Guest guest Posted June 19, 2011 Report Share Posted June 19, 2011 Hi. I am forty years old and just recently came to understand that my mother has BPD. I sought counseling for behavior my adult dauther was exhibiting when I was enlightened as to what my mother's behavior was indicative of. This has been overwhelming. I always knew something was amiss but never could figure out what. I stopped communicating with my mother over a year ago for self-preservation. I couldn't take it anymore. I am still working through this. I welcome any advice offered. Thank you for your time and response. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2011 Report Share Posted June 20, 2011 Welcome to the Group, Katz. Its not unusual for us adult kids of borderline pd mothers to only gain objectivity and insight about our situation later in life. It takes a while to come to terms with the whole concept that our mother isn't just " difficult " or " nervous " or as my dad put it, " high-strung " , that instead our mother actually has a serious mental illness. According to NIMH and the American Psychiatric Association, borderline pd is definitely a serious mental illness. It really helps to educate yourself about the disorder, it helps us to not take the negative behaviors they direct at us as personally. There are many good books out there now about borderline pd. My personal favorite, the one that felt like the author had opened up my skull and read my brainwaves, is " Understanding The Borderline Mother. " I've also heard that " Surviving A Borderline Parent " is good too. There are many books about setting boundaries for yourself, and about overcoming co-dependency. Knowledge is power, and knowing that there are other people out here in the Internet community who understand all too well what you've experienced, is also very powerful and healing. So, welcome. I hope being here helps you as much as it has been helping me. -Annie > > Hi. I am forty years old and just recently came to understand that my mother has BPD. I sought counseling for behavior my adult dauther was exhibiting when I was enlightened as to what my mother's behavior was indicative of. This has been overwhelming. I always knew something was amiss but never could figure out what. I stopped communicating with my mother over a year ago for self-preservation. I couldn't take it anymore. I am still working through this. I welcome any advice offered. Thank you for your time and response. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2011 Report Share Posted June 20, 2011 Welcome to the group! I have found this group very useful and comforting over the last few years, i was in my late thirties when I started putting the pieces togehter, and it does seem to be pretty common like people have said for this to be something we figure out later in life, probably because we have availed ourselves of all the help available to us and finally realize it is NOT originating in us. Please keep posting and reading and you will find it does get easier to identify and release the behavior they fling at once, once we know it's them and not us that is sick. > > Hi. I am forty years old and just recently came to understand that my mother has BPD. I sought counseling for behavior my adult dauther was exhibiting when I was enlightened as to what my mother's behavior was indicative of. This has been overwhelming. I always knew something was amiss but never could figure out what. I stopped communicating with my mother over a year ago for self-preservation. I couldn't take it anymore. I am still working through this. I welcome any advice offered. Thank you for your time and response. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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