Guest guest Posted December 7, 2011 Report Share Posted December 7, 2011 Hey everyone I ve not posted for a couple weeks. Been watching and scanning posts but not a lot of time to sit and post. My 9 yo grandson had a medical crisis, which turned out to be Juvenile Type 1 Diabetes. That sort of turns your world on its head. He is doing ok, as is my daughter, but it is a very, very rough time of transition emotionally. I ve been pondering the whole holiday experience. I know that for me, and perhaps for many of us, it has been a trying time at best throughout our lives. For myself, I ve long been somewhat of a grinch, scrooge combination. As in, I hate Christmas! It stressed me to the max! If you spent Christmas as a child with a Nada, is that any wonder? Still, last year, I made a conscious effort not to dwell on the negatives, and simply enjoy what I could and be stoic about the rest. I was a more pleasant guy than I had ever been as a result, and it was less of a drag for me as well. Still, it is a time of stress and testing. Some stuff just still hurts. I ve found a resource or 2 that have been helpful with the whole " Oh Crap its Christmas " moods. So I thought I d share it. Disclaimer, this site does operate from a Christian perspective, but deals with emotional healing and wholeness. It was recommended to me by my T, and I ve found some good stuff. If that is a problem for you, NP, just don t check it out. I think it is good stuff regardless, but don t want anyone to go there and feel ambushed. the site is www.impactministries.com <http://www.impactministries.com> Jim s is the guy who runs it. Under the store, 2 resources I found helpful. One is a series of meditations for healing, cd or mp3 , dealing with the negative crap we carry around because of the negative programming we grew under. The other is about Making Holiday Memories. Similar, but specific to the holidays and unwinding the knot Nada s tied our guts into regarding the holidays. It comes in mp3, cd, and dvd. Again, I found some stuff that helped the healing journey, especially for holidays. If it is for you, then here it is, shared. Either way, be gentle with yourselves in the weeks ahead. This can be a trying time. Be around people who love you. Find the calm, serene places in your spirit and let them nurture you. Despite what the internal voices may still be telling you, you do deserve peace, and joy, and love. Despite Nada! Merry Christmas to all, and only the occasional Bah Humbug this year! Doug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2011 Report Share Posted December 7, 2011 Hi Doug, this looks like it could really help, thanks! I too find Christmas full of mixed feelings many of them painful. My inner scrooge comes out the second they start playing the music in the stores and put up the decorations which seems earlier each year and brings back too many memories. Eliza > > > Hey everyone > > I ve not posted for a couple weeks. Been watching and scanning posts > but not a lot of time to sit and post. My 9 yo grandson had a medical > crisis, which turned out to be Juvenile Type 1 Diabetes. That sort of > turns your world on its head. He is doing ok, as is my daughter, but it > is a very, very rough time of transition emotionally. > > I ve been pondering the whole holiday experience. I know that for me, > and perhaps for many of us, it has been a trying time at best throughout > our lives. For myself, I ve long been somewhat of a grinch, scrooge > combination. As in, I hate Christmas! It stressed me to the max! If > you spent Christmas as a child with a Nada, is that any wonder? > > Still, last year, I made a conscious effort not to dwell on the > negatives, and simply enjoy what I could and be stoic about the rest. I > was a more pleasant guy than I had ever been as a result, and it was > less of a drag for me as well. > > Still, it is a time of stress and testing. Some stuff just still hurts. > > I ve found a resource or 2 that have been helpful with the whole " Oh > Crap its Christmas " moods. So I thought I d share it. Disclaimer, > this site does operate from a Christian perspective, but deals with > emotional healing and wholeness. It was recommended to me by my T, and > I ve found some good stuff. If that is a problem for you, NP, just don > t check it out. I think it is good stuff regardless, but don t want > anyone to go there and feel ambushed. > > the site is > > www.impactministries.com <http://www.impactministries.com> > > Jim s is the guy who runs it. Under the store, 2 resources I > found helpful. One is a series of meditations for healing, cd or mp3 , > dealing with the negative crap we carry around because of the negative > programming we grew under. > > The other is about Making Holiday Memories. Similar, but specific to > the holidays and unwinding the knot Nada s tied our guts into regarding > the holidays. It comes in mp3, cd, and dvd. > > Again, I found some stuff that helped the healing journey, especially > for holidays. If it is for you, then here it is, shared. > > > > Either way, be gentle with yourselves in the weeks ahead. This can be a > trying time. Be around people who love you. Find the calm, serene > places in your spirit and let them nurture you. > > Despite what the internal voices may still be telling you, you do > deserve peace, and joy, and love. Despite Nada! > > Merry Christmas to all, and only the occasional Bah Humbug this year! > > Doug > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2011 Report Share Posted December 7, 2011 Hi Doug I'm so glad to hear that your Grandson is doing better, this must have been such a terribly difficult time for you and your family. It is so hard to see our loved ones, especially the children, go through something like this, I don't know if we can ever really prepare for it. It feels like getting hit by a low flying train. Totally unexpected. Plus, this time of year, our own discomfort and inner struggles are compounded by the " Holiday Cheer Enforcement Committees, " complete with constant bombardment of sappy music, darling glowing children, adorably be-smudged with hot chocolate foam and cookie crumbs, joyfully posing in elf hats with fluffy puppies, or images of THE FAMILY, captured in the midst of snowball fights, hiding gifts, baking cookies, sledding, or visiting Granma and Granpa, appropriately clad, respectively , in checkered ruffled apron, plaid flannel, offering yet,* more* hot chocolate and snowman shaped cookies. With sprinkles. Yish. Yet, you're right. We don't have to let the disparity of our own pasts besmirch the " NOW " of our present. Thanks for reminding me. This alone was a terrific Christmas gift,( one that fits perfectly! ) and that I will put to very, very good use. I remember My Great Grandfather saying, that sometimes, we have to " " get over " ourselves, reach out to Grace, and trust a higher love is reaching back to us. " in order to overcome the effects of adversity. I used to blow this statement off, as preachy and naive. He always seemed so good-natured, gentle, and forgiving. I couldn't imagine any terrible adversity could have ever visited him. Recently, I found out, that he had spent a little over a year, around 11 or 12 years old, inexplicably blind, after witnessing a devastating accident. . . I understand his position so much better now, in my own adulthood, as one of strength and Grace. Your generous post and link reminds me of this, that we never know what grief, or challenges may be facing the person next to us, that there are no " small " kindnesses, that our " now " will be the memory a child or other loved one, will carry into the future, and reach to for strength and comfort. I guess can't help what happens to us, we can only choose how we behave. Thanks again for reminding me. You and your family are in my heart and prayers, holding you in the light, and genuine intent of this blessed season, as well loved and deserving children of the loving and benevolent God. Thanks for sharing. Sunspot On Wed, Dec 7, 2011 at 5:36 PM, eliza92@... < eliza92@...> wrote: > ** > > > Hi Doug, this looks like it could really help, thanks! I too find > Christmas full of mixed feelings many of them painful. My inner scrooge > comes out the second they start playing the music in the stores and put up > the decorations which seems earlier each year and brings back too many > memories. > > Eliza > > > > > > > > > Hey everyone > > > > I ve not posted for a couple weeks. Been watching and scanning posts > > but not a lot of time to sit and post. My 9 yo grandson had a medical > > crisis, which turned out to be Juvenile Type 1 Diabetes. That sort of > > turns your world on its head. He is doing ok, as is my daughter, but it > > is a very, very rough time of transition emotionally. > > > > I ve been pondering the whole holiday experience. I know that for me, > > and perhaps for many of us, it has been a trying time at best throughout > > our lives. For myself, I ve long been somewhat of a grinch, scrooge > > combination. As in, I hate Christmas! It stressed me to the max! If > > you spent Christmas as a child with a Nada, is that any wonder? > > > > Still, last year, I made a conscious effort not to dwell on the > > negatives, and simply enjoy what I could and be stoic about the rest. I > > was a more pleasant guy than I had ever been as a result, and it was > > less of a drag for me as well. > > > > Still, it is a time of stress and testing. Some stuff just still hurts. > > > > I ve found a resource or 2 that have been helpful with the whole " Oh > > Crap its Christmas " moods. So I thought I d share it. Disclaimer, > > this site does operate from a Christian perspective, but deals with > > emotional healing and wholeness. It was recommended to me by my T, and > > I ve found some good stuff. If that is a problem for you, NP, just don > > t check it out. I think it is good stuff regardless, but don t want > > anyone to go there and feel ambushed. > > > > the site is > > > > www.impactministries.com <http://www.impactministries.com> > > > > Jim s is the guy who runs it. Under the store, 2 resources I > > found helpful. One is a series of meditations for healing, cd or mp3 , > > dealing with the negative crap we carry around because of the negative > > programming we grew under. > > > > The other is about Making Holiday Memories. Similar, but specific to > > the holidays and unwinding the knot Nada s tied our guts into regarding > > the holidays. It comes in mp3, cd, and dvd. > > > > Again, I found some stuff that helped the healing journey, especially > > for holidays. If it is for you, then here it is, shared. > > > > > > > > Either way, be gentle with yourselves in the weeks ahead. This can be a > > trying time. Be around people who love you. Find the calm, serene > > places in your spirit and let them nurture you. > > > > Despite what the internal voices may still be telling you, you do > > deserve peace, and joy, and love. Despite Nada! > > > > Merry Christmas to all, and only the occasional Bah Humbug this year! > > > > Doug > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2011 Report Share Posted December 8, 2011 Doug! Thank you for this. I will for sure check it out. So sorry to hear about your grandson's diabetes diagnosis. I can imagine how scared your daughter and you are. I wish him the very best. Hugs, Fiona > > > Hey everyone > > I ve not posted for a couple weeks. Been watching and scanning posts > but not a lot of time to sit and post. My 9 yo grandson had a medical > crisis, which turned out to be Juvenile Type 1 Diabetes. That sort of > turns your world on its head. He is doing ok, as is my daughter, but it > is a very, very rough time of transition emotionally. > > I ve been pondering the whole holiday experience. I know that for me, > and perhaps for many of us, it has been a trying time at best throughout > our lives. For myself, I ve long been somewhat of a grinch, scrooge > combination. As in, I hate Christmas! It stressed me to the max! If > you spent Christmas as a child with a Nada, is that any wonder? > > Still, last year, I made a conscious effort not to dwell on the > negatives, and simply enjoy what I could and be stoic about the rest. I > was a more pleasant guy than I had ever been as a result, and it was > less of a drag for me as well. > > Still, it is a time of stress and testing. Some stuff just still hurts. > > I ve found a resource or 2 that have been helpful with the whole " Oh > Crap its Christmas " moods. So I thought I d share it. Disclaimer, > this site does operate from a Christian perspective, but deals with > emotional healing and wholeness. It was recommended to me by my T, and > I ve found some good stuff. If that is a problem for you, NP, just don > t check it out. I think it is good stuff regardless, but don t want > anyone to go there and feel ambushed. > > the site is > > www.impactministries.com <http://www.impactministries.com> > > Jim s is the guy who runs it. Under the store, 2 resources I > found helpful. One is a series of meditations for healing, cd or mp3 , > dealing with the negative crap we carry around because of the negative > programming we grew under. > > The other is about Making Holiday Memories. Similar, but specific to > the holidays and unwinding the knot Nada s tied our guts into regarding > the holidays. It comes in mp3, cd, and dvd. > > Again, I found some stuff that helped the healing journey, especially > for holidays. If it is for you, then here it is, shared. > > > > Either way, be gentle with yourselves in the weeks ahead. This can be a > trying time. Be around people who love you. Find the calm, serene > places in your spirit and let them nurture you. > > Despite what the internal voices may still be telling you, you do > deserve peace, and joy, and love. Despite Nada! > > Merry Christmas to all, and only the occasional Bah Humbug this year! > > Doug > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2011 Report Share Posted December 8, 2011 there have been some amazing breakthroughs in type 1 diabetes. my husband is a bio-chemist. he tried to explain it to me... in a nutshell they have been able to reverse it in a lab setting in mice. the process is currently going through the usual series of tests. and should be available in the next 10-15 years. we have this in my family too. the initial discovery is rough. thank you for sharing things to uplift us have a low-key Christmas! Meikjn > > > > > > Hey everyone > > > > I ve not posted for a couple weeks. Been watching and scanning posts > > but not a lot of time to sit and post. My 9 yo grandson had a medical > > crisis, which turned out to be Juvenile Type 1 Diabetes. That sort of > > turns your world on its head. He is doing ok, as is my daughter, but it > > is a very, very rough time of transition emotionally. > > > > I ve been pondering the whole holiday experience. I know that for me, > > and perhaps for many of us, it has been a trying time at best throughout > > our lives. For myself, I ve long been somewhat of a grinch, scrooge > > combination. As in, I hate Christmas! It stressed me to the max! If > > you spent Christmas as a child with a Nada, is that any wonder? > > > > Still, last year, I made a conscious effort not to dwell on the > > negatives, and simply enjoy what I could and be stoic about the rest. I > > was a more pleasant guy than I had ever been as a result, and it was > > less of a drag for me as well. > > > > Still, it is a time of stress and testing. Some stuff just still hurts. > > > > I ve found a resource or 2 that have been helpful with the whole " Oh > > Crap its Christmas " moods. So I thought I d share it. Disclaimer, > > this site does operate from a Christian perspective, but deals with > > emotional healing and wholeness. It was recommended to me by my T, and > > I ve found some good stuff. If that is a problem for you, NP, just don > > t check it out. I think it is good stuff regardless, but don t want > > anyone to go there and feel ambushed. > > > > the site is > > > > www.impactministries.com <http://www.impactministries.com> > > > > Jim s is the guy who runs it. Under the store, 2 resources I > > found helpful. One is a series of meditations for healing, cd or mp3 , > > dealing with the negative crap we carry around because of the negative > > programming we grew under. > > > > The other is about Making Holiday Memories. Similar, but specific to > > the holidays and unwinding the knot Nada s tied our guts into regarding > > the holidays. It comes in mp3, cd, and dvd. > > > > Again, I found some stuff that helped the healing journey, especially > > for holidays. If it is for you, then here it is, shared. > > > > > > > > Either way, be gentle with yourselves in the weeks ahead. This can be a > > trying time. Be around people who love you. Find the calm, serene > > places in your spirit and let them nurture you. > > > > Despite what the internal voices may still be telling you, you do > > deserve peace, and joy, and love. Despite Nada! > > > > Merry Christmas to all, and only the occasional Bah Humbug this year! > > > > Doug > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2011 Report Share Posted December 10, 2011 Thanks, Doug, for the timely information. You are so right: our BPD families did their best to suck the joy out of the holiday. > > > Hey everyone > > I ve not posted for a couple weeks. Been watching and scanning posts > but not a lot of time to sit and post. My 9 yo grandson had a medical > crisis, which turned out to be Juvenile Type 1 Diabetes. That sort of > turns your world on its head. He is doing ok, as is my daughter, but it > is a very, very rough time of transition emotionally. > > I ve been pondering the whole holiday experience. I know that for me, > and perhaps for many of us, it has been a trying time at best throughout > our lives. For myself, I ve long been somewhat of a grinch, scrooge > combination. As in, I hate Christmas! It stressed me to the max! If > you spent Christmas as a child with a Nada, is that any wonder? > > Still, last year, I made a conscious effort not to dwell on the > negatives, and simply enjoy what I could and be stoic about the rest. I > was a more pleasant guy than I had ever been as a result, and it was > less of a drag for me as well. > > Still, it is a time of stress and testing. Some stuff just still hurts. > > I ve found a resource or 2 that have been helpful with the whole " Oh > Crap its Christmas " moods. So I thought I d share it. Disclaimer, > this site does operate from a Christian perspective, but deals with > emotional healing and wholeness. It was recommended to me by my T, and > I ve found some good stuff. If that is a problem for you, NP, just don > t check it out. I think it is good stuff regardless, but don t want > anyone to go there and feel ambushed. > > the site is > > www.impactministries.com <http://www.impactministries.com> > > Jim s is the guy who runs it. Under the store, 2 resources I > found helpful. One is a series of meditations for healing, cd or mp3 , > dealing with the negative crap we carry around because of the negative > programming we grew under. > > The other is about Making Holiday Memories. Similar, but specific to > the holidays and unwinding the knot Nada s tied our guts into regarding > the holidays. It comes in mp3, cd, and dvd. > > Again, I found some stuff that helped the healing journey, especially > for holidays. If it is for you, then here it is, shared. > > > > Either way, be gentle with yourselves in the weeks ahead. This can be a > trying time. Be around people who love you. Find the calm, serene > places in your spirit and let them nurture you. > > Despite what the internal voices may still be telling you, you do > deserve peace, and joy, and love. Despite Nada! > > Merry Christmas to all, and only the occasional Bah Humbug this year! > > Doug > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2011 Report Share Posted December 11, 2011 And it's amazing what can twigger things. Just this afternoon I went to a chrismas party. I heard some carols from the record that nada had every year. Brought me sad feelings because i long for it to be different although i know it won't be. Steph Re: My KO buddies and family Thanks, Doug, for the timely information. You are so right: our BPD families did their best to suck the joy out of the holiday. Hey everyone I ve not posted for a couple weeks. Been watching and scanning posts but not a lot of time to sit and post. My 9 yo grandson had a medical crisis, which turned out to be Juvenile Type 1 Diabetes. That sort of turns your world on its head. He is doing ok, as is my daughter, but it is a very, very rough time of transition emotionally. I ve been pondering the whole holiday experience. I know that for me, and perhaps for many of us, it has been a trying time at best throughout our lives. For myself, I ve long been somewhat of a grinch, scrooge combination. As in, I hate Christmas! It stressed me to the max! If you spent Christmas as a child with a Nada, is that any wonder? Still, last year, I made a conscious effort not to dwell on the negatives, and simply enjoy what I could and be stoic about the rest. I was a more pleasant guy than I had ever been as a result, and it was less of a drag for me as well. Still, it is a time of stress and testing. Some stuff just still hurts. I ve found a resource or 2 that have been helpful with the whole " Oh Crap its Christmas " moods. So I thought I d share it. Disclaimer, this site does operate from a Christian perspective, but deals with emotional healing and wholeness. It was recommended to me by my T, and I ve found some good stuff. If that is a problem for you, NP, just don t check it out. I think it is good stuff regardless, but don t want anyone to go there and feel ambushed. the site is www.impactministries.com <http://www.impactministries.com Jim s is the guy who runs it. Under the store, 2 resources I found helpful. One is a series of meditations for healing, cd or mp3 , dealing with the negative crap we carry around because of the negative programming we grew under. The other is about Making Holiday Memories. Similar, but specific to the holidays and unwinding the knot Nada s tied our guts into regarding the holidays. It comes in mp3, cd, and dvd. Again, I found some stuff that helped the healing journey, especially for holidays. If it is for you, then here it is, shared. Either way, be gentle with yourselves in the weeks ahead. This can be a trying time. Be around people who love you. Find the calm, serene places in your spirit and let them nurture you. Despite what the internal voices may still be telling you, you do deserve peace, and joy, and love. Despite Nada! Merry Christmas to all, and only the occasional Bah Humbug this year! Doug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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