Re: Family Seperated Forever by BPD actions

February 3, 2012

You have to do what you think will work best for you, in your situation, but I

personally feel that in a case that involves another helpless person's welfare

and finances, that coming forward and telling the truth is the best policy.

If your bpd mother is a bully and does not have your grandmother's best

interests at heart, and actually plans to exploit your grandmother financially,

then, I personally would not want to be a part of that at all.

I think you will feel better about the whole thing if you consult with a lawyer,

yourself, on your own, without even mentioning this to your mother, and explain

the situation to the lawyer and get the lawyer's opinion on what your choices

and options are, and the consequences of each choice.

Best of luck to you, this sounds like a very horribly stressful and ugly

situation; I hope that whatever you choose to do it will come out well.

-Annie

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> My fist official post of BPD. I grew up with a mother whom has never been

officially diagnosed with BPD, but after reading Stop Walking on Eggshells,

there is NO DOUBT she is BPD...whew now i know what she has, i always labeled

her at bi polar, NOPE. My sister and i were beat, verbally abused and lied to

continually until i ran away at 15 and left my sister behind, because i was

going to commit suicide it was so bad.

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> Present time: my mom is pressuring me to lie about a Power of Attorney i

witnessed illegally due to her pushing me into it, there is a war going on

between my mom and my aunt(her sister) who has custody of my grandma whom has

dimentia and never got a POA or WILL done before she got sick, so everything is

a huge mess. My BPD mother thinks she is the queen and bosses everyone around

and lies to everyone and people believe her lies. I am so scared that i am going

to go to jail for signing a document illegally due to my mother's pursuant ways.

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> I wonder if the judge or lawyers will understand my mom is mentally ill or

will she fool them too. She says she cares about me and doesn't want to hurt me

and how she is the one hurting and how my aunt is manipulative and a horrible

person. I am so scared of my mom, i can't call my aunt to discuss what has

happened so we can resolve this outside of court. Its too detailed to type every

single detail of this situation so hopefully some of this makes some kind of

sense.

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> I am so frustrated.....i want to leave and never return to escape my BPD

mother..

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> thanks for reading

> Darlene

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February 3, 2012

Hi Darlene,

This sounds like my own mother and aunt! Except it was my aunt who got POA in

the end. You must remain safe, do whatever you need to do to stay safe. I would

only speak up if you must, and if you do make sure you are allowed to speak

without your mother present (or any of her flying monkeys eitehr).

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