3 Years No Contact with BPD Mother!!!!

[Guest guest]

Hi All,

Well it has been a while since I have been into this group. I joined this group

over two years ago when I first found out that my mother has BPD........What a

group, sadly my account de activated so I have now opened a new one to come back

to the group.

I am now nearly 3 years NC from NADA, and boy what a 3 years of soul searching,

healing, finding me, grieving etc, its been hectic and an emotional rollercoster

ride to say the very least.

One thing I want to say is for me the best thing I have ever done is cut my BPD

Mother out of my life (I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY THAT AND MEAN IT)......I am

learning to FINALLY accept that she will never be the mother that I want her to

be and that she is ill and will never get help.

Im now finding me and I love it.

Lots of love and strength and blessings to y'all.

Claire xxx

[Guest guest]

I'm glad you have found the space you need to heal! I know it isn't always easy.

Glad you came back to share =)

[Guest guest]

Claire, I am so proud of you!!! You are three years old and finally tasting life

without the black cloud of doom standing between you and joy.

NC takes self-mastery, it's probably the hardest thing to undertake in life.

Humans are tribal and we are programmed from birth to bond and cling to family,

especially the mother. What happens when that mother is a Nada is a painful and

twisted thing.

I applaud your journey to find yourself (to use a portion of your words).

Wishing you peace, health and happiness,

AFB

>

> Hi All,

>

> Well it has been a while since I have been into this group. I joined this

group over two years ago when I first found out that my mother has

BPD........What a group, sadly my account de activated so I have now opened a

new one to come back to the group.

>

> I am now nearly 3 years NC from NADA, and boy what a 3 years of soul

searching, healing, finding me, grieving etc, its been hectic and an emotional

rollercoster ride to say the very least.

>

> One thing I want to say is for me the best thing I have ever done is cut my

BPD Mother out of my life (I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY THAT AND MEAN IT)......I

am learning to FINALLY accept that she will never be the mother that I want her

to be and that she is ill and will never get help.

>

> Im now finding me and I love it.

>

> Lots of love and strength and blessings to y'all.

>

> Claire xxx

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much.  The NC road has not been easy, I did not realise the emotional

damage nada had done to me, but I am slowly healing and finding out who I really

am.  I grieve for my lost childhood, like we all do, I grieve for the mother

that I will never have.  I know this is a life long journey of self discovery,

soul searching, and healing, and there will be bumps along the way along with

nice smooth roads too.

I feel like a butterfly where I once was a catterpillar, I am slowly growing.

Thanks again for your beautiful words

Claire xx

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Tuesday, 29 November 2011, 15:15

Subject: Re: 3 Years No Contact with BPD Mother!!!!

 

Claire, I am so proud of you!!! You are three years old and finally tasting life

without the black cloud of doom standing between you and joy.

NC takes self-mastery, it's probably the hardest thing to undertake in life.

Humans are tribal and we are programmed from birth to bond and cling to family,

especially the mother. What happens when that mother is a Nada is a painful and

twisted thing.

I applaud your journey to find yourself (to use a portion of your words).

Wishing you peace, health and happiness,

AFB

>

> Hi All,

>

> Well it has been a while since I have been into this group. I joined this

group over two years ago when I first found out that my mother has

BPD........What a group, sadly my account de activated so I have now opened a

new one to come back to the group.

>

> I am now nearly 3 years NC from NADA, and boy what a 3 years of soul

searching, healing, finding me, grieving etc, its been hectic and an emotional

rollercoster ride to say the very least.

>

> One thing I want to say is for me the best thing I have ever done is cut my

BPD Mother out of my life (I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY THAT AND MEAN IT)......I

am learning to FINALLY accept that she will never be the mother that I want her

to be and that she is ill and will never get help.

>

> Im now finding me and I love it.

>

> Lots of love and strength and blessings to y'all.

>

> Claire xxx

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Claire

I read your post and am trying to decide if that would be the best course of

action with my own NADA. My question to you is what repercussions happened as a

result of doing this? Did you feel alone after doing it (I'm a little afraid to

completely cut off my family)? What did you say to her?

Amy

>

> Hi All,

>

> Well it has been a while since I have been into this group. I joined this

group over two years ago when I first found out that my mother has

BPD........What a group, sadly my account de activated so I have now opened a

new one to come back to the group.

>

> I am now nearly 3 years NC from NADA, and boy what a 3 years of soul

searching, healing, finding me, grieving etc, its been hectic and an emotional

rollercoster ride to say the very least.

>

> One thing I want to say is for me the best thing I have ever done is cut my

BPD Mother out of my life (I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY THAT AND MEAN IT)......I

am learning to FINALLY accept that she will never be the mother that I want her

to be and that she is ill and will never get help.

>

> Im now finding me and I love it.

>

> Lots of love and strength and blessings to y'all.

>

> Claire xxx

>