Hello...I'm new to the group

[Guest guest]

Hello

I'm new to the group, new to the term BPD but it seems not new to the possible

effects of BPD. I'm 37 and been struggling with a difficult mother all of my

life. My therapist recommended I look into Walking on eggshells and the follow

up books. That is how I found myself here. My mother denies any mental issues

including depression and pretty much blames everything on me. I had to cut ties

with her and my father just under a month ago. I will probably get into it more

in further posts but wanted to pose a question.

Does anyone feel that the person in there life that suffers from BPD also suffer

from NPD because my mother seems to fit both realms.

Thanks for being here!

[Guest guest]

Yes my parents fit both and I believe its common for it to be that way.

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Hello...I'm new to the group

Hello

I'm new to the group, new to the term BPD but it seems not new to the possible

effects of BPD. I'm 37 and been struggling with a difficult mother all of my

life. My therapist recommended I look into Walking on eggshells and the follow

up books. That is how I found myself here. My mother denies any mental issues

including depression and pretty much blames everything on me. I had to cut ties

with her and my father just under a month ago. I will probably get into it more

in further posts but wanted to pose a question.

Does anyone feel that the person in there life that suffers from BPD also suffer

from NPD because my mother seems to fit both realms.

Thanks for being here!

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the Group, velvet tears.

Yes, I think my mother has both borderline pd and narcissistic pd. And even

perhaps a smattering of antisocial pd traits and histrionic traits. She even

displays several traits of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder as well

(which is not the same thing as obsessive compulsive disorder, confusingly.)

Its not uncommon for someone with borderline pd to have other disorders as well,

from what I've read, such as mood disorders, anxiety disorders, or psychotic

disorders.

Welcome to the Group, you've found a bunch of other people who are able to

understand the pain of having a personality-disordered parent or parents, and

its good to know that you aren't alone on your journey of understanding and

coping with having a mentally ill parent, and healing from the damage.

-Annie

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> Hello

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> I'm new to the group, new to the term BPD but it seems not new to the possible

effects of BPD. I'm 37 and been struggling with a difficult mother all of my

life. My therapist recommended I look into Walking on eggshells and the follow

up books. That is how I found myself here. My mother denies any mental issues

including depression and pretty much blames everything on me. I had to cut ties

with her and my father just under a month ago. I will probably get into it more

in further posts but wanted to pose a question.

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> Does anyone feel that the person in there life that suffers from BPD also

suffer from NPD because my mother seems to fit both realms.

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> Thanks for being here!

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[Guest guest]

Hi velvet tears, I am new here too, welcome! You are not alone, my mother also

has traits of several other personality disorders, i think it's common for

personality disorders traits to overlap. I can see NPD, BPD, ASPD, traits in my

mom along with her alcholism. My mother also denies having any mental illness.

You have come to the right place, they are so knowledgeable about BPD and

everyone here really does understand and care.

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> > Hello

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> > I'm new to the group, new to the term BPD but it seems not new to the

possible effects of BPD. I'm 37 and been struggling with a difficult mother all

of my life. My therapist recommended I look into Walking on eggshells and the

follow up books. That is how I found myself here. My mother denies any mental

issues including depression and pretty much blames everything on me. I had to

cut ties with her and my father just under a month ago. I will probably get into

it more in further posts but wanted to pose a question.

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> > Does anyone feel that the person in there life that suffers from BPD also

suffer from NPD because my mother seems to fit both realms.

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> > Thanks for being here!

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[Guest guest]

Dear velvet tears,

Yes! I definitely feel that my Mom is also NPD! And welcome welcome to the

group! I'm new too! Only been here a week! But it's working wonders! You are

definitely in the right place! You will learn alot about yourself in the process

and find that we all share similar stories. I completely relate to everything

you've said - my Mom is exactly the same - in denial - even tried to undermine

the psychiatrist by calling him a quack, but it's too late for that, we all know

what she has now, and it's stuck on her - she'd better try to heal herself

otherwise I'm not initiating any contact with her anymore.

Hugs,

N

> Hello

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> I'm new to the group, new to the term BPD but it seems not new to the possible

effects of BPD. I'm 37 and been struggling with a difficult mother all of my

life. My therapist recommended I look into Walking on eggshells and the follow

up books. That is how I found myself here. My mother denies any mental issues

including depression and pretty much blames everything on me. I had to cut ties

with her and my father just under a month ago. I will probably get into it more

in further posts but wanted to pose a question.

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> Does anyone feel that the person in there life that suffers from BPD also

suffer from NPD because my mother seems to fit both realms.

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> Thanks for being here!

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[Guest guest]

Hi Velvet Tears~

I think they often go hand in hand. My mom is BPD, her mother was a textbook

narcissist. My mother is so self focused it seems like NPD, but I really think

they are FLEAS from her own raising. She always focuses on others to be her

emotional mirror. My NPD grandmother didn't look to others at all--she only

fulfilled social contracts with others when doing otherwise would have looked

bad.

Grandmother re-gifted, not attempting to hide so. She crossed out cards and

wrote in new wording. One time I got an empty fancy paper bag for a gift--it was

from " Lord & . " For my sixteenth birthday I received an orange plastic

tissue dispenser from her. She was always late, to social events, birthday

acknowledgments, work. She cared nothing for anyone unless they were rich,

powerful, flattering to her, or flashy. Generous family members say she " Danced

to her own drummer. " Another perspective is that she only cared for herself and

her needs and everyone else was just road kill. She wasn't malicious, she just

took care of herself and did not consider others.

So, I really think grandma was NPD, but not BPD. My mother is BPD and very self

conscious of herself in the world. Everything that does not mesh with the

perception she wants to have of herself is attributed to others (she screams at

you for an hour, then tells you you need to take anger management for yelling at

her when you never argued back). She thinks everything is all about HER, but I

would call it being Self Focused, as the cavalier attitude of the true

narcissist is missing.

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> > Hello

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> > I'm new to the group, new to the term BPD but it seems not new to the

possible effects of BPD. I'm 37 and been struggling with a difficult mother all

of my life. My therapist recommended I look into Walking on eggshells and the

follow up books. That is how I found myself here. My mother denies any mental

issues including depression and pretty much blames everything on me. I had to

cut ties with her and my father just under a month ago. I will probably get into

it more in further posts but wanted to pose a question.

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> > Does anyone feel that the person in there life that suffers from BPD also

suffer from NPD because my mother seems to fit both realms.

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> > Thanks for being here!

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