Nada has been busy being a bitch

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Doing what she does best. This started earlier this week when I found out a

'helpful Hannah' relative had taken one of my FB posts to her and asked

questions.

I contacted the relative to ask her to NOT, to warn her that nada was using my

comments and her comments as cannon fodder. I ended up sharing more with the

relative than I ever planned to (but sharing it felt great!).

From there I speak to my Sis, who spills that nada has been telling everyone

that I am poisoning the grandchildren against her. The grandchildren are adults,

and I do not talk to them about this except of a need to know basis.

Nada gets a burr up her ass and she goes full victim mode, and I am tired of

being painted all black. Nada was a propaganda war, sh'e gonna have it. And I

guarantee she's got more to lose than do.

All this after I asked her to leave me in peace. But that's no fun for nada.

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sometimes I think that those are just the people that love having the first bit

of juicy gossip and like to carry it to others. I used to want to battle with

them and I used to want to explain my side of things, but then I just decided

that the ones I really cared about know me and know the real deal and i just

don't care about the others, not enough to be bothered. If people really believe

the stuff that falls outta nadas mouth, then so be it. I just choose not to

engage. I am done with it.

C

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I loathe these kind of situations.

Nada used to do this to me with her extended family. I refuse to get into it

anymore. It's just too stressful.

It sounds like your nada thrives on it, and how lame to drag your kids into it

who are grown-ups!

Exactly as you said, peace is no fun for them. The thrill is getting a reaction

out of us.

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> Doing what she does best. This started earlier this week when I found out a

'helpful Hannah' relative had taken one of my FB posts to her and asked

questions.

>

> I contacted the relative to ask her to NOT, to warn her that nada was using my

comments and her comments as cannon fodder. I ended up sharing more with the

relative than I ever planned to (but sharing it felt great!).

>

> From there I speak to my Sis, who spills that nada has been telling everyone

that I am poisoning the grandchildren against her. The grandchildren are adults,

and I do not talk to them about this except of a need to know basis.

>

> Nada gets a burr up her ass and she goes full victim mode, and I am tired of

being painted all black. Nada was a propaganda war, sh'e gonna have it. And I

guarantee she's got more to lose than do.

>

> All this after I asked her to leave me in peace. But that's no fun for nada.

>

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I, too hate situations such as these!!! Your damned no matter what you do,

or don't do!!!

My Nada, too, thrives on lies, manipulations, and propaganda! She has done

*everything *she can possibly do to destroy people whom she feels have

slighted her in some* small* way, the boy at the deli, the woman at the

cleaners, moving men, cleaning ladies, her own family......

BPD/NPDs live for revenge, are malicious beyond comprehension, and have

no conscience or boundaries, which means they will not stop at anything to

win. Then they expect everyone to feel sorry for them, or to laud them for

all their hard work.

In my unfortunate experience, all one can do is walk away from them.

Anything else is playing into their hands, and into their game, one,

unfortunately we cannot win, because we *do *have consciences, morals,

boundaries, empathy and compassion. Dang!!! Its not worth giving these

treasured virtues up just to win (or try ) to win a dog fight with a

werewolf. First of all, You *can't *win., but if you did, it would be at

tremendous cost, to who and what you are, as a person, as a true human

being.

OOOOH, but how many nights I've spent dreaming of the battle, I simply can

no longer count. I know now, I simply have to walk away from all of her

batshit weirdness. In a way, perhaps this is the biggest victory of all, to

just " not play " her stupid game. Cheat her out of the thrill!!!!!

Best of Luck. Sunspot

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> I loathe these kind of situations.

> Nada used to do this to me with her extended family. I refuse to get into

> it anymore. It's just too stressful.

>

> It sounds like your nada thrives on it, and how lame to drag your kids

> into it who are grown-ups!

>

> Exactly as you said, peace is no fun for them. The thrill is getting a

> reaction out of us.

>

>

>

> >

> > Doing what she does best. This started earlier this week when I found

> out a 'helpful Hannah' relative had taken one of my FB posts to her and

> asked questions.

> >

> > I contacted the relative to ask her to NOT, to warn her that nada was

> using my comments and her comments as cannon fodder. I ended up sharing

> more with the relative than I ever planned to (but sharing it felt great!).

> >

> > From there I speak to my Sis, who spills that nada has been telling

> everyone that I am poisoning the grandchildren against her. The

> grandchildren are adults, and I do not talk to them about this except of a

> need to know basis.

> >

> > Nada gets a burr up her ass and she goes full victim mode, and I am

> tired of being painted all black. Nada was a propaganda war, sh'e gonna

> have it. And I guarantee she's got more to lose than do.

> >

> > All this after I asked her to leave me in peace. But that's no fun for

> nada.

> >

>

>

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This is exactly why I deleted every aunt, uncle, cousin on my nada's side of the

family from Facebook and then went and deleted ALL of our mutual friends (38

just from that)!

Many of them were doing just that. Stalking my profile, giving her THEIR

passwords so she could stalk MY profile, telling her information about me, etc.

It got to where she was starting to branch out into mutual friends - youth

pastors from when I was a kid, people we knew 20+ years ago....prowling for

people who would give her info about me.

So any friend of mine on Facebook that had any tie whatsoever with my nada got

the boot from me. And I never looked back. It has been SO NICE.

Facebook is the perfect medium for a BP to spread their poison. GACK.

Sorry you are having to deal with this!! ((HUGS))

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> > > Doing what she does best. This started earlier this week when I found

> > out a 'helpful Hannah' relative had taken one of my FB posts to her and

> > asked questions.

> > >

> > > I contacted the relative to ask her to NOT, to warn her that nada was

> > using my comments and her comments as cannon fodder. I ended up sharing

> > more with the relative than I ever planned to (but sharing it felt great!).

> > >

> > > From there I speak to my Sis, who spills that nada has been telling

> > everyone that I am poisoning the grandchildren against her. The

> > grandchildren are adults, and I do not talk to them about this except of a

> > need to know basis.

> > >

> > > Nada gets a burr up her ass and she goes full victim mode, and I am

> > tired of being painted all black. Nada was a propaganda war, sh'e gonna

> > have it. And I guarantee she's got more to lose than do.

> > >

> > > All this after I asked her to leave me in peace. But that's no fun for

> > nada.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

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Your story makes my head spin! I am so glad to have a very small family.

>

> This is exactly why I deleted every aunt, uncle, cousin on my nada's side of

the family from Facebook and then went and deleted ALL of our mutual friends

(38 just from that)!

>

> Many of them were doing just that. Stalking my profile, giving her THEIR

passwords so she could stalk MY profile, telling her information about me, etc.

>

> It got to where she was starting to branch out into mutual friends - youth

pastors from when I was a kid, people we knew 20+ years ago....prowling for

people who would give her info about me.

>

> So any friend of mine on Facebook that had any tie whatsoever with my nada got

the boot from me. And I never looked back. It has been SO NICE.

>

> Facebook is the perfect medium for a BP to spread their poison. GACK.

>

> Sorry you are having to deal with this!! ((HUGS))

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