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Hi!

It's been a while since I've posted. For those who don't know (or don't

remember) me, I went NC with Nada at the end of my second year of college. I

just graduated (early), I'm almost done with my U.S. citizenship paperwork, I'm

trading childcare for rent with a wonderful family, next semester I'm sticking

around to take classes that will help me get into a better grad school, and I'm

moving in with a really good friend. Things are looking up!

I just found out through the family grape-vine that my Nada has given up on her

New York City dreams and is moving back to Canada. On one hand, it's scary to

think that I'll be the only member of my family left in this country, but now I

have a whole country to myself! I don't have to avoid certain areas because my

nada " might be living/visiting/working there " and so on and so forth.

This is such a symbolic liberation for me, but I don't know why it seems to

affect me more than any of the legal separations/protections or life milestones

I've had since NC. I suppose I don't have to know...

-Maia

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Maia,

I can understand why having the country to yourself affects you

more than the other milestones. As long as a nada is (or might

be) nearby, there's always the possibility of her showing up to

cause trouble. No amount of legal separation is enough to take

away the fear of what she might do. My sister went NC with our

mother several years ago. I sometimes have nightmares about our

nada trying to use me to find her when she is visiting or when

we meet somewhere relatively nearby.

At 03:21 PM 12/15/2011 box1665 wrote:

>Hi!

>

>It's been a while since I've posted. For those who don't know

>(or don't remember) me, I went NC with Nada at the end of my

>second year of college. I just graduated (early), I'm almost

>done with my U.S. citizenship paperwork, I'm trading childcare

>for rent with a wonderful family, next semester I'm sticking

>around to take classes that will help me get into a better grad

>school, and I'm moving in with a really good friend. Things are

>looking up!

>

>I just found out through the family grape-vine that my Nada has

>given up on her New York City dreams and is moving back to

>Canada. On one hand, it's scary to think that I'll be the only

>member of my family left in this country, but now I have a

>whole country to myself! I don't have to avoid certain areas

>because my nada " might be living/visiting/working there " and so

>on and so forth.

>

>This is such a symbolic liberation for me, but I don't know why

>it seems to affect me more than any of the legal

>separations/protections or life milestones I've had since NC. I

>suppose I don't have to know...

>

>-Maia

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Katrina

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