Guest guest Posted December 24, 2011 Report Share Posted December 24, 2011 So I'm a 43 year old who survived growing up with mom with BPD. I really just learned about BPD. After waiting to go to counseling until this year after a 'breakthrough crisis' I learned about BPD. I just thought she was abusive, or crazy...or both. I've been mostly NC since I was 18. But tried to 'be the bigger person' a couple of times without success. It's hard for me to even type this as I've never wanted to acknowledge myself in that position or how it really impacted me I guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2011 Report Share Posted December 26, 2011 Welcome. We have all been in your situation. Its so difficult to even acknowledge the illness our nada's (that is what we call our mothers because mom is not an appropriate word for them) let alone admit to the things that we as the children put up with. I have been NC with my nada for 3 years now and have been in therapy for 4 and its still difficult. AJ > > So I'm a 43 year old who survived growing up with mom with BPD. I really just learned about BPD. After waiting to go to counseling until this year after a 'breakthrough crisis' I learned about BPD. I just thought she was abusive, or crazy...or both. I've been mostly NC since I was 18. But tried to 'be the bigger person' a couple of times without success. It's hard for me to even type this as I've never wanted to acknowledge myself in that position or how it really impacted me I guess. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2011 Report Share Posted December 26, 2011 Welcome- I'm presently in my 2nd NC period with my parents. I'm 47, discovered BPD in 2010 and have been in therapy for over 10 years, mostly because of the horrible relationship I've always had with mom. I, too, have spent a lifetime being the 'bigger' person. The problem with that is the BPD doesn't understand compromise or give and take. They just do take. > > So I'm a 43 year old who survived growing up with mom with BPD. I really just learned about BPD. After waiting to go to counseling until this year after a 'breakthrough crisis' I learned about BPD. I just thought she was abusive, or crazy...or both. I've been mostly NC since I was 18. But tried to 'be the bigger person' a couple of times without success. It's hard for me to even type this as I've never wanted to acknowledge myself in that position or how it really impacted me I guess. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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