New to Group and BPD: Therapist Question

[Guest guest]

I posted this in another PD group and then realized that I probably should have

posted it here. Any suggestions?

I recently learned that my *self-absorbed* nada is most likely BPD. Since

realizing this, I've had three sessions with a new therapist that seems to talk

AT me for 3/4 of the time. I've had therapists in the past that don't say

anything at all, but this is new to me. It seems to trigger some pain of the

long-winded lectures of childhood. I'm not sure if it's going to be helpful to

me in the long run. Does anyone else have experience with this kind of therapy?

Is it me or is it her? Any feedback at all is appreciated!!

[Guest guest]

pretty sure therapy is supposed to be about being guided in the right direction

and validated. sounds like time to find a new therapist.

C

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> I posted this in another PD group and then realized that I probably should

have posted it here. Any suggestions?

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> I recently learned that my *self-absorbed* nada is most likely BPD. Since

realizing this, I've had three sessions with a new therapist that seems to talk

AT me for 3/4 of the time. I've had therapists in the past that don't say

anything at all, but this is new to me. It seems to trigger some pain of the

long-winded lectures of childhood. I'm not sure if it's going to be helpful to

me in the long run. Does anyone else have experience with this kind of therapy?

Is it me or is it her? Any feedback at all is appreciated!!

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[Guest guest]

Definitely find a new therapist! It's important that the form of the

interaction feel safe and nurturing to you. When it's a matter of the

therapist's personal style being an issue it's best to move on. I've tried

talking to them about their style and good intentioned therapists will try to

amend it for a few sessions, but they eventually slip back because it's how they

naturally interact with clients. Everyone needs something different too. For

instance a very quiet non-responsive therapist triggers me like crazy. I need

one who is responsive and aware of where I'm at but doesn't try to dominate the

interaction.

Eliza

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> I posted this in another PD group and then realized that I probably should

have posted it here. Any suggestions?

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> I recently learned that my *self-absorbed* nada is most likely BPD. Since

realizing this, I've had three sessions with a new therapist that seems to talk

AT me for 3/4 of the time. I've had therapists in the past that don't say

anything at all, but this is new to me. It seems to trigger some pain of the

long-winded lectures of childhood. I'm not sure if it's going to be helpful to

me in the long run. Does anyone else have experience with this kind of therapy?

Is it me or is it her? Any feedback at all is appreciated!!

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[Guest guest]

Therapy should be about someone helping guide you to find healthy ways

of thinking, behaving, etc. Maybe I'm not following what you mean by

" talk at you " , but I am interpreting it as the therapist telling you

what you should & should not do. That's not really what therapy is

about. It's about helping the patient discover what's right for them,

IMO.

If you are uncomfortable, it might be worth looking into finding

another therapist. That's one thing I feel strongly about; therapy

should feel safe for the patient.

Good luck & good for you for taking a step in a good, healthy

direction by going to therapy. Sometimes it can take time to find the

right person, but I hope you'll continue fighting the good fight for

yourself, so to speak =)

Mia

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> I posted this in another PD group and then realized that I probably should

have posted it here. Any suggestions?

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> I recently learned that my *self-absorbed* nada is most likely BPD. Since

realizing this, I've had three sessions with a new therapist that seems to talk

AT me for 3/4 of the time. I've had therapists in the past that don't say

anything at all, but this is new to me. It seems to trigger some pain of the

long-winded lectures of childhood. I'm not sure if it's going to be helpful to

me in the long run. Does anyone else have experience with this kind of therapy?

Is it me or is it her? Any feedback at all is appreciated!!

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[Guest guest]

The T sounds like a dud. They are paid to listen to you, not the other way

around!

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> I posted this in another PD group and then realized that I probably should

have posted it here. Any suggestions?

>

> I recently learned that my *self-absorbed* nada is most likely BPD. Since

realizing this, I've had three sessions with a new therapist that seems to talk

AT me for 3/4 of the time. I've had therapists in the past that don't say

anything at all, but this is new to me. It seems to trigger some pain of the

long-winded lectures of childhood. I'm not sure if it's going to be helpful to

me in the long run. Does anyone else have experience with this kind of therapy?

Is it me or is it her? Any feedback at all is appreciated!!

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[Guest guest]

The most important thing about therapy is that you feel comfortable and free to

say what you need to without being judged. You are completely within your right

to find someone else if you don't feel comfortable.

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> I posted this in another PD group and then realized that I probably should

have posted it here. Any suggestions?

>

> I recently learned that my *self-absorbed* nada is most likely BPD. Since

realizing this, I've had three sessions with a new therapist that seems to talk

AT me for 3/4 of the time. I've had therapists in the past that don't say

anything at all, but this is new to me. It seems to trigger some pain of the

long-winded lectures of childhood. I'm not sure if it's going to be helpful to

me in the long run. Does anyone else have experience with this kind of therapy?

Is it me or is it her? Any feedback at all is appreciated!!

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