Guest guest Posted January 21, 2012 Report Share Posted January 21, 2012 " You? A nurse? I wouldn't let you take care of my dog, let alone ME. You're too stupid to be a nurse. " Said my nada 15 years ago. I know I all ready told you guys that I passed my boards and am officially a nurse, but last night was my pinning & graduation. I was shocked, in awe, and honored to be presented with the Program Director's Award for Practical Nursing. WOW. I know my program director said VERY nice things, but I was so shocked & nervous, I CAN'T REMEMBER A WORD! lol!!!! This from the student who hung on every word her instructors spoke during lecture. Oy! I am very humbled & honored, but in some ways, I just kind of grin & think, " in your face, nada. In your face! " I think I finally, officially, really-really have closure on that statement nada made 15 years ago. Receiving that award really validated that I am neither incompetent nor stupid. Still a little nervous about getting out into the workforce very soon, but the excitement wins over that nervousness. So I think i can put the horribleness of that statement forever to rest. Mia, the nurse! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Mia, CONGRATULATIONS!!! What a milestone. I hope you got lots of pictures on your big day that you can cherish for life. It might be nice if you could ask around and see if anybody captured the event on their cell phone video or other gadget. A copy would be so nice. You could put it on DVD and keep it, or even send it around for friends to see. Also, Costco does bound picture books for very little money and what about putting pics together taken over your years of nursing educations along with the pinning ceremony pics? These are just a few suggestions to " celebrate yourself " and have lasting reminders of your achievement whenever you need a boost. At the very least, a framed photo in your home is called for. Best, best regards, AFB > > " You? A nurse? I wouldn't let you take care of my dog, let alone ME. > You're too stupid to be a nurse. " > > Said my nada 15 years ago. > > I know I all ready told you guys that I passed my boards and am officially > a nurse, but last night was my pinning & graduation. I was shocked, in > awe, and honored to be presented with the Program Director's Award for > Practical Nursing. WOW. > > I know my program director said VERY nice things, but I was so shocked & > nervous, I CAN'T REMEMBER A WORD! lol!!!! This from the student who hung > on every word her instructors spoke during lecture. Oy! > > I am very humbled & honored, but in some ways, I just kind of grin & think, > " in your face, nada. In your face! " I think I finally, officially, > really-really have closure on that statement nada made 15 years ago. > Receiving that award really validated that I am neither incompetent nor > stupid. Still a little nervous about getting out into the workforce very > soon, but the excitement wins over that nervousness. > > So I think i can put the horribleness of that statement forever to rest. > > Mia, the nurse! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Congratulations!!!   Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. Proverbs 3:5-8 To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Sunday, January 22, 2012 12:29 AM Subject: Wow  " You? A nurse? I wouldn't let you take care of my dog, let alone ME. You're too stupid to be a nurse. " Said my nada 15 years ago. I know I all ready told you guys that I passed my boards and am officially a nurse, but last night was my pinning & graduation. I was shocked, in awe, and honored to be presented with the Program Director's Award for Practical Nursing. WOW. I know my program director said VERY nice things, but I was so shocked & nervous, I CAN'T REMEMBER A WORD! lol!!!! This from the student who hung on every word her instructors spoke during lecture. Oy! I am very humbled & honored, but in some ways, I just kind of grin & think, " in your face, nada. In your face! " I think I finally, officially, really-really have closure on that statement nada made 15 years ago. Receiving that award really validated that I am neither incompetent nor stupid. Still a little nervous about getting out into the workforce very soon, but the excitement wins over that nervousness. So I think i can put the horribleness of that statement forever to rest. Mia, the nurse! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Truly, " In your FACE, nada! " I agree. I'm so happy for you, Mia! I feel pretty confident that your nada was most likely projecting her own self-loathing onto you, in true bpd fashion. She was unable to see you or relate to you as a separate, individual human being. You were just a mirror to her; a thing, not a person. Its very gratifying to hear when former abused, neglected children who were treated with contempt and denigration by mentally ill parents, wind up doing very well, even becoming super-achievers. Your own innate resilience and intelligence and spirit overcame your abusive upbringing. I am similarly so proud of my younger Sister, the former little all-black, scapegoated child who only wanted to be loved, who chose a helping profession; she makes a genuine, positive difference in the lives of her clients. (She helps military vets get the benefits and services they are owed; its amazing how many of these veterans are in pain and in need, yet are not aware of the various services and benefits that are available to them. She is truly angelic, in my opinion.) Kudos to you! -Annie > > " You? A nurse? I wouldn't let you take care of my dog, let alone ME. > You're too stupid to be a nurse. " > > Said my nada 15 years ago. > > I know I all ready told you guys that I passed my boards and am officially > a nurse, but last night was my pinning & graduation. I was shocked, in > awe, and honored to be presented with the Program Director's Award for > Practical Nursing. WOW. > > I know my program director said VERY nice things, but I was so shocked & > nervous, I CAN'T REMEMBER A WORD! lol!!!! This from the student who hung > on every word her instructors spoke during lecture. Oy! > > I am very humbled & honored, but in some ways, I just kind of grin & think, > " in your face, nada. In your face! " I think I finally, officially, > really-really have closure on that statement nada made 15 years ago. > Receiving that award really validated that I am neither incompetent nor > stupid. Still a little nervous about getting out into the workforce very > soon, but the excitement wins over that nervousness. > > So I think i can put the horribleness of that statement forever to rest. > > Mia, the nurse! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Congratulations, Mia!! It's so good to see KO's moving forward and having good experiences in their lives. --. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Thanks so much everyone =) And Annie, I couldn't agree with you more. I do believe she was projecting her own self hatred onto me. I'm glad I'm not stuck in that trap of toxicity anymore. Your sister is providing a much needed service to vets, for sure! I have so much respect for our men & women in the armed forces. So glad I got the job at the VA. I only hope I can serve them as much as they have served me hehe. Sounds so cheezy, but it's very true. Thanks again all. Mia! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2012 Report Share Posted January 22, 2012 Also, AFB - my hubby took some photos at graduation. We forgot the camera for pinning, doh! But my awesome dad & step mom were there & got photos. Hopefully better than the ones hubby got lol. I plan on making a scrap book =) I like scrap booking, but I haven't had much time to do it with school. We also have a really tall bookshelf in our apartment (many bookshelves, really). I cleaned up the smaller one I was using for all my nursing books & binders full of notes, putting the binders into a plastic storage box and leaving the nursing books on the shelf. I then cleared off a shelf of books on the tall book shelf and now have my goodies from graduation displayed... my diploma, award, my license from the state, my tassel, my nursing cap & my honors cords =) I looked at some display boxes for my nursing cap & found a nice one at 's, but they're kind of expensive. Good thing I get coupons for 's in my email... often 40% or 50% off. Once I get one, I will put my cap in it. I don't want it to get dusty & dirty. I also ordered a fantastic vintage-style sign I saw online that says, " Nurse on Duty. Clinical skills, extensive knowledge, professional manner. Making the impossible look easy. " LOL! I saw it a few months ago online and knew I'd eventually order it. That will go on the shelf too =) Thanks again everyone =D I am one happy lady! Mia > Thanks so much everyone =) And Annie, I couldn't agree with you more. > I do believe she was projecting her own self hatred onto me. I'm glad > I'm not stuck in that trap of toxicity anymore. > > Your sister is providing a much needed service to vets, for sure! I > have so much respect for our men & women in the armed forces. So glad > I got the job at the VA. I only hope I can serve them as much as they > have served me hehe. Sounds so cheezy, but it's very true. > > Thanks again all. > > Mia! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2012 Report Share Posted January 23, 2012 Hi Nurse Mia!, Congratulations! What a shining moment for you! I'm so proud of you and you really, truly give me hope that nada's wounding words don't have to define me at all. Thanks for sharing this with us; it is an honor. Fiona > > " You? A nurse? I wouldn't let you take care of my dog, let alone ME. > You're too stupid to be a nurse. " > > Said my nada 15 years ago. > > I know I all ready told you guys that I passed my boards and am officially > a nurse, but last night was my pinning & graduation. I was shocked, in > awe, and honored to be presented with the Program Director's Award for > Practical Nursing. WOW. > > I know my program director said VERY nice things, but I was so shocked & > nervous, I CAN'T REMEMBER A WORD! lol!!!! This from the student who hung > on every word her instructors spoke during lecture. Oy! > > I am very humbled & honored, but in some ways, I just kind of grin & think, > " in your face, nada. In your face! " I think I finally, officially, > really-really have closure on that statement nada made 15 years ago. > Receiving that award really validated that I am neither incompetent nor > stupid. Still a little nervous about getting out into the workforce very > soon, but the excitement wins over that nervousness. > > So I think i can put the horribleness of that statement forever to rest. > > Mia, the nurse! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2012 Report Share Posted January 23, 2012 I was your age when my parents divorced. My therapist told me to start screening my calls. That when my nada, especially, called that she was always ready to dump a load of crap in my ear about my dad and that I should call her back on MY terms. I also finally went off on her and my dad that I thought neither one of them was a very good spouse and that I would have divorced years ago if I had been married to someone that treated me the way they treated each other. I don't remember getting too much grief from either of them about this and its been eighteen years. I finally even had to put my dad in check about it. He was the " wronged " party since nada left him for another man. I finally just said, you know dad, she left you for someone else, but you can get down off that high horse, cause you drove her all the way there and opened the door for her as she got out! LIke I said, neither of them was a very good spouse. I hope you have a therapist. I found it very helpful and got a lot out of it. You should not, even as an adult child, have to listen to your parents criticize each other. I was lucky that my nada could not even TRY to tell me that my dad didn't care for me. I am a daddy's girl and have always had a pretty close relationship with him. C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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