Re: Nada's public display

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the Group, m19728,

You've found a whole bunch of other people who understand exactly the kinds of

behaviors you have described your nada exhibiting: drama, histrionics,

triangulating, emotional blackmail, blackening your good name... these are

indeed the toxic behaviors of someone with borderline pd and perhaps

narcissistic pd as well.

I'm certain that you will get some good feedback and insights from this Group,

from those who have experienced really similar situations.

best wishes,

-Annie

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> hello everyone i have been nc with my nada for the last 18mths...we live in

the same city. she has tried every possible way to see my kids and i have been

clear with ehr that until we (as in me and my husband) have a somewhat healthy

relationship its not good fro anyones well being for her to come and see the

kids. i can read her like a open book...she wants to emotionally blackmail my

kids. the other day we say at her gathering unexpected and i quickly got the

kids and went home. one of her flyinf monkeys (my aunt) tipped her off that iw

as there with the kids and she decided to rock up. thhe next day i heard from a

freiend that apparently she had embroidered on her shirt the names of all my 3

kids, and telling everyone about it. there is no doubt in mind she is telling

people that i am the cruel mother who is not letting her see her grandchildren.

my husband has been telling me for a while that we should just pack and leave

the country...i am hesistant. i know she has no control over my life anymore but

as long as we are here she will do these stunts every few months.reasons i dont

want to leave is becaseu of great freinds my kids have here and the support

system i have established, also my brother and dad are here who have also been

rejected by nada. feel so overwhlemed at times about what i should do but i know

i just have to deal with it. just needed to vent a bit. thanyou for reading

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[Guest guest]

thankyou annie for you supportive words. feels refreshing to know that i am not

the one going nuts. you obviously have had a lot of experience with BPD from

your other posts that i have read. do you think it will ever get better or is

that just a hope? for me i have given up the idea of my nada ever changing her

toxic way or her flying monkeys but sometimes i think if i were 2000 miles away

it would be better. its like swimmign in an ocean where you know a shark is

present and can strike at any time. i do love her but in all honesty sometimes i

just wish she would pass away. she is a miserable person with so much hate and

resentment etc in her.

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> > hello everyone i have been nc with my nada for the last 18mths...we live in

the same city. she has tried every possible way to see my kids and i have been

clear with ehr that until we (as in me and my husband) have a somewhat healthy

relationship its not good fro anyones well being for her to come and see the

kids. i can read her like a open book...she wants to emotionally blackmail my

kids. the other day we say at her gathering unexpected and i quickly got the

kids and went home. one of her flyinf monkeys (my aunt) tipped her off that iw

as there with the kids and she decided to rock up. thhe next day i heard from a

freiend that apparently she had embroidered on her shirt the names of all my 3

kids, and telling everyone about it. there is no doubt in mind she is telling

people that i am the cruel mother who is not letting her see her grandchildren.

my husband has been telling me for a while that we should just pack and leave

the country...i am hesistant. i know she has no control over my life anymore but

as long as we are here she will do these stunts every few months.reasons i dont

want to leave is becaseu of great freinds my kids have here and the support

system i have established, also my brother and dad are here who have also been

rejected by nada. feel so overwhlemed at times about what i should do but i know

i just have to deal with it. just needed to vent a bit. thanyou for reading

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