Dealing with people reactions for our children's behavior

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Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it.

To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.

In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.

How do you folks handle such scenes?

Many thanks in advance.Noel

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Can you get a small trampoline for the apartment? We were able to get an indoor one for less than 99$ at Walmart, has it's own safety net/cage. It does require a bit of room but is definitely do-able indoors!

 

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it.

To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.

In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.

How do you folks handle such scenes?

Many thanks in advance.Noel

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oh Noel...yes that sucks. how do i deal with it? maybe i should not say..I have thoughts of throwing people off buildings ..but i guess that is not dealing with it in a proper way.

I got nothing. im sorry. it pisses me off to no end the lack of understanding and compassion in some people.

last xmas we were thrown out off church on christmas eve. my son only sang quitly to himself while the story of jesus was being told. oh no..that was not acceptable for these good christians. i was forced to leave the church in tears with my son.

the last place I lived we were thrown out because the old drunk who lived downstairs kept complaining about my son.

I tried to tell her maybe if she didnt drink so much then her morning hangover wouldnt make any noise so unbearable. that did not help AT ALL.

so I ended up finding a bottom floor apartment that we are living in now.. so far all is well..God finds a way for us.

take heart God will find a way for you and your family too.

it is not easy constantly having to defend yourself and your kid ...sigh. I guess that is why you are a warrior dad:)

To: mb12valtrex ; VerbalBehavior Sent: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 4:41 PMSubject: Dealing with people reactions for our children's behavior

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it. To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the

moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.How do you folks handle such scenes?Many thanks in advance.Noel

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Would one of those mimi trampolines help?Virginia 341-22nd Street West Owen Sound ON N4K 4E9Subject: Re: Dealing with people reactions for our children's behaviorTo: "mb12valtrex " <mb12valtrex >Date: Tuesday, September 20, 2011, 7:08 PM

oh Noel...yes that sucks. how do i deal with it? maybe i should not say..I have thoughts of throwing people off buildings ..but i guess that is not dealing with it in a proper way.

I got nothing. im sorry. it pisses me off to no end the lack of understanding and compassion in some people.

last xmas we were thrown out off church on christmas eve. my son only sang quitly to himself while the story of jesus was being told. oh no..that was not acceptable for these good christians. i was forced to leave the church in tears with my son.

the last place I lived we were thrown out because the old drunk who lived downstairs kept complaining about my son.

I tried to tell her maybe if she didnt drink so much then her morning hangover wouldnt make any noise so unbearable. that did not help AT ALL.

so I ended up finding a bottom floor apartment that we are living in now.. so far all is well..God finds a way for us.

take heart God will find a way for you and your family too.

it is not easy constantly having to defend yourself and your kid ...sigh. I guess that is why you are a warrior dad:)

To: mb12valtrex ; VerbalBehavior Sent: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 4:41 PMSubject: Dealing with people reactions for our children's behavior

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it. To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the

moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.How do you folks handle such scenes?Many thanks in advance.Noel

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Noel,Ignore the second lady. Her problem.As for your neighbor, I would avoid WWIII. Make friends if at all possible. Write a note explaining situation and take cookies. This may seem like a crazy idea but you always catch more flies with honey. Your humility and kindness should embarrass him into being kind. If he is still a jerk you will feel much better about ignoring him- after all... You tried :)I hope this is useful!Sent from my iPhone

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it.

To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.

In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.

How do you folks handle such scenes?

Many thanks in advance.Noel

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Thanks everyone for suggestions.We considered trampoline but the apartment is rather small and we are worried that the vibrations could lead to more troubles, even though the trampolines have springs..

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I will deliberate over your suggestion. Honestly, I don't feel like it, still not a bad idea.

@ Channa,We are in the process of finding new apartment as well but the school district is very important to us. Our school district is rather small with all wooden floor apartments in the neighborhood...

/ Noel

 

Noel,Ignore the second lady. Her problem.As for your neighbor, I would avoid WWIII. Make friends if at all possible. Write a note explaining situation and take cookies. This may seem like a crazy idea but you always catch more flies with honey. Your humility and kindness should embarrass him into being kind. If he is still a jerk you will feel much better about ignoring him- after all... You tried

I hope this is useful!Sent from my iPhone

 

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it.

To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.

In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.

How do you folks handle such scenes?

Many thanks in advance.Noel

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Noel,Ignore the second lady. Her problem.As for your neighbor, I would avoid WWIII. Make friends if at all possible. Write a note explaining situation and take cookies. This may seem like a crazy idea but you always catch more flies with honey. Your humility and kindness should embarrass him into being kind. If he is still a jerk you will feel much better about ignoring him- after all... You tried :)I hope this is useful!Sent from my iPhone

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it.

To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.

In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.

How do you folks handle such scenes?

Many thanks in advance.Noel

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Hi,It nis very difficult sometimes, but as others said it is easier to deal with ignorant people with kindness.I had some really bad experiences, and I swallow all my anger and went to people and explain it in person, was very kind to them , brought them cookies muffin what now, and now they are the biggest advocate about autism. It took some work, and it felt like  i will never succeed , but i did.

There will be times when doesn't matter what you do it will never be good for the people, and they will remain ignorant. that is the time when i say " ignore the ignorant. " It is not easy, but  trust me we have to stand up fr our kids b/c if we don't no one will., and we need to stop moving around to accommodate others, because if you start doing tat you will be moving for the rest of your life.

Good luck to you.tunde

 

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To: mb12valtrex Sent: Wednesday, September 21, 2011 9:39 AM

Subject: Re: Dealing with people reactions for our children's behavior

 

Noel,Ignore the second lady. Her problem.As for your neighbor, I would avoid WWIII. Make friends if at all possible. Write a note explaining situation and take cookies. This may seem like a crazy idea but you always catch more flies with honey. Your humility and kindness should embarrass him into being kind. If he is still a jerk you will feel much better about ignoring him- after all... You tried

I hope this is useful!Sent from my iPhone

 

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it.

To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.

In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.

How do you folks handle such scenes?

Many thanks in advance.Noel

-- " Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. " MLK

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Noel, they have free-standing swings that set up and come apart easily.Give it a google.-TammyTo: mb12valtrex Sent: Wednesday, September 21, 2011 5:49 PMSubject: Re: Dealing with people reactions for our children's behavior

Thanks everyone for suggestions.We considered trampoline but the apartment is rather small and we are worried that the vibrations could lead to more troubles, even though the trampolines have springs..

@ ,

I will deliberate over your suggestion. Honestly, I don't feel like it, still not a bad idea.

@ Channa,We are in the process of finding new apartment as well but the school district is very important to us. Our school district is rather small with all wooden floor apartments in the neighborhood...

/ Noel

Noel,Ignore the second lady. Her problem.As for your neighbor, I would avoid WWIII. Make friends if at all possible. Write a note explaining situation and take cookies. This may seem like a crazy idea but you always catch more flies with honey. Your humility and kindness should embarrass him into being kind. If he is still a jerk you will feel much better about ignoring him- after all... You tried

I hope this is useful!Sent from my iPhone

Hello folks,I would like to know how you folks deal with the reaction of the part of the society that is incompetent or uninterested in understanding autistic kid and give a 'reaction' to their behavior that gets your anger through roof, yet you can't show it.

To give you 2 examples, we live in an apartment complex with wooden ceiling/floors. These ceiling/floors are paper thin, so when my hyperactive son jumps around, the guy downstairs starts banging his ceiling/our floor. We have told him that he is autistic and we are trying our level best so that his jumping is not too much so that both of us can live in harmony. (We are indeed trying our level best, so we got him addicted to iPod/iPad, not the best solution but thats the best we can do at the moment) For a couple of months, he was fine but then started again. Talking to the development manager is like talking to a deaf person. I even considered calling cops for harassment a couple of times. I agree that he gets bothered but we can't really do much, we can't beat up our kid.. We are trying to move but till the lease ends, the hassle remains.

In second incidence, we attended a community gathering where there were many kids of his age (3 years). At one point, everyone needed to be silent (for prayers) but our son was running around, One woman told my son 3 times to stop running and then asked my wife to take him outside. My wife told her the problem, yet she insisted that she should take him outside. I was very very annoyed but kept quite.

How do you folks handle such scenes?

Many thanks in advance.Noel