Guest guest Posted February 9, 2012 Report Share Posted February 9, 2012 I hear you. I get so aggravated and often triggered by stories of abuse, especially when the abuser denies it (like that one judge who hit and yelled at his daughter). I've finally had to either use a shell of myself in order to read these stories (like how I would disassociate a little bit when fada would yell at me), or just read the headline to know whether I should read the story or not. Often, I skip over it, just to save myself from getting triggered. This is one way I'm glad I don't have a TV--it saves me from accidentally watching news stories about these monsters. Those poor poor kids. But as their grandparents said, they're now in heaven with their mother. <3 > ** > > > I have been ready to throw things at my TV listening to that horrible > man's messages played over and over again on the news. This was the > ultimate of a person that was so deranged that he felt it was his right to > take his two young boys with him into a violent death. I have said words I > won't repeat here whent they play those messages " apologizing " about how he > can't go on without his boys. > > I've been having to mute or change the channel this angers me so much. Has > anyone else just wanted to scream at their TV about this monster's actions > and how it could have been prevented? I remember the parts of one of the > BPD books tha drew parralels of the worst end of the spectrum in cases like > that drowned her little boys. I can't help but think that this > case has some similarities except that this monster killed himself too. > > C > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2012 Report Share Posted February 9, 2012 I get enraged too when I hear of such things: children exploited, abused, or even murdered by their own parents (or by other sick, evil adults). I think part of my anger is from the feeling of helplessness, or frustration, knowing that abuse of children goes on continuously, all over the place, and sometimes the abuser's acts become extreme enough to make the news. I try to channel my anger in productive ways, like, doing charity work. Its a way to fight back. I think that getting involved and doing good deeds that benefit children can in at least some small way help balance the evil crap that is done to them. Here in my state, we are reeling with shock that an entire public elementary school was recently shut down, ALL the teachers, administrators and staff were dismissed and the school was just reopened with the ENTIRE employee/administration roster replaced, because of the multiple, long-standing allegations of sexual abuse and misconduct of the teachers & staff there plus the cover-up by the administration. The implication is that it wasn't just one teacher, it was several teachers and the administration knew of multiple abuse allegations over the years and did nothing about it, covered it up, until a child-molesting culture became endemic at the school, apparently. Its the public school equivalent of the pedophile priest issues the Catholic Church mishandled for decades (if not centuries) creating an endemic but covert pedophile culture within their organization. The bulk of the lawsuits have yet to hit the fan, so to speak. This will be in the news for a long time. Children are so vulnerable to abuse by their own parents, by their teachers and by other trusted adults (and by older children/teens). All we can do is try our best to be good parents and good aunts, grandparents, uncles, cousins, and neighbors, keep our ears and eyes open, and try to be a advocate and an emotional support for the children we know personally and for children in general by supporting organizations that help children, or organizations that are searching for cures for mental illnesses. So, my strategy to fight my own anger is: go out and commit random acts of kindness. -Annie > > I have been ready to throw things at my TV listening to that horrible man's messages played over and over again on the news. This was the ultimate of a person that was so deranged that he felt it was his right to take his two young boys with him into a violent death. I have said words I won't repeat here whent they play those messages " apologizing " about how he can't go on without his boys. > > I've been having to mute or change the channel this angers me so much. Has anyone else just wanted to scream at their TV about this monster's actions and how it could have been prevented? I remember the parts of one of the BPD books tha drew parralels of the worst end of the spectrum in cases like that drowned her little boys. I can't help but think that this case has some similarities except that this monster killed himself too. > > C > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2012 Report Share Posted February 10, 2012 Honestly, I tend to avoid these types of stories. But hearing about them is inevitable. My husband gets so upset hearing about these sorts of things and tells me, that's how I usually find out. He'll ask me if I'm ok and want to hear about it, and when I hear it " second hand " from him, it doesn't kill me as badly inside for some reason. So, I see the headlines and leave it at that. I know that's not really a good way to look at such stories on abuse, but they tear me up inside. Especially in cases when CPS has been involved and found things to be unsubstantiated in the past... until a parent kills the children, and everyone asks, " Why? " . Because CPS is under funded? Because CPS is under staffed & has a high turn over? Because CPS workers get so used to seeing horrible things that something that seems minor is considered unsubstantiated? I don't know the answer, but these are my thoughts. Anyway, it's all tragic, awful, disgusting, and heart wrenching. Mia > > > > I get enraged too when I hear of such things: children exploited, abused, or even murdered by their own parents (or by other sick, evil adults). I think part of my anger is from the feeling of helplessness, or frustration, knowing that abuse of children goes on continuously, all over the place, and sometimes the abuser's acts become extreme enough to make the news. > > I try to channel my anger in productive ways, like, doing charity work. Its a way to fight back. I think that getting involved and doing good deeds that benefit children can in at least some small way help balance the evil crap that is done to them. > > Here in my state, we are reeling with shock that an entire public elementary school was recently shut down, ALL the teachers, administrators and staff were dismissed and the school was just reopened with the ENTIRE employee/administration roster replaced, because of the multiple, long-standing allegations of sexual abuse and misconduct of the teachers & staff there plus the cover-up by the administration. > > The implication is that it wasn't just one teacher, it was several teachers and the administration knew of multiple abuse allegations over the years and did nothing about it, covered it up, until a child-molesting culture became endemic at the school, apparently. Its the public school equivalent of the pedophile priest issues the Catholic Church mishandled for decades (if not centuries) creating an endemic but covert pedophile culture within their organization. The bulk of the lawsuits have yet to hit the fan, so to speak. This will be in the news for a long time. > > Children are so vulnerable to abuse by their own parents, by their teachers and by other trusted adults (and by older children/teens). All we can do is try our best to be good parents and good aunts, grandparents, uncles, cousins, and neighbors, keep our ears and eyes open, and try to be a advocate and an emotional support for the children we know personally and for children in general by supporting organizations that help children, or organizations that are searching for cures for mental illnesses. > > So, my strategy to fight my own anger is: go out and commit random acts of kindness. > > -Annie > > > > > > > > I have been ready to throw things at my TV listening to that horrible man's messages played over and over again on the news. This was the ultimate of a person that was so deranged that he felt it was his right to take his two young boys with him into a violent death. I have said words I won't repeat here whent they play those messages " apologizing " about how he can't go on without his boys. > > > > I've been having to mute or change the channel this angers me so much. Has anyone else just wanted to scream at their TV about this monster's actions and how it could have been prevented? I remember the parts of one of the BPD books tha drew parralels of the worst end of the spectrum in cases like that drowned her little boys. I can't help but think that this case has some similarities except that this monster killed himself too. > > > > C > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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