The situation is changing rapidly

[Guest guest]

Hi friends,

I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be having

a series of strokes.

Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what year

it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period so

hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

Its just so freaking sad.

This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

-Annie

[Guest guest]

My thoughts are with you during this sad time.

On Fri, Jul 15, 2011 at 7:20 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

> **

>

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

> within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and

> be with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

> having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

> year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

> bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond

> to any questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation

> period so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help

> with the hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she

> is no longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

> hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as

> hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted

> into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see

> him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his

> bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So

> little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody

> deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

We're thinking of you Annie. Compassion is what saves us.

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Annie

I want to say we will all be thinking of you, and you will be missed here. I

hope your trip is as peaceful as possible.

(Sorry if my post appears twice - you know what the yahoo is like lately,

already lost one tonight.)

_Terri

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Annie,

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I hope things are resolved

as best as possible. I don't wish helplessness and suffering on

anyone, including nadas.

At 07:20 PM 07/15/2011 anuria67854 wrote:

>Hi friends,

>

>I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is

>likely that within the next few days or weeks I will need to be

>at my Sister's side, and be with nada.

>

>Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may

>possibly be having a series of strokes.

>

>Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or

>season, or what year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost

>control of her bowels and bladder. Sister says she sometimes

>completely zones out and doesn't respond to any questions at

>all.

>

>Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day

>observation period so hopefully they might be able to get her

>on meds that will help with the hallucinations. Nada has also

>been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no longer physically

>attacking those around her.

>

>Its just so freaking sad.

>

>This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad

>dying in the hospital, and watching him being alternately in

>pain, zoned out, angry as hell, and begging to be released...

>all silently as he had a hose inserted into his windpipe for

>breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him

>suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next

>to his bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with

>water. Reading to him. So little could be done. I hope my

>nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

>this world in fear and pain.

>

>-Annie

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

Annie, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. My only hope is that perhaps

things will be easier to deal with in a way, now that your nada's illness may be

pronounced enough for the mental health professionals to deal with her.

My thoughts are with you while you go through this situation.

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Annie,

So sorry you're faced with this - it's bad enough with an easy parent , but with

a nada - geesh. Is she also under the care of a neurologist? It doesn't sound

good, that's for sure. Hopefully your sister will get the situation under

control soon, and without needing you there.

Em

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no longer

physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be done.

I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave this

world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Anne,

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Annie, you're in my thoughts and prayers.

On Fri, Jul 15, 2011 at 6:20 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

> **

>

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

> within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and

> be with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

> having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

> year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

> bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond

> to any questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation

> period so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help

> with the hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she

> is no longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

> hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as

> hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted

> into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see

> him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his

> bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So

> little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody

> deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Annie: We'll miss you!  Hurry back...  dw

> **

>

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

> within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and

> be with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

> having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

> year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

> bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond

> to any questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation

> period so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help

> with the hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she

> is no longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

> hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as

> hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted

> into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see

> him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his

> bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So

> little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody

> deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

>

> 

>

[Guest guest]

Prayer, hugs, and my warmest sympathy extend to you and yours. Nada or not,

watching a parent's life end is traumatic. Take gentle care of yourself

please.

Cassie

Sent via DROID on Verizon Wireless

The situation is changing rapidly

Hi friends,

I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and

be with nada.

Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't

respond to any questions at all.

Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

Its just so freaking sad.

This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as

hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted

into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see

him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his

bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So

little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that.

Nobody deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

-Annie

[Guest guest]

(((Annie))), I'm so sorry for all this, and as well, that you went through it

with your dad, too. We'll miss you. I'll be thinking of you and your sister.

Fiona

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Annie,

My thoughts will be with you and you will be missed.

BB

> (((Annie))), I'm so sorry for all this, and as well, that you went through

it with your dad, too. We'll miss you. I'll be thinking of you and your

sister.

>

> Fiona

>

>

>>

>> Hi friends,

>>

>> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely

that within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's

side, and be with nada.

>>

>> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>>

>> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or

what year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond

to any questions at all.

>>

>> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation

period so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help

with the hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she

is no longer physically attacking those around her.

>>

>> Its just so freaking sad.

>>

>> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in

the hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry

as hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose

inserted into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible

to see him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to

his bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him.

So little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that.

Nobody deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

>>

>> -Annie

>>

>

>

[Guest guest]

What a difficult time this is for you. I wish I knew what to say to make it

easier. Do what you feel you have to do but don't forget that her misery, her

choices were her own. Someone told us that the way you live is the way you die.

Unfortunately for your nada (and mine) they will leave unhappy and without a lot

of love surrounding them. Take care of yourself. Our hugs go with you.

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Annie,

Bless you on this most difficult journey. We hold you in our hearts,

gentle Annie, strong and fierce, may grace light your path, and bring you,

and your loved ones, strength, peace, and resolution.

Sunspot

On Sat, Jul 16, 2011 at 12:07 AM, Holly Lipschultz <

hollymichellebyers@...> wrote:

> Annie, you're in my thoughts and prayers.

>

> On Fri, Jul 15, 2011 at 6:20 PM, anuria67854 <anuria-67854@...

> >wrote:

>

> > **

> >

> >

> > Hi friends,

> >

> > I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely

> that

> > within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side,

> and

> > be with nada.

> >

> > Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

> > having a series of strokes.

> >

> > Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or

> what

> > year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

> > bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't

> respond

> > to any questions at all.

> >

> > Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation

> > period so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help

> > with the hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so

> she

> > is no longer physically attacking those around her.

> >

> > Its just so freaking sad.

> >

> > This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in

> the

> > hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as

> > hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose

> inserted

> > into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to

> see

> > him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his

> > bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him.

> So

> > little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that.

> Nobody

> > deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

> >

> > -Annie

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

1,000 hugs and thoughts of support

> **

>

>

> Dear Annie,

>

> Bless you on this most difficult journey. We hold you in our hearts,

> gentle Annie, strong and fierce, may grace light your path, and bring you,

> and your loved ones, strength, peace, and resolution.

>

> Sunspot

>

>

> On Sat, Jul 16, 2011 at 12:07 AM, Holly Lipschultz <

> hollymichellebyers@...> wrote:

>

> > Annie, you're in my thoughts and prayers.

> >

> > On Fri, Jul 15, 2011 at 6:20 PM, anuria67854 <anuria-67854@...

> > >wrote:

> >

> > > **

> > >

> > >

> > > Hi friends,

> > >

> > > I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely

> > that

> > > within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's

> side,

> > and

> > > be with nada.

> > >

> > > Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly

> be

> > > having a series of strokes.

> > >

> > > Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or

> > what

> > > year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

> > > bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't

> > respond

> > > to any questions at all.

> > >

> > > Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation

> > > period so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will

> help

> > > with the hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med

> so

> > she

> > > is no longer physically attacking those around her.

> > >

> > > Its just so freaking sad.

> > >

> > > This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in

> > the

> > > hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry

> as

> > > hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose

> > inserted

> > > into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to

> > see

> > > him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to

> his

> > > bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him.

> > So

> > > little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that.

> > Nobody

> > > deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

> > >

> > > -Annie

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Annie,

{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}} I had no idea you nada was deteriorating sooo fast. I'll be

thinking of you.

Carla

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Do whatever you need to do Annie, and know you will be in my thoughts. I wish

you strength during this painful time.

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely that

within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's side, and be

with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and bladder.

Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond to any

questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation period

so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help with the

hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she is no

longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as hell,

and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted into his

windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see him suffering

and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his bed, rubbing his

feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So little could be

done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody deserves to leave

this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Annie I just want to add my thoughts and wishes for you for peace and

healing with everything you are going through. I can't imagine this place you

are in -- even knowing I will be there myself some day. It's a terrifying

thought, but you are so strong and I know that with the help of your sister

and your own inner light -- you will get through it... and knowing you,

you'll thrive and help others with your experience as well. ;-)

Thank you for all you do for us here - we'll miss you!!

*Star

[Guest guest]

Annie, I just wanted to drop a note and wish you well during this difficult

time. You are such a bright spot among us, always helpful and kind. Please take

care of yourself during this time and treat yourself gently. We will be thinking

of you and waiting for your return.

Affectionately,

AFB

[Guest guest]

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time.

Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry to hear this Annie (((((Hugs)))))) to you and your Sister

Love and Light

~~Velvet_Tears74~~

Whatever it takes.....

From: WTOAdultChildren1

[mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of Fiona

Sent: Saturday, July 16, 2011 5:51 AM

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Subject: Re: The situation is changing rapidly

(((Annie))), I'm so sorry for all this, and as well, that you went through

it with your dad, too. We'll miss you. I'll be thinking of you and your

sister.

Fiona

>

> Hi friends,

>

> I may vanish suddenly from the Group for a while, because it is likely

that within the next few days or weeks I will need to be at my Sister's

side, and be with nada.

>

> Nada's deterioration is speeding up; Sister believes she may possibly be

having a series of strokes.

>

> Nada is conscious but no longer aware of the day, month or season, or what

year it is, can't stand or walk and has lost control of her bowels and

bladder. Sister says she sometimes completely zones out and doesn't respond

to any questions at all.

>

> Right now, nada is at a psychiatric hospital for a 14-day observation

period so hopefully they might be able to get her on meds that will help

with the hallucinations. Nada has also been given an anti-anxiety med so she

is no longer physically attacking those around her.

>

> Its just so freaking sad.

>

> This is bringing back the anguish of experiencing my dear dad dying in the

hospital, and watching him being alternately in pain, zoned out, angry as

hell, and begging to be released... all silently as he had a hose inserted

into his windpipe for breathing and couldn't speak. It was horrible to see

him suffering and not be able to do a damned thing except be next to his

bed, rubbing his feet, getting him a sponge with water. Reading to him. So

little could be done. I hope my nada doesn't have to go through that. Nobody

deserves to leave this world in fear and pain.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Annie, I wanted to echo the many wishes for comfort and peace and strength. And

to thank you for all you do for everyone here. Your kindness and wisdom has

been more helpful than you can know. I hope you feel that back tenfold.

Take good care. Chris

>

> Annie I just want to add my thoughts and wishes for you for peace and

> healing with everything you are going through. I can't imagine this place

you

> are in -- even knowing I will be there myself some day. It's a terrifying

> thought, but you are so strong and I know that with the help of your sister

> and your own inner light -- you will get through it... and knowing you,

> you'll thrive and help others with your experience as well. ;-)

>

> Thank you for all you do for us here - we'll miss you!!

>

> *Star

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Girlscout, and everyone here for being so kind and supportive.

It is hard to go through this decline of my nada's. Neither Sister nor I

expected her to get hit with Alzheimer's; nobody else in nada's family ever got

it. But then, nobody else in nada's foo has personality disorder, either. It

makes me wonder if possibly the two are connected, somehow?

Its just sad. All of it. Its sad to have to go no contact with a parent who

can't stop being emotionally abusive toward you, and its sad to find that the

abusive parent now has dementia and is experiencing bewildering, terrifying

hallucinations sometimes, and doesn't really understand what's going on or

what's happening to her any longer. Its as sad as when a toddler has to undergo

painful medical procedures and you can't explain it to them and they're just

nearly hysterical with fear; they lack the capacity to understand that the

medical procedure is helping them, and their fear is pitiful.

I'm just so incredibly grateful that my Sister is able and willing to manage

this process, manage nada's care issues without me providing anything except

verbal support by phone and by e-mail. Sister said that she was only able to do

this because a couple of years ago she completely emotionally detached from our

nada. She had to. Sister was determined to be there for nada, even though nada

was usually not nice to Sister, not appreciative, and instead would criticize

Sister, accuse Sister of ugly things she didn't do or say, and generally be

horrid, with a few periods of being nice sandwiched between, here and there.

Which is the way nada has always behaved toward Sister. But the unrelenting

nature of the emotional abuse was tearing Sister apart.

Through a compassionate therapist, Sister realized that it was OK to completely

emotionally detach. So Sister just thinks of our mother as one of her clients

now, and does not feel any guilt or any responsibility to make nada happy.

My Sister is the real hero in all this. My little Sister, the little

scapegoated child of our family who actually chose to retire to her parent's

part of the country to be near them and help them as they aged, who was

criticized, vilified and mistreated by them instead of praised and honored for

her selfless act of kindness. I am nominating my Sister for sainthood,

honestly. She is an angel.

-Annie

> >

> > Annie I just want to add my thoughts and wishes for you for peace and

> > healing with everything you are going through. I can't imagine this place

you

> > are in -- even knowing I will be there myself some day. It's a terrifying

> > thought, but you are so strong and I know that with the help of your sister

> > and your own inner light -- you will get through it... and knowing you,

> > you'll thrive and help others with your experience as well. ;-)

> >

> > Thank you for all you do for us here - we'll miss you!!

> >

> > *Star

> >

> >

> >