Re: she is big, i am little

[Guest guest]

Cassie,

Good for you for getting help, going to therapy and not repeating your nada's

mistakes. That takes courage and a lot of discipline and love for your own kids.

Be sure to treat yourself kindly.

>

> went to therapy today. during the session, on the subject of inner child who

never got to be a child and still needs/wants to have her chance, she had me

repeat, " she is big, i am little " . " she " is nada.

>

> nada is big; i am little.

> nada is big; i am little.

>

> it wasn't my job or place or purpose to take care of or protect or entertain

or anything else to nada. big people take care of themselves. big people do

not make pawns of little kids. big people keep big problems to themselves

instead of presenting them to the child as if the child should DO something

about them, and DO IT NOW.

>

> my son's biggest worry every day is, " how soon can i get my have-to's done so

i can go play? " and i don't even know what play is.

>

> but i'm determined to learn. i'm going to let the little one have her chance.

>

> Cassie

>

>

[Guest guest]

cassie,

i hope you can give your inner child a big hug from the wonderful, loving,

supportive adult you have become.

she needs to know it's safe now and she will never be alone again - especially

with nada.

hugs to you and kudos for you walking through this tough stuff.

charlotte

>

> went to therapy today. during the session, on the subject of inner child who

never got to be a child and still needs/wants to have her chance, she had me

repeat, " she is big, i am little " . " she " is nada.

>

> nada is big; i am little.

> nada is big; i am little.

>

> it wasn't my job or place or purpose to take care of or protect or entertain

or anything else to nada. big people take care of themselves. big people do

not make pawns of little kids. big people keep big problems to themselves

instead of presenting them to the child as if the child should DO something

about them, and DO IT NOW.

>

> my son's biggest worry every day is, " how soon can i get my have-to's done so

i can go play? " and i don't even know what play is.

>

> but i'm determined to learn. i'm going to let the little one have her chance.

>

> Cassie

>

>

[Guest guest]

What charlotte said. " Like " J I agree we need a Like Button or something

LOL

I think we all have an inner child that needs a big hug

(((HUGS)))

~~Velvet_Tears74~~

Whatever it takes.....

From: WTOAdultChildren1

[mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of retrofitresale

Sent: Wednesday, July 13, 2011 12:57 AM

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Subject: Re: she is big, i am little

cassie,

i hope you can give your inner child a big hug from the wonderful, loving,

supportive adult you have become.

she needs to know it's safe now and she will never be alone again -

especially with nada.

hugs to you and kudos for you walking through this tough stuff.

charlotte

>

> went to therapy today. during the session, on the subject of inner child

who never got to be a child and still needs/wants to have her chance, she

had me repeat, " she is big, i am little " . " she " is nada.

>

> nada is big; i am little.

> nada is big; i am little.

>

> it wasn't my job or place or purpose to take care of or protect or

entertain or anything else to nada. big people take care of themselves.

big people do not make pawns of little kids. big people keep big problems

to themselves instead of presenting them to the child as if the child should

DO something about them, and DO IT NOW.

>

> my son's biggest worry every day is, " how soon can i get my have-to's done

so i can go play? " and i don't even know what play is.

>

> but i'm determined to learn. i'm going to let the little one have her

chance.

>

> Cassie

>

>

[Guest guest]

Good girl!

Let that little one ROAR!!! It's been a long time coming, and your determination

is something I truly admire.

Your little self is in for a treat . . . and so are you. :-)

Blessings,

Karla

>

> went to therapy today.  during the session, on the subject of inner child who

never got to be a child and still needs/wants to have her chance, she had me

repeat, " she is big, i am little " .  " she " is nada. 

>

> nada is big; i am little.

> nada is big; i am little.

>

> it wasn't my job or place or purpose to take care of or protect or entertain

or anything else to nada.  big people take care of themselves.  big people do

not make pawns of little kids.  big people keep big problems to themselves

instead of presenting them to the child as if the child should DO something

about them, and DO IT NOW. 

>

> my son's biggest worry every day is, " how soon can i get my have-to's done so

i can go play? "   and i don't even know what play is.

>

> but i'm determined to learn.  i'm going to let the little one have her

chance. 

>  

> Cassie

>

>

[Guest guest]

first assignment from therapist is to write a letter to the little self. then

the little self gets to reply with her own letter. and big self does NOT reply

back. little self gets last word.Â

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very validating...to borrow a term from one of our bpd's fave concepts!

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Cassie

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Wednesday, July 13, 2011 5:56 PM

Subject: Re: she is big, i am little

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Good girl!

Let that little one ROAR!!! It's been a long time coming, and your determination

is something I truly admire.

Your little self is in for a treat . . . and so are you. :-)

Blessings,

Karla

>

> went to therapy today. during the session, on the subject of inner child

who never got to be a child and still needs/wants to have her chance, she had me

repeat, " she is big, i am little " . " she " is nada.Â

>

> nada is big; i am little.

> nada is big; i am little.

>

> it wasn't my job or place or purpose to take care of or protect or entertain

or anything else to nada. big people take care of themselves. big people do

not make pawns of little kids. big people keep big problems to themselves

instead of presenting them to the child as if the child should DO something

about them, and DO IT NOW.Â

>

> my son's biggest worry every day is, " how soon can i get my have-to's done so

i can go play? " Â and i don't even know what play is.

>

> but i'm determined to learn.  i'm going to let the little one have her

chance.Â

> Â

> Cassie

>

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