Im turning into Nada-UPDATE

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had his weekly violin lesson yesterday and did great. All he could do

is talk about the concert and I just kept saying see what happens if you

practice hard. And it showed! I was so proud of him and I think he knew it!

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Tuesday, December 13, 2011 11:20 AM

Subject: Re: I " m turning into Nada

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A lot of us fear " turning into our monsters " . With good reason, we

carry fleas, and learned reactions that can scare us at times. My sons

will find themselves telling the exact same corny joke I would tell, and

groan, Oh God , I m DAD!

There is a natural part of children becoming, or emulating, our parents.

But even that, at worst, is a bad habit you can break. Being a BP is

far more, and deeper, than simply a habit.

Besides, a Nada would have said, " If you loved your mother, you wouldnt

act like that. You might be able to play like them someday, of course

you got your talent from your mother. You ll never be as good as they

are of course, but if you want to neglect your mother to go to violin

practice, I understand. After all , I m a giver. I only live for my

children. They dont have to appreciate me. I understand, and I m used

to it. At this point, insert a long suffering sigh, or perhaps wiping

a woeful tear awa'. "

Of course, I m a reactionary old barbarian and ex sailor, but I would

have said, Sit down and be quiet till this is over. Then the next

time, I would excuse myself, take him out, swat his behind , and say,

Was there some part of what I told you that you still don t get? Now,

when we go back in there, SIT DOWN AND BE QUIET. "

Doug

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> Friday night I took my 8 year old to a string concert at the school.

His behavior was not very good at the concert and I had to continiously

shush him and he was climbing over the back of the chair. He was saying

how he wants to play like they do (he's just starting violin) and my

first remark was " behaving like that you'll never get there " . I was so

ashamed of myself and tried to backpedal telling him if he practices

he'll be able to do it. But I don't want to turn into Nada.

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[Guest guest]

That is awesome! It means so very much to a child to know that his or her

parents are truly proud of him and his hard work and efforts. You are NOT your

nada, you are a good mom!

-Annie

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> > Friday night I took my 8 year old to a string concert at the school.

> His behavior was not very good at the concert and I had to continiously

> shush him and he was climbing over the back of the chair. He was saying

> how he wants to play like they do (he's just starting violin) and my

> first remark was " behaving like that you'll never get there " . I was so

> ashamed of myself and tried to backpedal telling him if he practices

> he'll be able to do it. But I don't want to turn into Nada.

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[Guest guest]

This is fantastic news!

Steph

Re: I " m turning into Nada-UPDATE

That is awesome! It means so very much to a child to know that

his or her parents are truly proud of him and his hard work and

efforts. You are NOT your nada, you are a good mom!

-Annie

Friday night I took my 8 year old to a string concert at the

school.

His behavior was not very good at the concert and I had to

continiously

shush him and he was climbing over the back of the chair. He

was saying

how he wants to play like they do (he's just starting violin)

and my

first remark was " behaving like that you'll never get there " . I

was so

ashamed of myself and tried to backpedal telling him if he

practices

he'll be able to do it. But I don't want to turn into Nada.