happy new year and new year's resolutions

[Guest guest]

Right now, my new year already seems lighter, not having had contact with my

nada. I miss my dad, but he really is an adult and there is no reason he could

not call me, if he chose to have an adult relationship with me.

I am more at peace about the unsolvable problem of our family relationships, and

for once, I realize I am not to blame for the dysfunction. I am proud of myself

for disentangling the mistruths that made me feel guilty for not having genuine

loving relationships all round.

That said, I wonder if it would help me to begin to practice the D.E.A.R

concepts outlined in Randi's books, devoting myself to Stop Walking on

Eggshells. I no longer seem to need to vent about nada, as she has chosen to

give me no new material. Thanks in part to my unwillingness to play her game,

she has literally taken her spit-I-mean-base-ball and gone home!

If I try to share using D.E.A.R in the New Year, are others interested in

joining in, with the idea of making progress with our nadas and fadas (or with

our own remaining fleas) when the opportunity knocks?

Best,