - I found out tonight, this aunt has given my mom her

Facebook ID and password and my mom has been logging in to her account to look

up my profile and my brothers!!! My mom was actually in the act tonight when I

found this out. I was livid. I called her up immediately (at 11pm), told her I

didn't appreciate being spied on, and I was going to tell her sister what she

was doing.

> Very coy, she says " She knows I use her account to look at pictures and its my

business what I do " and I very happily said - " You can kiss that free ticket to

my profile goodbye because she is now officially blocked too! There is no one

left! " and she hung up on me.

>

>

> I really truly believe my mom lied to my aunt about how she was going to use

her Facebook account and my aunt believed her. My aunt is the most genuine

person I know and would be/is going to be livid when she finds out how she was

using her account. She still doesn't know the extent of my mom's illness, even

though she knows she's " not right " . The flip side is, she may not be mad and may

believe the lies my mom tells her that I supposedly said about her. Who knows

what will happen.

>

>

> I don't want to delete my account because there are really important

connections there that I cherish and am afraid I would lose touch with. But DAMN

- why does my mom's cunning evil blatant caniving manipulation of others to get

her way STILL surprise me!!!

>

> I know I know - someone said the other day I was still processing through

separating my mom from her illness. But I'm damn close to being there at this

point.

>

> Is there ANY WHERE TO GO to be safe from her violating my privacy?? I think it

was my T that said Evil was like a cockroach - just when you think you have

sealed up all the cracks, it finds a way to get in and you just have to keep

sealing up all the cracks until you are safe.

>

> I just want to scream!!! I hope I can wind down and go to bed soon.

> Thanks for listening, as always.

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, I don't feel safe on Facebook at all. I'd rather communicate with my

friends via e-mail or Groups like this, where anonymity is easier to maintain.

-Annie(based on a randomly-generated e-mail address)

> >

> > GAWWWWW!!! I just have to vent a little.

> >

> > Not to add to the million and one threads here about Facebook....

> >

> > But months ago I blocked my mom from reading my wall and posts on Facebook.

She admitted to me pretty quickly after that she was using a mutual friend to

" spy " on me but would not tell me who.

> >

> > I called up my aunt, her sister, who has long known my mom wasn't quite

right. I point blank asked her if she shared info from Facebook about me with my

mom, to which she said no.

> >

> > My mom makes a big dramatic exit from Facebook and deletes her account. I

didn't believe it when she did it and knew she would never " disappear " from

Facebook. So to safegaurd myself, I blocked all 38 of our mutual friends,

including family members. Except my aunt, who told me she didn't share info with

my mom. (you know where this is going don't you???)

> >

> > Getting to my point - I found out tonight, this aunt has given my mom her

Facebook ID and password and my mom has been logging in to her account to look

up my profile and my brothers!!! My mom was actually in the act tonight when I

found this out. I was livid. I called her up immediately (at 11pm), told her I

didn't appreciate being spied on, and I was going to tell her sister what she

was doing.

> > Very coy, she says " She knows I use her account to look at pictures and its

my business what I do " and I very happily said - " You can kiss that free ticket

to my profile goodbye because she is now officially blocked too! There is no one

left! " and she hung up on me.

> >

> >

> > I really truly believe my mom lied to my aunt about how she was going to use

her Facebook account and my aunt believed her. My aunt is the most genuine

person I know and would be/is going to be livid when she finds out how she was

using her account. She still doesn't know the extent of my mom's illness, even

though she knows she's " not right " . The flip side is, she may not be mad and may

believe the lies my mom tells her that I supposedly said about her. Who knows

what will happen.

> >

> >

> > I don't want to delete my account because there are really important

connections there that I cherish and am afraid I would lose touch with. But DAMN

- why does my mom's cunning evil blatant caniving manipulation of others to get

her way STILL surprise me!!!

> >

> > I know I know - someone said the other day I was still processing through

separating my mom from her illness. But I'm damn close to being there at this

point.

> >

> > Is there ANY WHERE TO GO to be safe from her violating my privacy?? I think

it was my T that said Evil was like a cockroach - just when you think you have

sealed up all the cracks, it finds a way to get in and you just have to keep

sealing up all the cracks until you are safe.

> >

> > I just want to scream!!! I hope I can wind down and go to bed soon.

> > Thanks for listening, as always.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I think separate facebooks are a good suggestion. I only have a dummy account

now, in another name with no friends. but when I had a real account i didn't

use the real spelling of my name and I had my whole family blocked. I can't

imagine having family on something like that.

Though, sadly, I have to say, I don't have a single positive relationship with

anyone in my family. Not one. I have my dad to thank for that mostly, because he

character assassinates me to anyone who will listen, and always has. I really

never realized that until writing it just now...but I don't. I valued my

grandmother but she died in 2003. Everyone else has been influenced by his lies

and what I know now is my mother's covert and sometimes overt support of them.

>

> GAWWWWW!!! I just have to vent a little.

>

> Not to add to the million and one threads here about Facebook....

>

> But months ago I blocked my mom from reading my wall and posts on Facebook.

She admitted to me pretty quickly after that she was using a mutual friend to

" spy " on me but would not tell me who.

>

> I called up my aunt, her sister, who has long known my mom wasn't quite right.

I point blank asked her if she shared info from Facebook about me with my mom,

to which she said no.

>

> My mom makes a big dramatic exit from Facebook and deletes her account. I

didn't believe it when she did it and knew she would never " disappear " from

Facebook. So to safegaurd myself, I blocked all 38 of our mutual friends,

including family members. Except my aunt, who told me she didn't share info with

my mom. (you know where this is going don't you???)

>

> Getting to my point - I found out tonight, this aunt has given my mom her

Facebook ID and password and my mom has been logging in to her account to look

up my profile and my brothers!!! My mom was actually in the act tonight when I

found this out. I was livid. I called her up immediately (at 11pm), told her I

didn't appreciate being spied on, and I was going to tell her sister what she

was doing.

> Very coy, she says " She knows I use her account to look at pictures and its my

business what I do " and I very happily said - " You can kiss that free ticket to

my profile goodbye because she is now officially blocked too! There is no one

left! " and she hung up on me.

>

>

> I really truly believe my mom lied to my aunt about how she was going to use

her Facebook account and my aunt believed her. My aunt is the most genuine

person I know and would be/is going to be livid when she finds out how she was

using her account. She still doesn't know the extent of my mom's illness, even

though she knows she's " not right " . The flip side is, she may not be mad and may

believe the lies my mom tells her that I supposedly said about her. Who knows

what will happen.

>

>

> I don't want to delete my account because there are really important

connections there that I cherish and am afraid I would lose touch with. But DAMN

- why does my mom's cunning evil blatant caniving manipulation of others to get

her way STILL surprise me!!!

>

> I know I know - someone said the other day I was still processing through

separating my mom from her illness. But I'm damn close to being there at this

point.

>

> Is there ANY WHERE TO GO to be safe from her violating my privacy?? I think it

was my T that said Evil was like a cockroach - just when you think you have

sealed up all the cracks, it finds a way to get in and you just have to keep

sealing up all the cracks until you are safe.

>

> I just want to scream!!! I hope I can wind down and go to bed soon.

> Thanks for listening, as always.

>

[Guest guest]

This sounds like such typical nada behavior. They just can't

stand being blocked from whatever they want and they'll use

whoever they need to use to get their desires satisfied.

I think the only way to be safe from their prying and invasions

of privacy is to go far away and not let anyone know how to get

in touch with you. That's a high price to pay. My sister joined

the military the week after she graduated from college and never

let our nada know how to get in touch with her other than

through me. Our nada still tries to pry information out of me

and it seems likely that she tries to pry it out of other people

too. Unless other family members know and understand the

situation and agree with your attempts to keep your privacy, it

is easy for them to fall prey to a scheming nada who wants to

extract information.

At 01:40 AM 06/14/2011 big_sister_03 wrote:

>GAWWWWW!!! I just have to vent a little.

>

>Not to add to the million and one threads here about

>Facebook....

>

>But months ago I blocked my mom from reading my wall and posts

>on Facebook. She admitted to me pretty quickly after that she

>was using a mutual friend to " spy " on me but would not tell me

>who.

>

>I called up my aunt, her sister, who has long known my mom

>wasn't quite right. I point blank asked her if she shared info

>from Facebook about me with my mom, to which she said no.

>

>My mom makes a big dramatic exit from Facebook and deletes her

>account. I didn't believe it when she did it and knew she would

>never " disappear " from Facebook. So to safegaurd myself, I

>blocked all 38 of our mutual friends, including family members.

>Except my aunt, who told me she didn't share info with my mom.

>(you know where this is going don't you???)

>

>Getting to my point - I found out tonight, this aunt has given

>my mom her Facebook ID and password and my mom has been logging

>in to her account to look up my profile and my brothers!!! My

>mom was actually in the act tonight when I found this out. I

>was livid. I called her up immediately (at 11pm), told her I

>didn't appreciate being spied on, and I was going to tell her

>sister what she was doing.

>Very coy, she says " She knows I use her account to look at

>pictures and its my business what I do " and I very happily said

>- " You can kiss that free ticket to my profile goodbye because

>she is now officially blocked too! There is no one left! " and

>she hung up on me.

>

>

>I really truly believe my mom lied to my aunt about how she was

>going to use her Facebook account and my aunt believed her. My

>aunt is the most genuine person I know and would be/is going to

>be livid when she finds out how she was using her account. She

>still doesn't know the extent of my mom's illness, even though

>she knows she's " not right " . The flip side is, she may not be

>mad and may believe the lies my mom tells her that I supposedly

>said about her. Who knows what will happen.

>

>

>I don't want to delete my account because there are really

>important connections there that I cherish and am afraid I

>would lose touch with. But DAMN - why does my mom's cunning

>evil blatant caniving manipulation of others to get her way

>STILL surprise me!!!

>

>I know I know - someone said the other day I was still

>processing through separating my mom from her illness. But I'm

>damn close to being there at this point.

>

>Is there ANY WHERE TO GO to be safe from her violating my

>privacy?? I think it was my T that said Evil was like a

>cockroach - just when you think you have sealed up all the

>cracks, it finds a way to get in and you just have to keep

>sealing up all the cracks until you are safe.

>

>I just want to scream!!! I hope I can wind down and go to bed

>soon.

>Thanks for listening, as always.

>

--

Katrina