video or voice recording???

[Guest guest]

So, I had another episode where *I* am not remembering the way things really

happened...I sarcastically thought to myself I should tape our conversations so

I could bring them back up when *I* forget the way things really happened...UGH.

I already refuse to be alone with her, refuse to supervise play dates w/o

another adult there, limit discussion via phone, and I send an email

confirmation/follow up to agreements, arrangements, appointments that we make

right away just so I can avoid the gas lighting. It really helps, but it's not

solving the whole issue (does anything ever ???)

Has anyone actually tried recording their interactions with BPD? I've thought

about a nanny cam and I've thought about just turning on my laptop camera to

run. I'd even be happy only recording when we have to 'sit down and discuss'

issues. Actually, I'm going to start doing that one! And I'm seriously thinking

about video documenting her play dates just in case she ever pulls a distortion

campaign, makes accusations, takes us to court, or things of the sort. The more

I read, the more horrified/at home I feel. And the more my eyes are opened to

the unimaginable. Anyhow, anyone else out there try it? How'd it work??? Wish

they had???

Laua

[Guest guest]

I've video recorded my nada a couple of times from my phone ranting at a sibling

or cussing them out. My dad has a few audio recordings on his phone too. I could

see it being helpful for a distortion campaign/getting rid of flying monkeys. Or

it might just add to the drama and makes everything worse. The only thing I've

used it for is reminding myself whenever that FOG rolls in that THIS is what I'm

dealing with. Am I really gonna be sucked back into that?

As far as using it in court, you'll have to see what the laws for recording are

in your state. Some states require you to have her permission (2 party consent,

one party is you and the other is her), and some only require 1 party to

consent.

> So, I had another episode where *I* am not remembering the way things really

happened...I sarcastically thought to myself I should tape our conversations so

I could bring them back up when *I* forget the way things really happened...UGH.

I already refuse to be alone with her, refuse to supervise play dates w/o

another adult there, limit discussion via phone, and I send an email

confirmation/follow up to agreements, arrangements, appointments that we make

right away just so I can avoid the gas lighting. It really helps, but it's not

solving the whole issue (does anything ever ???)

>

> Has anyone actually tried recording their interactions with BPD? I've thought

about a nanny cam and I've thought about just turning on my laptop camera to

run. I'd even be happy only recording when we have to 'sit down and discuss'

issues. Actually, I'm going to start doing that one! And I'm seriously thinking

about video documenting her play dates just in case she ever pulls a distortion

campaign, makes accusations, takes us to court, or things of the sort. The more

I read, the more horrified/at home I feel. And the more my eyes are opened to

the unimaginable. Anyhow, anyone else out there try it? How'd it work??? Wish

they had???

> Laua

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