Nada is triangulating with my therapist and I don't know what do to...help?

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Jen, I'm so happy for you!!! Power to the people!

Good for you for speaking up. I am SO glad your therapist saw the light. That

situation was just too close for comfort.

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[Guest guest]

Jen,

I'm glad to hear that your therapist realized that seeing your

nada wasn't a good idea. Sometimes people don't see the whole

situation until a third party

points out the problems. It is good that she consulted with and

listened to her supervisor. Maybe this will help her to have

more understanding of what you're dealing with.

At 08:20 PM 12/13/2011 Hawthorne wrote:

>Good news! [image: Doing the right thing]

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>I had a phone conversation with my therapist today after

>sending her a

>short email yesterday where I basically said " I'm not terribly

>comfortable

>with you seeing my Mom in individual session like this as I'm

>concerned she

>may try to recruit you to " fix " me or otherwise undercut my

>therapy. Can we

>talk on the phone about this? "

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>So at 4pm today she called. I had been getting antsy, thinking

>she wasn't

>going to call and was just going to go ahead and see Mom

>individually

>tomorrow, in which case I really would have had no choice but

>to fire her.

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>To my substantial surprise (and relief), she profusely

>apologized.

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>She said she had run the situation by her supervisor and

>realized she was

>absolutely wrong to have agreed to see my Mom in individual

>session, that

>my Mom's case file was long closed at the agency, and that she

>had realized

>her focus needed to be on me, no matter how miserable my Mom

>seemed on the

>phone. She said she would call my Mom and cancel the

>appointment and

>suggest that Mom speak to the agency's intake coordinator about

>getting a

>therapist of her own, and then maybe at some point we could

>have a joint

>session with me, Mom, and our two therapists when (if) I felt

>comfortable

>with it.

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>So, I hope that attempt at triangulation has been well and

>truly squashed.

>I HOPE Mom will get a therapist of her own and start to work on

>some of her

>own stuff, but I'm not holding my breath; I truly believe she

>contacted B.

>not to get help for herself, but to stop ME from getting help

>and support

>from an outside source. Fortunately my therapist seems to have

>wised up to

>what was going on (maybe her supervisor was like, " You did

>*what*? " ) and

>that will be the end of that.

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>Thanks for all the support and suggestions you guys have given;

>it was

>really helpful to me to have a place to talk about this mess!

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>-- Jen

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

This is really great news! Give yourself a big pat on the back, way to go,

following up with T! And it's encouraging that she also recognized her ethical

duty is to you!

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> > Sveta

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