depressed by the emotionally absent mother

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Hi all, I've just started reading the book " The Emotionally Absent Mother " by

Jasmin Cori and wow is it painful. I'm only on chapter three and it is tough

going. Just reading the descriptions of what a good mother is supposed to

provide her child and over and over going, nope, not that one, not that one, no

way in hell, that'd never happen over and over. Stuff like mirroring,

protection, nurturing, encouragement, etc. It brings up so much pain to remember

that I felt like an orphan emotionally growing up and I still do today. And

all those " substitute " mothers I keep hearing about...well I never managed to

find any of them to fill the holes either. I feel dysfunctional as hell. I

skipped ahead and read her description about what type of therapist/therapy can

help and it's what I've been looking for my whole life - but I've gone through

so many therapists and it just never happens.

Sorry for such a downer of a post...maybe I'll feel better reading later

chapters.

Eliza