about how I realized I have nada

[Guest guest]

There is a television series called Law & Order SVU. In season 5 there is an

episode called " Home " . After 31 minutes there is the following conversation:

Psychiatrist(P) -She has a borderline personality disorder. She

compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges her is

not only wrong but her enemy.

Cop© -Including her children?

(P) -Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her, and so he was good. didn't, so,

that made him bad.

© -So she doesn't really love them?

(P) -It's a twisted, narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids show

individuality, she perceives it as rejection, and an attack.

© -What made her this way?

(P) -An inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused herself.

So I have realized the behavior of my mother as she acted in her whole life.

Just never knew this habit had a name.

I have found detailed description of my feelings in the following books:

Toxic Parents by Forward

The Verbally Abusive Relationship by

Home Coming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by Bradshaw

and in articles about dysfunctional families on the net.

But these books did not explain everything about me. Something was missing. Now

I know that is BPD. All the humiliation, rage, yelling, ashaming were only

technics of my fada and nada.

I think a women learns how to act as a mother from her mother. My mother had a

stepmother. And a man learns how to be father from his father. My father had a

stepfather. Now it is not a surprise I was questioned my parents several times

if they are my real parents or I was adopted.

B.

[Guest guest]

I'm really hoping you were meaning this in the snarky way it came across. I

actually giggled about you saying you wondered if you were adopted.

I think we adult children of BPD's are like combat medics. We have to find our

humor where ever we can or we would explode. I think if there is every a

convention for us, that we should have a stand up comedy of KO's night. Nobody

else will really get it, but we will all be roaring with laughter.

>

> There is a television series called Law & Order SVU. In season 5 there is an

episode called " Home " . After 31 minutes there is the following conversation:

>

> Psychiatrist(P) -She has a borderline personality disorder. She

compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges her is

not only wrong but her enemy.

> Cop© -Including her children?

> (P) -Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her, and so he was good. didn't, so,

that made him bad.

> © -So she doesn't really love them?

> (P) -It's a twisted, narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids show

individuality, she perceives it as rejection, and an attack.

> © -What made her this way?

> (P) -An inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused herself.

>

> So I have realized the behavior of my mother as she acted in her whole life.

Just never knew this habit had a name.

> I have found detailed description of my feelings in the following books:

>

> Toxic Parents by Forward

>

> The Verbally Abusive Relationship by

>

> Home Coming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by Bradshaw

>

> and in articles about dysfunctional families on the net.

>

> But these books did not explain everything about me. Something was missing.

Now I know that is BPD. All the humiliation, rage, yelling, ashaming were only

technics of my fada and nada.

>

> I think a women learns how to act as a mother from her mother. My mother had a

stepmother. And a man learns how to be father from his father. My father had a

stepfather. Now it is not a surprise I was questioned my parents several times

if they are my real parents or I was adopted.

>

> B.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

" Combat Medic " - ROF!

Explains why when - a few years ago before Mother's Day- I walked into a card

store and asked the old lady cashier where the " Mentally Ill " section was... she

was horrified. I laughed. And left.

Sometimes it's the little things, ya know?

Lynnette

> >

> > There is a television series called Law & Order SVU. In season 5 there is an

episode called " Home " . After 31 minutes there is the following conversation:

> >

> > Psychiatrist(P) -She has a borderline personality disorder. She

compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges her is

not only wrong but her enemy.

> > Cop© -Including her children?

> > (P) -Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her, and so he was good. didn't,

so, that made him bad.

> > © -So she doesn't really love them?

> > (P) -It's a twisted, narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids show

individuality, she perceives it as rejection, and an attack.

> > © -What made her this way?

> > (P) -An inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused

herself.

> >

> > So I have realized the behavior of my mother as she acted in her whole life.

Just never knew this habit had a name.

> > I have found detailed description of my feelings in the following books:

> >

> > Toxic Parents by Forward

> >

> > The Verbally Abusive Relationship by

> >

> > Home Coming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by

Bradshaw

> >

> > and in articles about dysfunctional families on the net.

> >

> > But these books did not explain everything about me. Something was missing.

Now I know that is BPD. All the humiliation, rage, yelling, ashaming were only

technics of my fada and nada.

> >

> > I think a women learns how to act as a mother from her mother. My mother had

a stepmother. And a man learns how to be father from his father. My father had a

stepfather. Now it is not a surprise I was questioned my parents several times

if they are my real parents or I was adopted.

> >

> > B.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Yes, exactly. That's the only way to get over with it. I have learnt it at early

ages. Sometimes things look so unreal you can cope with them only with humor. I

thought that's my personal style but is seems we are common in this habit, too

B.

Re: about how I realized I have nada

I'm really hoping you were meaning this in the snarky way it came across. I

actually giggled about you saying you wondered if you were adopted.

I think we adult children of BPD's are like combat medics. We have to find our

humor where ever we can or we would explode. I think if there is every a

convention for us, that we should have a stand up comedy of KO's night. Nobody

else will really get it, but we will all be roaring with laughter.

>

> There is a television series called Law & Order SVU. In season 5 there is an

episode called " Home " . After 31 minutes there is the following conversation:

>

> Psychiatrist(P) -She has a borderline personality disorder. She

compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges her is

not only wrong but her enemy.

> Cop© -Including her children?

> (P) -Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her, and so he was good. didn't,

so, that made him bad.

> © -So she doesn't really love them?

> (P) -It's a twisted, narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids show

individuality, she perceives it as rejection, and an attack.

> © -What made her this way?

> (P) -An inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused

herself.

>

> So I have realized the behavior of my mother as she acted in her whole life.

Just never knew this habit had a name.

> I have found detailed description of my feelings in the following books:

>

> Toxic Parents by Forward

>

> The Verbally Abusive Relationship by

>

> Home Coming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by Bradshaw

>

> and in articles about dysfunctional families on the net.

>

> But these books did not explain everything about me. Something was missing.

Now I know that is BPD. All the humiliation, rage, yelling, ashaming were only

technics of my fada and nada.

>

> I think a women learns how to act as a mother from her mother. My mother had

a stepmother. And a man learns how to be father from his father. My father had a

stepfather. Now it is not a surprise I was questioned my parents several times

if they are my real parents or I was adopted.

>

> B.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

These are exactly the type of jokes I always create to get me to a better mood,

but nobody understands it ever. Till now.

Good to be here.

B.

Re: about how I realized I have nada

" Combat Medic " - ROF!

Explains why when - a few years ago before Mother's Day- I walked into a card

store and asked the old lady cashier where the " Mentally Ill " section was... she

was horrified. I laughed. And left.

Sometimes it's the little things, ya know?

Lynnette

> >

> > There is a television series called Law & Order SVU. In season 5 there is

an episode called " Home " . After 31 minutes there is the following conversation:

> >

> > Psychiatrist(P) -She has a borderline personality disorder. She

compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges her is

not only wrong but her enemy.

> > Cop© -Including her children?

> > (P) -Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her, and so he was good. didn't,

so, that made him bad.

> > © -So she doesn't really love them?

> > (P) -It's a twisted, narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids show

individuality, she perceives it as rejection, and an attack.

> > © -What made her this way?

> > (P) -An inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused

herself.

> >

> > So I have realized the behavior of my mother as she acted in her whole

life. Just never knew this habit had a name.

> > I have found detailed description of my feelings in the following books:

> >

> > Toxic Parents by Forward

> >

> > The Verbally Abusive Relationship by

> >

> > Home Coming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by Bradshaw

> >

> > and in articles about dysfunctional families on the net.

> >

> > But these books did not explain everything about me. Something was

missing. Now I know that is BPD. All the humiliation, rage, yelling, ashaming

were only technics of my fada and nada.

> >

> > I think a women learns how to act as a mother from her mother. My mother

had a stepmother. And a man learns how to be father from his father. My father

had a stepfather. Now it is not a surprise I was questioned my parents several

times if they are my real parents or I was adopted.

> >

> > B.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

HA! Love it!

~~Velvet_Tears74~~

Whatever it takes.....

From: WTOAdultChildren1

[mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of

yp_lynnette_cameron_park

Sent: Saturday, July 09, 2011 5:18 PM

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Subject: Re: about how I realized I have nada

" Combat Medic " - ROF!

Explains why when - a few years ago before Mother's Day- I walked into a

card store and asked the old lady cashier where the " Mentally Ill " section

was... she was horrified. I laughed. And left.

Sometimes it's the little things, ya know?

Lynnette

> >

> > There is a television series called Law & Order SVU. In season 5 there

is an episode called " Home " . After 31 minutes there is the following

conversation:

> >

> > Psychiatrist(P) -She has a borderline personality disorder. She

compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges

her is not only wrong but her enemy.

> > Cop© -Including her children?

> > (P) -Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her, and so he was good.

didn't, so, that made him bad.

> > © -So she doesn't really love them?

> > (P) -It's a twisted, narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids show

individuality, she perceives it as rejection, and an attack.

> > © -What made her this way?

> > (P) -An inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused

herself.

> >

> > So I have realized the behavior of my mother as she acted in her whole

life. Just never knew this habit had a name.

> > I have found detailed description of my feelings in the following books:

> >

> > Toxic Parents by Forward

> >

> > The Verbally Abusive Relationship by

> >

> > Home Coming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by

Bradshaw

> >

> > and in articles about dysfunctional families on the net.

> >

> > But these books did not explain everything about me. Something was

missing. Now I know that is BPD. All the humiliation, rage, yelling,

ashaming were only technics of my fada and nada.

> >

> > I think a women learns how to act as a mother from her mother. My mother

had a stepmother. And a man learns how to be father from his father. My

father had a stepfather. Now it is not a surprise I was questioned my

parents several times if they are my real parents or I was adopted.

> >

> > B.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

KO stand up!!!! YES

I love Law and Order SVU. Dr Wong is one of my favorite TV characters who

every existed!!!! <3 <3 <3

On Sat, Jul 9, 2011 at 6:29 PM, Stacey Corsa wrote:

> **

>

>

> HA! Love it!

>

> ~~Velvet_Tears74~~

>

> Whatever it takes.....

>

> From: WTOAdultChildren1

> [mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of

> yp_lynnette_cameron_park

> Sent: Saturday, July 09, 2011 5:18 PM

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

>

> Subject: Re: about how I realized I have nada

>

> " Combat Medic " - ROF!

>

> Explains why when - a few years ago before Mother's Day- I walked into a

> card store and asked the old lady cashier where the " Mentally Ill " section

> was... she was horrified. I laughed. And left.

>

> Sometimes it's the little things, ya know?

>

> Lynnette

>

>

> > >

> > > There is a television series called Law & Order SVU. In season 5 there

> is an episode called " Home " . After 31 minutes there is the following

> conversation:

> > >

> > > Psychiatrist(P) -She has a borderline personality disorder. She

> compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges

> her is not only wrong but her enemy.

> > > Cop© -Including her children?

> > > (P) -Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her, and so he was good.

> didn't, so, that made him bad.

> > > © -So she doesn't really love them?

> > > (P) -It's a twisted, narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids

> show

> individuality, she perceives it as rejection, and an attack.

> > > © -What made her this way?

> > > (P) -An inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused

> herself.

> > >

> > > So I have realized the behavior of my mother as she acted in her whole

> life. Just never knew this habit had a name.

> > > I have found detailed description of my feelings in the following

> books:

> > >

> > > Toxic Parents by Forward

> > >

> > > The Verbally Abusive Relationship by

> > >

> > > Home Coming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by

> Bradshaw

> > >

> > > and in articles about dysfunctional families on the net.

> > >

> > > But these books did not explain everything about me. Something was

> missing. Now I know that is BPD. All the humiliation, rage, yelling,

> ashaming were only technics of my fada and nada.

> > >

> > > I think a women learns how to act as a mother from her mother. My

> mother

> had a stepmother. And a man learns how to be father from his father. My

> father had a stepfather. Now it is not a surprise I was questioned my

> parents several times if they are my real parents or I was adopted.

> > >

> > > B.

> > >

> > >

> > >