Re: light a candle for me tonight

[Guest guest]

The heck with lighting a candle - I'm praying that it rains!

>

> My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

>

> I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

>

> So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We have

to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with rush

hour.

>

> She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going if

it rains. "

>

> I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining tonight.

Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL BE RAINING

TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you know then. "

>

> I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that we

all be there.

>

> God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

>

> But, still, light a candle!!

>

> Thanks,

>

> Fiona

>

[Guest guest]

Rain dance rain dance rain dance!!!!

On Fri, Jun 24, 2011 at 7:04 AM, shirleyspawn wrote:

> **

>

>

> The heck with lighting a candle - I'm praying that it rains!

>

>

>

>

>

> >

> > My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

> >

> > I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

> purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit

> as often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

> >

> > So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We

> have to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer

> with rush hour.

> >

> > She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not

> going if it rains. "

> >

> > I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining

> tonight. Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL

> BE RAINING TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let

> you know then. "

> >

> > I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that

> we all be there.

> >

> > God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

> anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

> whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

> assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going

> to put her in her place early in the ride.

> >

> > But, still, light a candle!!

> >

> > Thanks,

> >

> > Fiona

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'm going to go wash the car, water the lawn, and hang laundry out! Good

Luck!!!

Sunspot

On Fri, Jun 24, 2011 at 9:43 AM, Girlscout Cowboy <

girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

> Rain dance rain dance rain dance!!!!

>

> On Fri, Jun 24, 2011 at 7:04 AM, shirleyspawn <talexander73@...

> >wrote:

>

> > **

> >

> >

> > The heck with lighting a candle - I'm praying that it rains!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> > > My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

> > >

> > > I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

> > purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't

> visit

> > as often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

> > >

> > > So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother.

> We

> > have to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe

> longer

> > with rush hour.

> > >

> > > She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not

> > going if it rains. "

> > >

> > > I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining

> > tonight. Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF

> IT'LL

> > BE RAINING TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let

> > you know then. "

> > >

> > > I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother

> that

> > we all be there.

> > >

> > > God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her

> annoying

> > anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue

> the

> > whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe

> even

> > assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm

> going

> > to put her in her place early in the ride.

> > >

> > > But, still, light a candle!!

> > >

> > > Thanks,

> > >

> > > Fiona

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Is this screening being held outdoors or something? *Rain* would keep her from

the screeing of one of her kid's most amazing achievements? Rain?

I don't even know this woman and I want nothing to do with her. No offense.

>

> My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

>

> I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

>

> So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We have

to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with rush

hour.

>

> She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going if

it rains. "

>

> I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining tonight.

Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL BE RAINING

TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you know then. "

>

> I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that we

all be there.

>

> God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

>

> But, still, light a candle!!

>

> Thanks,

>

> Fiona

>

[Guest guest]

No chance of pulling a switch and putting nada in a taxi, so that you can drive

there in peace, huh? Being trapped in a car with my nada would be my version of

a living hell, I think I'd rather live the rest of my life in a coma than ever

be alone in a car with my nada again.

You are made of stronger stuff than I am, " Gunga Din. " Best wishes coming your

way for strength and endurance. And best of luck to your brother for a

successful film! That's awesome!

-Annie

>

> My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

>

> I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

>

> So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We have

to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with rush

hour.

>

> She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going if

it rains. "

>

> I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining tonight.

Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL BE RAINING

TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you know then. "

>

> I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that we

all be there.

>

> God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

>

> But, still, light a candle!!

>

> Thanks,

>

> Fiona

>

[Guest guest]

I second the congrats - and the best wishes for a peaceful car ride.

Driving with nada used to turn me into a terrible driver- I went from really

good, safe driver to erratic, road-ragey-unsafe shouldn't really be behind the

wheel on occasions, lol. What I should have done is duct-taped her mouth so she

couldn't shriek when she saw another car (that was in a perfectly acceptable

place) thereby causing me to panic and swerve thinking I was about to plow into

something I didn't see. Arghhhh. She had my dad trained to screech the brakes at

yellow lights in his later years. It's a miracle he wasn't rear-ended. Double

arghhh.

> No chance of pulling a switch and putting nada in a taxi, so that you can

drive there in peace, huh? Being trapped in a car with my nada would be my

version of a living hell, I think I'd rather live the rest of my life in a coma

than ever be alone in a car with my nada again.

>

> You are made of stronger stuff than I am, " Gunga Din. " Best wishes coming your

way for strength and endurance. And best of luck to your brother for a

successful film! That's awesome!

>

> -Annie

[Guest guest]

Congratulations to your brother! I hope all goes well and either it rains and

keeps your nada home or a miracle happens and she shuts up. Lighting a candle

for you guys.

Eliza

>

> My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

>

> I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

>

> So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We have

to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with rush

hour.

>

> She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going if

it rains. "

>

> I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining tonight.

Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL BE RAINING

TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you know then. "

>

> I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that we

all be there.

>

> God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

>

> But, still, light a candle!!

>

> Thanks,

>

> Fiona

>

[Guest guest]

Writer, no offense taken! You nailed it on the head. This is one of her kids'

shining moments...but if it rains she's not coming.

It was held indoors at a gorgeous, historic building.

All the others who responded: thanks so much for making me laugh!!

Unfortunately, it didn't rain.

> >

> > My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

> >

> > I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

> >

> > So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We

have to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with

rush hour.

> >

> > She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going

if it rains. "

> >

> > I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining tonight.

Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL BE RAINING

TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you know then. "

> >

> > I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that we

all be there.

> >

> > God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

> >

> > But, still, light a candle!!

> >

> > Thanks,

> >

> > Fiona

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I wish I had shoved her in a cab. It was awful, Annie. I'll be posting about it

just to get it out of my system.

Thank you for your kind wishes; I am SO proud of my brother. It was a fantastic

short film. I hope he keeps doing more.

> >

> > My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

> >

> > I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

> >

> > So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We

have to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with

rush hour.

> >

> > She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going

if it rains. "

> >

> > I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining tonight.

Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL BE RAINING

TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you know then. "

> >

> > I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that we

all be there.

> >

> > God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

> >

> > But, still, light a candle!!

> >

> > Thanks,

> >

> > Fiona

> >

>

[Guest guest]

, it's funny you say that: the whole ride, she kept asking me -- in

Spanish, so my husband wouldn't understand -- " does he know where he's going?,

where did he get his directions?, are we almost there?? "

My SIX year old was better behaved.

>

> > No chance of pulling a switch and putting nada in a taxi, so that you can

drive there in peace, huh? Being trapped in a car with my nada would be my

version of a living hell, I think I'd rather live the rest of my life in a coma

than ever be alone in a car with my nada again.

> >

> > You are made of stronger stuff than I am, " Gunga Din. " Best wishes coming

your way for strength and endurance. And best of luck to your brother for a

successful film! That's awesome!

> >

> > -Annie

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Eliza!! He deserves it; such a nicely done film.

And thanks for the candle! Didn't work, but thanks! Maybe I should've

asked for a bonfire since we're dealing with crazy here.

> >

> > My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

> >

> > I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

> >

> > So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We

have to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with

rush hour.

> >

> > She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going

if it rains. "

> >

> > I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining tonight.

Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL BE RAINING

TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you know then. "

> >

> > I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that we

all be there.

> >

> > God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

> >

> > But, still, light a candle!!

> >

> > Thanks,

> >

> > Fiona

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm glad the even went well in spite of nada's pouty, hateful, critical presence

hovering about it like a black cloud. I think you handled it well!

This idea occurred to me: Maybe the next time such an event comes up, you could

try including nada in a different way: via technology.

Let her stay home where she feels safe and comfortable. You relay the event to

her " live " by phone, and/or " delayed " by taking little video clips as the event

progresses and giving her a DVD of it afterward. Maybe if you keep her in the

loop " live " , she'll feel like she's actually participating. She can speak with

those at the event and wish them well on their marriage or graduation or

whatever. A post-even DVD would be like a souvenir for her, and she might feel

more included if everyone says " hi " to her in the clips at some point, " Hi

mother, Wish you were here, we miss you " , " Look, here's little granddaughter

graduating from elementary school... say hi to grandma, sweetie... "

Nada may not be happy with that solution either, but, it would probably be less

stressful for you and your husband and kids during the event. Might result in

backlash afterward, but, might be worth a shot, anyway.

But, you're the only one who can know what will and will not work in your own

situation.

And I think your husband is awesome. He is willing to stand up for you and

protect you from your nada when needed. That completely rocks. He's a keeper.

If I were in your position, I would ask him to give nada an extra-severe

talking-to about not making any more ugly, hateful, malicious, critical comments

to your child.

That would bring out every mother-bear bristle in me, if I had a daughter.

Grrrr!

Either that, or teach your daughter that its OK to reply to grandma if grandma

insults her again: " Oh, just shut the f**k up, you hateful, malicious old

bitch! " No, maybe that's a bad idea. ;>

Just have your husband handle it, you've said he's good at managing nada.

-Annie

> > >

> > > My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

> > >

> > > I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives him

purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't visit as

often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

> > >

> > > So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my mother. We

have to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride, maybe longer with

rush hour.

> > >

> > > She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not going

if it rains. "

> > >

> > > I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining

tonight. Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL

BE RAINING TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let you

know then. "

> > >

> > > I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother that

we all be there.

> > >

> > > God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her annoying

anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native tongue the

whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight. Maybe even

assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce. I'm going to

put her in her place early in the ride.

> > >

> > > But, still, light a candle!!

> > >

> > > Thanks,

> > >

> > > Fiona

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Fiona,

I'm so glad the premier was a success ! Kudos to you and your immediate

family for doing everything possible to make your brothers terrifically

important day a really good one one!

My grandfather once told me that " some people are the happiest when they

are unhappy. " He could have added, " and when they are spoiling lovely life

affirming events for others, or when they are cannibalizing some

unsuspecting child's self esteem. "

You handled the whole situation with admirable fortitude, strength and

grace!

I think any creative endeavor is especially threatening to the BPD. I

don't know why, but these efforts really seem to trip their triggers.

I think what really *peeves* me the most, is the " truth bomb " attack on

your little girl. BPDs are malicious cowards. I like Annie's

* " NOMOBPD " *training collar idea! Now, where did I put that remote

control...

Best Wishes, Sunspot

On Sat, Jun 25, 2011 at 1:20 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

> **

>

>

> I'm glad the even went well in spite of nada's pouty, hateful, critical

> presence hovering about it like a black cloud. I think you handled it well!

>

> This idea occurred to me: Maybe the next time such an event comes up, you

> could try including nada in a different way: via technology.

>

> Let her stay home where she feels safe and comfortable. You relay the event

> to her " live " by phone, and/or " delayed " by taking little video clips as the

> event progresses and giving her a DVD of it afterward. Maybe if you keep her

> in the loop " live " , she'll feel like she's actually participating. She can

> speak with those at the event and wish them well on their marriage or

> graduation or whatever. A post-even DVD would be like a souvenir for her,

> and she might feel more included if everyone says " hi " to her in the clips

> at some point, " Hi mother, Wish you were here, we miss you " , " Look, here's

> little granddaughter graduating from elementary school... say hi to grandma,

> sweetie... "

>

> Nada may not be happy with that solution either, but, it would probably be

> less stressful for you and your husband and kids during the event. Might

> result in backlash afterward, but, might be worth a shot, anyway.

>

> But, you're the only one who can know what will and will not work in your

> own situation.

>

> And I think your husband is awesome. He is willing to stand up for you and

> protect you from your nada when needed. That completely rocks. He's a

> keeper. If I were in your position, I would ask him to give nada an

> extra-severe talking-to about not making any more ugly, hateful, malicious,

> critical comments to your child.

> That would bring out every mother-bear bristle in me, if I had a daughter.

> Grrrr!

>

> Either that, or teach your daughter that its OK to reply to grandma if

> grandma insults her again: " Oh, just shut the f**k up, you hateful,

> malicious old bitch! " No, maybe that's a bad idea. ;>

>

> Just have your husband handle it, you've said he's good at managing nada.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> > > >

> > > > My brother is screening a film he produced, directed, everything.

> > > >

> > > > I'm really proud of him and happy he has found something that gives

> him purpose and joy (my mother thinks it's a waste of time and 'he doesn't

> visit as often as he did b/c of that stupid movie.').

> > > >

> > > > So, tonight we're going to see it, the hubby and kids...and my

> mother. We have to pick her up and take her in. It's about an hour ride,

> maybe longer with rush hour.

> > > >

> > > > She's been an incredible, incredible pain in the ass. " well, I'm not

> going if it rains. "

> > > >

> > > > I told her this morning, as she well knew, that it would be raining

> tonight. Are you coming or not?? She got nasty: " WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF IT'LL

> BE RAINING TONIGHT, RIGHT? Just come get me and if it's raining, I'll let

> you know then. "

> > > >

> > > > I agreed to this, b/c it's a really, really big deal for my brother

> that we all be there.

> > > >

> > > > God help me. I know she's going to blab and ruminate and do her

> annoying anxious/fearful/phobic crap, all the while talking in her native

> tongue the whole stupid ride. I'm going to need to detach big time tonight.

> Maybe even assume another personality, like Beyonce does with Sasha Fierce.

> I'm going to put her in her place early in the ride.

> > > >

> > > > But, still, light a candle!!

> > > >

> > > > Thanks,

> > > >

> > > > Fiona

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

That's a great idea, the technology idea. I think she would go for it; my

brother wouldn't, but that's too damn bad. Hey, that's how she's handled most

of my kids' events. NEVER once came to one of my older daughter's dance recitals

or events. Which was fine with me. I'm not complaining but it made my daughter

sad at the time b/c my husband's mother came to every event.

You know what pisses me off about my mother telling my 6 yo " another cupcake?? "

is that I had JUST told her two days before NOT to make remarks to my daughter

about her weight. (she refers to her as " Chubby " when she--my mother-- is

talking to me) So, when she said that with the look of utter disgust and

disappointment on her face, it was like she was giving me the finger. What she

conveyed to my daughter, mostly through body language, was " I love you

conditionally. "

YEAH! I don't mind teaching my daughter to stick it to grannie! " F*** you,

hag!! " Just kidding; it's fun to imagine!

>

> I'm glad the even went well in spite of nada's pouty, hateful, critical

presence hovering about it like a black cloud. I think you handled it well!

>

> This idea occurred to me: Maybe the next time such an event comes up, you

could try including nada in a different way: via technology.

>

> Let her stay home where she feels safe and comfortable. You relay the event

to her " live " by phone, and/or " delayed " by taking little video clips as the

event progresses and giving her a DVD of it afterward. Maybe if you keep her in

the loop " live " , she'll feel like she's actually participating. She can speak

with those at the event and wish them well on their marriage or graduation or

whatever. A post-even DVD would be like a souvenir for her, and she might feel

more included if everyone says " hi " to her in the clips at some point, " Hi

mother, Wish you were here, we miss you " , " Look, here's little granddaughter

graduating from elementary school... say hi to grandma, sweetie... "

>

> Nada may not be happy with that solution either, but, it would probably be

less stressful for you and your husband and kids during the event. Might result

in backlash afterward, but, might be worth a shot, anyway.

>

> But, you're the only one who can know what will and will not work in your own

situation.

>

> And I think your husband is awesome. He is willing to stand up for you and

protect you from your nada when needed. That completely rocks. He's a keeper.

If I were in your position, I would ask him to give nada an extra-severe

talking-to about not making any more ugly, hateful, malicious, critical comments

to your child.

> That would bring out every mother-bear bristle in me, if I had a daughter.

Grrrr!

>

> Either that, or teach your daughter that its OK to reply to grandma if grandma

insults her again: " Oh, just shut the f**k up, you hateful, malicious old

bitch! " No, maybe that's a bad idea. ;>

>

> Just have your husband handle it, you've said he's good at managing nada.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Sunspot! btw, I love your handle. It cheers me.

Your grandfather was very wise.

>

> Hi Fiona,

>

> I'm so glad the premier was a success ! Kudos to you and your immediate

> family for doing everything possible to make your brothers terrifically

> important day a really good one one!

>

> My grandfather once told me that " some people are the happiest when they

> are unhappy. " He could have added, " and when they are spoiling lovely life

> affirming events for others, or when they are cannibalizing some

> unsuspecting child's self esteem. "

>

> You handled the whole situation with admirable fortitude, strength and

> grace!

>

> I think any creative endeavor is especially threatening to the BPD. I

> don't know why, but these efforts really seem to trip their triggers.

>

> I think what really *peeves* me the most, is the " truth bomb " attack on

> your little girl. BPDs are malicious cowards. I like Annie's

> * " NOMOBPD " *training collar idea! Now, where did I put that remote

> control...

>

> Best Wishes, Sunspot

>