Guest guest Posted January 8, 2012 Report Share Posted January 8, 2012 I am new to the group. My BPD is elderly and in the early stages of dementia. I would be interested in communicating with other members of this group who are in a similar situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2012 Report Share Posted January 8, 2012 Hi bdcic5, My mother is 85..and I am low contact with her. I have had a lot of childhood abuse and adult abandonment. Recently I have come to terms with WHO she is. I have decided despite the hell I have endured I will be there for her in her time of need as she declines. My 2 brothers & I are NO contact.and we live 800 miles from mom..so I am anticipating my brothers will not help me with my Nada's demise. This is sad but likely a fact..and I have already made contact with Nada's good friend to help me with updates on her health if need be. At present I am in a good space to cope with all. Blessings, Twyla From: WTOAdultChildren1 [mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of bdcic5 Sent: Sunday, January 08, 2012 02:55 PM To: WTOAdultChildren1 Subject: elderly bpds? I am new to the group. My BPD is elderly and in the early stages of dementia. I would be interested in communicating with other members of this group who are in a similar situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2012 Report Share Posted January 8, 2012 Hi! I'm , I'm new here also. My BPmom is 55ish but her mind and body are much much older. She has Fibromyalgia pretty bad and severe depression. I have hard time knowing which is occuring at moments: the foggy forgetfullness of dementia or the distorted memories that my mom has. Do you feel/see this? It's hard for me to know what is manipulation and what is real. My mom's body is so fragile, yet her personality is so vicious it's hard for me to understand that it is the same person. Anyhow, I hope you can find some support here. I've already had several eye openers reading through others' posts. Good luck! and wish you peace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2012 Report Share Posted January 9, 2012 Hi there: My nada is 75 and is very sick with 2 kinds of cancer. I find it very difficult to set any sort of strict schedule right now around my contact with her because I am willing to take her to medical appointments. Her chemo starts soon and her needs will be greater. It is a very challenging situation for me as she is still a woman with BPD and her abusive/manipulative/backstabbing behaviours have not gone away. I was over at her house the other day and I overheard her on the phone to one of my brothers and she was engaging in character asassination of me. I challenged her on it and then of course she denied it and turned it onto me by claiming I was eavesdropping. My point here is that her age and her illness have not changed her one bit!! I am just trying to navigate my way through this in the best way that works for me. I don't know what your situation is - but one thing that has helped me alot is to pull back from always being available so that my two useless brothers have to step up and help out a bit. You need to make sure there are some supports in place for you if you choose to stay in contact with her. Hope that helps Koko > > I am new to the group. My BPD is elderly and in the early stages of > dementia. I would be interested in communicating with other members > of this group who are in a similar situation. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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