Stood up for myself and got a good laugh

July 16, 2011

This is kind of a long story and has very little to do with my nada, except that

when someone broke my boundaries, I stood up for myself. So here's the story.

I had been living in my new place about 3 weeks when I came home from work and

saw that someone had hung their sweat clothes on my laundry line, in my

backyard. I was very surprised because, who would be hanging their stuff in my

backyard but me? Now a bit of background, I live on the corner of a large lot

owned by my landlord. He lives on the other corner, but we both have our own

lawns. I pay for watering mine every other day and I am responsible for it's

upkeep, so it is very much part of my rent and MY lawn. When I left LA, I

promised myself I would not allow encroaching neighbors to get their foothold

and make my life miserable again. My landlord has a basement apartment in his

home that he rents out as well.

Anyhow, so I assumed that the basement tenant maybe didn't realize I had moved

in yet, but I was livid. I was angry that someone would feel entitled to hang

their stuff in my backyard without even asking! I mean, honestly, it would be

one thing to ask, make a case for saving energy, etc., but still, without even

asking! So I walked over an knocked on his door. I tried to be nice, he said

that it was his stuff, and claimed that he had always done it before. And I was

just like, well, that was a deal you worked out with the previous tenant. It's

my space, I don't like people encroaching on my space. I tried to explain that I

had just moved from a place where I had no space so I was touchy on this issue.

He apologized nonchalantly and said he was moving soon anyways. I left with what

I thought was an understanding that he would at least ask before doing so again.

Well, I've been sick with strep throat the past 3 days. I looked out my window

yesterday afternoon and saw that he had hung his tent and rainfly on my laundry

line AND he left it there overnight! Now I would have gone and talked to him

about it, but I had no voice. So I pinned a note to his rainfly saying: You

should ASK before hanging your stuff on my laundry line. I pay for this lawn, so

you should ask.

I figured if he was putting stuff in my backyard, then I am free to do with it

as I wish. He basically abandoned it in my backyard, right?

So I had to run out to get more soup this morning, when I got back, he let me a

note that was very rude and said something like " god forbid I keep your lawn

from getting water " (clearly missing the point of ownership) and " don't pin

things to my rainfly " (um, if you put it in my backyard again, I'll do a lot

more than pin stuff to it) and " get real " .

I was really struck by the " get real " thing. He wants me to get real? He needs

to get real. It's my lawn and my line, not his. I could throw his stuff in the

trash for all I want. Talk about an entitled spoiled brat!

So I went to talk to my landlord about it. I apologized for the fuss and the

confrontation. Landlord is a very nice guy, knew I was sick, and said that other

tenant had told him he put the note at my front door. So, landlord is a bit of a

pushover. Landlord tells me that tenant has encroached on him too. Tenant just

moved out yesterday, I guess, but the apartment looks like it's never been

cleaned. So landlord says " I've taken pictures to send his father. " I do a

double-take and say " his father? is his father paying the rent? " Landlord

confirms this and I just start laughing. Well, no wonder! If daddy is paying

your rent, clearly you have no clue what a dollar costs and any clue what is

yours or not yours. What a spoiled little brat!

I feel bad for my landlord because apparently the tenant has left the apartment

in bad condition. I'm hoping I can help him find a good tenant who will treat

his property with respect. The last tenant in my house was less than respectful

of his property too.

Anyways, the short of it is, that someone disrespected my boundaries, and I

refused to let them do so. I swear that kid must be like narcissistic or

something, or maybe just a spoiled brat, but he clearly needs a rude awakening

to the real world. Seriously, it's so laughable, him telling me to get real. I

swear, I wish he was staying just a little while so I could throw his next bunch

of stuff on my laundry line in the garbage. Oooo, revenge would be so sweet. Oh

well, I guess I will have to settle for laughing at the little boy who thinks he

so smart with his " get real " line. What a loser! He doesn't even pay his own

rent! Hah!

Seriously, if this guy came to my door, I might just start laughing in his face.

He isn't even responsible for himself! OMG! What a joke!

Okay, I'm done. Thanks for listening. =)

July 16, 2011

that cracked me up, especially the part where you pinned the note to the

rainfly. LOLOLOL. He's lucky you didn't put it on the corner with a note saying

" free tent! " . Good for you for standing up for yourself. I am that way too,

gotta have my space. With me it is about my animals...my sister in law has been

trying for two years to finagle her way into utilizing my parents' backyard for

her own purposes, I have had to fight her every step of the way, because the

dogs that are here have been her for years. She has a 12 year old great dane

that stays in the bedroom most of the time aside from being walked several times

a day...he can have a nasty temperment and he hates me otherwise he would

probably be out here in the backyard too.

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> This is kind of a long story and has very little to do with my nada, except

that when someone broke my boundaries, I stood up for myself. So here's the

story.

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> I had been living in my new place about 3 weeks when I came home from work and