Update Re: Workplace Bully Triggering Nada-Esque Feelings

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone,

I've been working through this and I've come to a place of more understanding

with my bully-boss. Her motive is to be the Queen of the workplace--in charge

of things from an office management and also a social perspective. To put it

another way--if the office were a playground, she would be the head Mean Girl.

And she uses very, very bullying and humiliating tactics to enforce this.

But there is a silver lining here. That's ALL she needs. This is SO not nada

/N-Dad. She does NOT need for me to die, she does not compulsively need to hurt

me, harm me, make me ugly, or project anything onto me. I don't sense that she

gets any kindof psychopathic 'rise' out of the bullying. When she bullies, she

does not get any nada-esque 'gleam' in her eye that says, hee, I *got* to you.

I'm now trying to sort out the best way to deal with this situation as I now

comprehend it. ly I don't care if she's Queen of the office; I'm not

political anyway. I just need to find a way to defend against the bullying.

Right now my whole body is in revolt against it; it has humiliated, frightened

me; it has flattened my younger Parts to a pulp. I am still smarting; I am

still down for the count. But at least this person has limited, discernible

motives that I can understand. Now--just to get my body on board with my mind's

understanding. I still feel like I'm walking into a torture chamber.

--Charlie